Bad Parents? Really?

[BringBackBuck]

There have been a lot of threads on here recently along the lines of: my parents are crap because they dont want me to play games/took away my computer/didnt give me the presents I want etc. Being a bit older than most you on this forum (30) I thought Id add a little perspective.

9 weeks ago my wife gave birth to my son. After 9 months of pregnancy and a 12 hour labour that had complications and resulted in an emergency caesarean my son was born. It was the most awesome moment of my life. Since then I have been changing nappies, been shat on, pissed on, and vomited on. I no longer go out drinking with my mates, my gaming time has been reduced to pretty much zero. I changed jobs and moved from inner city Sydney to suburban Melbourne so that I could buy a house in a suitable environment to raise kids. I get 4-5 hours of poor interrupted sleep and get up and go to work 10 hours a day to provide for my family. Since my wife is now out of the workforce we now live on half the income we did 6 months ago. In short I have sacrificed a hell of a lot for my boy and its only been 9 weeks.

After 16-17 years I will have invested more love, time, energy and money in my boy than you can possibly imagine. At that point it is possible my son will be playing some sort of game on some sort of machine that I dont quite understand but I think is probably bad for him. I have no idea what I will do. But I might take away his computer/games/not buy stuff for him and feel completely justified in my actions.

So my question is this: What do you think you would do when you are 45yo and your son is playing Super Mario Paedophile Adventure on his PS17?

 

[DuplicateValue]

So you're going to put an end to the complaining..........by complaining?

As a gamer, I'd like to think that when I'm older, I'll understand that the games my child is playing aren't a waste of time or dangerous to him/her in any way.
Besides, if I take them off him/her, they'll just complain about me on internet forums anyway, apparently.

 

[Bob_Bobbington]

I would ask him how the hell he got a Nintendo product to work on a Sony machine.

Well it really does depend on the way that games progress. If games are progressing that way I would monitor the games he actually buys instead of just not giving a shit. I would also try to encourage his tastes to more suitable games for his age.

 

[dark_taint92]

you have a really really valid point. i hate people who complain about not getting what they want at christmas, they should be happy with what they do get tbh. Because some families cant afford alot of things (like mine) and possibly the op's because he's living on half income atm.
tbh i have no idea what ill be doing when i have a kid who's 16 hopefully ill be kicking his ass on the latest gaming system there is if i have the free time.

 

[Dudemeister]

Wow, Nintendo made a really bad call, naming the game 'Super Mario Peadophile Adventures' and releasing it on Playstation.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

Hmm...most of the time the people whining about their parent are idiots looking for some attention. My parents are just fine when i was little sure i hated being yelled at for liking the "bad" games but i dealt with it and moved on.

In response to your question though....that all depends if Nintendo is going to make a new Mario innovation.

 

[Straitjacketeering]

As long as my kids passing and not get arrested he can do whatever he wants, Shit i'll probably be with him the first time he smokes pot and alcohol.

 

[Daniel Cygnus]

Some people definitely need perspective fo sho. However, I'm pretty sure the best way to end this "problem" is to stay informed. Seriously, I don't think I'm going to completely stop gaming. At the very least, I'll stay at least somewhat informed about what's going on in the gaming world so I'll have some kind of idea of what could be in a game before I get it for my kids.

 

[fishman279]

Wow, Sony really lost it when the PS13 came out, I mean buying Nintendo was a bad move.

 

[Jodah]

It will depend upon how it is effecting his/her life. If they are using it appropriately as a hobby then I doubt I would sanction it much, if at all. I hope I would have taught them the difference between real life and games like my parents did.

However, if it ever starts effecting their grades/social life/etc I would likely impose sanctions. I also hope that I would be up-to-date enough with the technology to control it without them figuring out how to bypass it.

 

[Hippobatman]

Well, first of all, congratulations on your reproduction! I hope all is well with you, your wife and your newborn son, and that you can get at least one night of good sleep soon

OP: I'd like to imagine that I'm still in the gamer community as an adult. Not as devoted and enthusiastic, but updated enough so that I can enjoy the random game on the random newest generation of consoles, and thus understanding what my child is using his spare time on.

I don't think that taking away the gaming medium from the children as punishment is a bad thing. When you want to teach someone a lesson and never want them to do the same again, you need something to make an impression. Taking the console or pc away, rendering them bored while grounded etc will do that.
And whiny kids are not to be acknowledged. Physical punishment would make you a bad parent, but taking away your kid's 360 would not.

 

[Jedoro]

If he's playing Super Mario Pedophile Adventure on a PS17, I'll congratulate him for making that somehow work. Then I'll smack him for not doing that with the newest Super Smash Brothers.

 

[Bob_Bobbington]

Wow, Sony really lost it when the PS13 came out, I mean buying Nintendo was a bad move.

Sony will never have that much money

 

[Pimppeter2]

First thought: Why would I want to have a child?

Second thought: If I did have a child. I would probably stalk him online (anonymously), and tell him about how I shagged his mom

Also, I agree with those parent hating threads being silly

 

[Deathkingo]

I'll raise my kid right, and make him play Duke Nukem...just like my dad did to me...

 

[Gildan Bladeborn]

Every year I look forward to receiving socks. If your life is capable of being ruined by not receiving [insert gift here], I submit that you didn't really have much of a life to begin with.

Seriously, the melodrama only makes you look shallow and childish - grow some perspective kiddies. You are most likely living what not so long ago would have been an unimaginable life of leisure. In the grand scheme of things, what you do or do not get for Christmas is pretty damn irrelevant.

 

[Low Key]

I'm right there with you Buck. Notice it's only teenagers who think they are funny with their snide comments towards your very valid point.

 

[Danny Ocean]

The only problem I have with my parents is when they dismiss my moments of genuine anger at them to me

Just being a teenager/child.

I may be young, but I'm not stupid. There are times when I am justified. You wouldn't dare put down a woman's anger to her "Being a woman", so don't you dare put down mine to me being a child, thank you very much.

 

[BringBackBuck]

First thought: Why would I want to have a child?

Second thought: If I did have a child. I would probably stalk him online (anonymously), and tell him about how I shagged his mom

You just made my day!

That is very funny. I am going to have to remember to do that.

 

[fishman279]

Wow, Sony really lost it when the PS13 came out, I mean buying Nintendo was a bad move.

Sony will never have that much money

I'd like to think that someday, someday...Nintendo can finally cough it's last withering breath and die. But as long as there are 5 year old brats screaming "WANT WANT WANT!" this will never happen...