Becoming Resentful

[Booze Zombie]

So, Escapist, I'm becoming resentful of a friend. The relationship is a bit rocky after an issue entirely my fault, that's not the issue for me.
For me, the issue is that my friend says he isn't in the mood for talking or responds to paragraphs with "yeah", etc on Facebook and when I see him talking to my sister on there, he's talking in paragraphs.

So... am I right to feel annoyed like I do about this? I mean, that issue that caused the rift is still fresh, but I just can't help but feel mad that my friend is ignoring me and talking to my sister... it's very frustrating.

And the captcha is: Brand spanking new... swear this thing has a sense of humour.

 

[Colour Scientist]

Well if something bad happened that was entirely your fault then he seems perfectly entitled to be pissed off and ignore you for a while.

It does however sound like the kind of thing that will blow over if you were good friends. Just give him time, don't get pissed off yourself cause you don't seem to have the right to be and wait until he's ready to accept an apology and begin repairing your friendship.

 

[Radeonx]

If the issue was major enough I see no reason why he wouldn't want to talk to you for a while.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Well if something bad happened that was entirely your fault then he seems perfectly entitled to be pissed off and ignore you for a while.

It does however sound like the kind of thing that will blow over if you were good friends. Just give him time, don't get pissed off yourself cause you don't seem to have the right to be and wait until he's ready to accept an apology and begin repairing your friendship.

Well, technically I have "the right" to almost anything, but would it be proper, make sense or even help either of us if I got pissed? Probably not. But hey, that's why I'm asking people about this as opposed to just going "raaargh, you're talking to my sister and not me".

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

So, Escapist, I'm becoming resentful of a friend. The relationship is a bit rocky after an issue entirely my fault, that's not the issue for me.
For me, the issue is that my friend says he isn't in the mood for talking or responds to paragraphs with "yeah", etc on Facebook and when I see him talking to my sister on there, he's talking in paragraphs.

So... am I right to feel annoyed like I do about this? I mean, that issue that caused the rift is still fresh, but I just can't help but feel mad that my friend is ignoring me and talking to my sister... it's very frustrating.

And the captcha is: Brand spanking new... swear this thing has a sense of humour.

What did you do?

You say it's not the issue, but it seems like it is.

 

[Booze Zombie]

What did you do?

You say it's not the issue, but it seems like it is.

Oh, don't worry. It is probably him still being angry about that issue... I'm not even sure why I said that wasn't still an issue. Anyway, relationship advice when you know one of the people your friend is interested in can go quite sour, especially when she's shared honest opinions with you, even if they turn out to be outdated ones a few days later.

 

[William Keller]

Zeit, Zeit, Zeit...
Give 'im a little time. We all need to be alone after certain events.
If the fact that he's talking to your sister and not you makes you resentful, well... respond similarly. Simply leave him be. He might even like your sister in a... somewhat different way. [wink]

Anyway, it would be a very good idea if you came clean: simply tell him what you think (without shouting, insulting or blaming him). Having a good conversation once in a while is something that has really kept me close with my friends.

Finally, if it is your fault and you know it, you can always apologize. No harm done.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Zeit, Zeit, Zeit...
Give 'im a little time. We all need to be alone after certain events.
If the fact that he's talking to your sister and not you makes you resentful, well... respond similarly. Simply leave him be. He might even like your sister in a... somewhat different way. [wink]

Anyway, it would be a very good idea if you came clean: simply tell him what you think (without shouting, insulting or blaming him). Having a good conversation once in a while is something that has really kept me close with my friends.

Finally, if it is your fault and you know it, you can always apologize. No harm done.

I would hope he doesn't like my sister in that sort of way, she's kind of 15 years old. It'd be a bit awkward for both of them.

Yes, I should probably just leave him alone for a good long while, apologies already having been applied.