Bachelor(ette) Party

[Con Carne]

I work at a bar doing security. While there, I see plenty of people out on the town for their bachelor or bachelorette parties. Here's the catch, plenty of them will go out for the night and mess around with others, all while saying their significant others said its okay because it's their final chance to have "fun" before being tied down.
My question to you, Escapists. If you're getting married or are already married and have been through this, and your significant other went out for their bachelor/bachelorette party. Where do you draw the line? What is okay for them to do and what is not?

 

[child of lileth]

I'd say the same rules as usual. If they cheat in anyway, I'll probably leave them when I find out. If I was going to marry someone, I would at least hope they would be happy enough with me to not do something like that for such a stupid excuse though.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Anything goes

As long as its the same for my party.

 

[SturmDolch]

No. Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. This whole idea is so selfish. I don't see the difference between this and giving your future husband a carte blanche to beat the shit out of you before getting married because it's his last chance.

 

[rachel_who]

Cheating is wrong!! I think it s especially ridiculous that some people think it is ok to cheat on their bachelor/bachelorette party. The only reason they are having that party is because they are marrying someone that they (apparently) love and wish to spent the rest of their lives with, if they think starting that by being unfaithful is ok then more fool them.

I would not be happy to find out my man cheated on his bachelor party and i would certainly not give permission for him to do so!

 

[s0denone]

Anything goes

As long as its the same for my party.

Well said.

I really have nothing more to add. Whatever my significant other is allowed to do, I am allowed to do. The more the better, I'd say.

Anything goes

Would I have sex with one, possibly several(possible at once), people? Yes, certainly.

Marriage is a big commitment. It is the last night out, if everything works out, "alone". Then again, I could easily settle for just a little fun at a strip club, or something - just as long as it goes both ways.

 

[DazZ.]

It's their last night of freedom, whatever the hell they choose.

That's the point of the party.

 

[Cody211282]

Yea if any form of cheating goes on(and I am rather strict on what is cheating) I'll call off the wedding and get a hold of her parents and tell them what a ***** she is. I have already had one ex do this to my and my tolerance for it is nonexistent. Hell if I can have the self control not to hit on anyone else then I expect them to have the same.

I work at a bar doing security. While there, I see plenty of people out on the town for their bachelor or bachelorette parties. Here's the catch, plenty of them will go out for the night and mess around with others, all while saying their significant others said its okay because it's their final chance to have "fun" before being tied down.

I would also like to point out that if for some reason my soon to be wife said that I would call off the wedding as well. Why? Because if the only fun she thinks she can have is getting nailed by Mr. Random then I really missed the spot on that one.

 

[Dags90]

For our unfamiliar British members, bachelor and bachelorette parties are the same as stag and hen parties, respectively.

I don't know, I'm gay so we would probably have a joint party if we decided on one. That said, I think that the idea of the last night of "freedom" is kinda ridiculous. Marriage is a willing commitment, not a ball and chain.

 

[DividedUnity]

No. Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. This whole idea is so selfish. I don't see the difference between this and giving your future husband a carte blanche to beat the shit out of you before getting married because it's his last chance.

Quoted for truth. Made me laugh too but I feel horrible about doing it.

Yeah cheating is wrong. Saying its your last chance to do it is stupid as you would be sullying your premarital relationship that marriage is supposedly built on.

 

[Cody211282]

For our unfamiliar British members, bachelor and bachelorette parties are the same as stag and hen parties, respectively.

I don't know, I'm gay so we would probably have a joint party if we decided on one. That said, I think that the idea of the last night of "freedom" is kinda ridiculous. Marriage is a willing commitment, not a ball and chain.

Yeay someone else gets that people get into marriage willingly! Also that's an interesting idea, don't know if it would work for most people though.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

If your bachelor(ette) party is your "last chance at freedom", you're doing it wrong.

First of all, you are looking at your marriage as a burden, like a prison sentence. You're looking at it wrong. If it really is going to be like that, maybe you shouldn't get married.

If you need one "last chance" to try something different before you're sure you want to get married; you aren't secure enough to get married in the first place.

Traditionally, marriage is a formal acknowledgement of a commitment that is already in place. Is cheating or strip clubs allowed in the relationship while you're dating? Engaged? will it be when you are married? Generally speaking, no. Why would one night of transition make a difference as opposed to any other night before or after?