Being Alone?

[Shockolate]

In my case, "Being alone" means the only people I actually interact with are my brothers (seeing as how we live together). Not my mother though, it's always awkward around her, seeing as how I'm constantly ruining her dreams of me going to university and getting and incredibly high paying job.

I usually bullshit my way out of going places I don't want to. I don't like leaving my house. I am content with everything I have (Food, television, video games, porn). I don't go to movies with my friends (though we do have Lan parties) because I prefer not actually being around them. Sure, we play games together all the time, but I feel better knowing they aren't actually in the room with me. Hell, being around people is what made me leave school.

 

[FretfulGnome]

Being in a situation where you're in trouble but nobody can help you but yourself. But you can't help yourself for whatever reason. They stand there and watch you self destruct and pretend not to notice because it hurts too much.

 

[evilartist]

For me, personally, being alone means having no one that understands you. Having so many people around you and yet none of them seem to grasp what you're talking abour, or your understanding of something and thoughts and feelings. Some people call it simply "being surrounded by morons", but that's not true. They're morons for me, bur for themselves they're perfectly healtthy-thinking people. My understanding for loneliness, or being alone is simply - "Alone in the Crowd".

I guess you described most of my problem. Loneliness for me is half that and half: not having any sort of significant other, or even a sex life, and not one person I know has any clue how to help me. No friend or relative can communicate to me in a way that can help me; they don't understand why social interaction isn't as easy for some people as they say it is. It's like they're telling a formerly blind man that he should be able to spot the color blue with little effort. No...it isn't that easy for him. I'm alone because of what you described, OP, and also because of what it revolves around.

To anyone who says to me "It's not that hard" or "just go up and talk to her. What have you got to lose?" I shall then reply: "Why don't you put yourself in my shoes for once?" Ironically, that's a pretty pointless thing for me to say, because they can't do that, no matter how much I wish they could. So, the only thing I've been doing is very slowly figure things out myself.

 

[Kud]

Alone is the aftermath of a fight with someone you love.

 

[Mortons4ck]

Not being able to connect with anyone on a meaningful level.

You get up every morning, go to work, say "good morning", work and maybe chat about sports or a new car (or something else relatively insignificant) with a coworker, eat lunch by yourself or quietly with others, clock out, maybe go to the gym, go to sleep, and repeat.

 

[n00beffect]

What an "emo" sentence, gawd. Maybe they understand you, they just don't agree with you or show that they understand you.

Sorry, it's just a pet peeve of mine, people moaning "oh people so don't get me, I am so unique and individual, your all so conformist" No your not unique! There are over 6.8 billion people, nothing you do/say/think is unique to you, accept that.

Funny how the people who spew this are the same people who dress exactly the same? I bet most if not all have journals/blogs were they whine about there lives.

Alone nobody around, not having anybody to talk to face to face. (haha, how many to's in one sentence).

EDIT, Most of you seem to be confusing alone with lonely, alone is nobody around, lonely is feeling like nobody is around or nobody to turn to but there are people around you.

Now I just have to work out the difference between effect and affect ...

Okay, who said I was unique? That's exactly what I disclaimed by saying that people AREN'T morons for not understanding/agreeing with me. Now I might call myself(MIGHT) different, but that's about it. Never did I say I am special or something. And as you can see many people have similar problems as I, so I would wish to discuss these problems with them. You obviously have NO problem of discussion, on which I congratulate you and I thank you for posting and giving this simple definition, it was great. Now you may take you're leave If you wish.

As for the rest of you - Thank you, sincerely for opening up to me and giving me a few new pointers or a viewpoint or two. I think this disscusion went out great and we really got to know each other better in some way.

 

[omega 616]

Okay, who said I was unique? That's exactly what I disclaimed by saying that people AREN'T morons for not understanding/agreeing with me. Now I might call myself(MIGHT) different, but that's about it. Never did I say I am special or something. And as you can see many people have similar problems as I, so I would wish to discuss these problems with them. You obviously have NO problem of discussion, on which I congratulate you and I thank you for posting and giving this simple definition, it was great. Now you may take you're leave If you wish.

I think you implied your "uniqueness" by saying nobody understands you, if you were like others then they would "get you", right?

I have no idea what your talking about in that first sentence, the people around you might be geniuses and you could still be unique. The two have no relation.

Like I said people claiming nobody "gets them" is a pet peeve.

 

[Aerodyamic]

-snip-

Love the Avatar "Everyone else has had more sex than me, woohooo"

-hack mangle snip slash-

It's secretly ironic.

 

[Julianking93]

Being alone doesn't have to be literal.

Like in that Scrubs episode when JD said "There is nothing worse than feeling alone. No matter how many people are around"

Aww man, you even ninja'd my example D:

Yah, I agree with this post, I sometimes feel amazingly alone, even in a busy street, or even with people I sorta know.

Wow, I guess I am a master ninja.

Indeed, it sucks feeling that way.

 

[skyfire_freckles]

What I wanted to say has been said. Alone is a broad term that can mean being physically or metaphorically alone. It has a physical sense to me, and the word "alone" by itself makes me think of a single object on a shelf. Call it lonely, and suddenly it's "alone and missing others".

If you feel alone because no one understands you, you must remember that communication is a two way street. Listen to someone and figure out how to say something so they'll understand. Perfect understanding is rare, and generally reflects more on one's willingness to consciously hash the meaning out, than on one's intelligence. Try to understand someone to their satisfaction, and you may find that they understand you pretty well, too. Some people are simply too far removed from your experience to ever find a common ground, and understanding may be impossible.

Sometimes people complain that others don't understand them, but really, they don't want anyone to understand them, because they feel it makes them unique. "How can anyone know what's inside me, when they've never been me?" Particularly young people do this, because they are trying to create themselves as individuals separate from their parents. Being married for almost ten years has taught me that even for people who understand each other very well, there are areas that simply will not resolve; but with consideration, those things don't have to matter from a practical standpoint.