Being comfortable alone. Is it wrong?

[Beat14]

I'll try give an idea of how this situation came to be, I have moved away from home, family and friends. Since then I have made no effort to socialise, at first it bothered me, now I don't care, I am acting like a hermit almost. Avoiding going out to an extent as well. It's been about 3 days since I've had a conversation with someone where sentences where exchanged. I don't think this is healthy, yet I have basically accepted it. I am at ease with the situation almost content.

Is this healthy/"right"?

On a side note, I am not addictted to gaming, unless the 80 minutes of tf2 I played say otherwise. I mostly have been listening too any music I find interesting. At the same time I have never felt as unispired to create music, it's kind of odd.

Thanks

 

[Vonnis]

Whatever you feel comfortable with is "right". If the lack of social interaction is no problem for you, then there is no problem. Simple, really. Don't worry about what other people consider healthy or "right", everyone's different and what works for one person might make another miserable.

 

[Beat14]

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Seems obvious if I take a step back. Thanks.

Sounds stupid to not be sure on being happy or not, but I'll have to give it some time to find out if this is an acceptable state to be in.

 

[WaysideMaze]

If you're comfortable, then I don't see the problem. Not everybody enjoys the same thing, as long as you're happy that what matters right?

 

[Lilani]

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There are basically two kinds of people in the world:

People who split the world into two kinds of people, and the ones who don't.

Extroverts and introverts. Extroverts derive their energy from being around other people--outside sources. They're the kinds of people who will go to a party and just talk to EVERYBODY, and feel better because of it. That makes them comfortable. Introverts, on the other hand, derive their energy from inward sources--usually solitude or self-reflection. Introverts usually feel exhausted or uncomfortable after spending lots of time around other people, but feel refreshed after a nice evening of reading a good book.

Another way to see if you're an introvert or an extrovert is the kinds of conversations you like to have with others. Extroverts tend to engage in very short conversations with lots of people about very easy and basic topics, and they like it that way. Introverts tend to prefer having fewer, longer conversations that cover deeper or more complicated topics.

So in other words, no, being comfortable when alone is a perfectly normal and natural state of being. And a common one, at that.

 

[Rastien]

It's fine being comfortable alone, just don't lie to yourself is all i ask. I was in the same situation still am... but i convinced myself i like to be alone after breaking up with my ex. Truth is i don't and im just coming to terms with this and trying to deal with it.

But yeah if thats the truth cool, if not don't lie to yourself

 

[Svenparty]

Lucky you, personally I'm an Extrovert most of the time and since I recently split with my girlfriend I realized that real friends I did not have many of. I'm spending most of my time wandering around listening to "Scary Monsters/Super Creeps" album depressingly and wearing sunglasses. You are very lucky to be so content in yourself. Anyway this is your thread but I think it's an admirable quality.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

There's nothing wrong with that, so long as you're comfortable. Although I can imagine at some point down the line you might get lonely, if you didn't ever then that seems a bit weird to me.

 

[Beat14]

if not don't lie to yourself

Seems to be the hard bit, It's almost like the more you think about lying to yourself the harder it is to tell.

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Meeting some where in the middle of being "extrovert" and "introvert" would be the way to go in my eyes, having taken onboard what you have said. On a side note "almost content"

Although I can imagine at some point down the line you might get lonely, if you didn't ever then that seems a bit weird to me.

I agree it would be weird, I don't want to be content with myself like this as if I do get lonely, which It's seems odd not to eventually (however long it takes), because of regret.

I never liked to worry about things, and don't most the time. But to look back and think yeah you've been one dumbass hermit doesn't sound like something I would take lightly.

Thanks all.

 

[bizentine]

Half the posts in this forum could be answered with this same advice "Don't bother with perceived notions of what you *should* or *shouldn't* be doing. People who follow societies rule to a T rarely make history, and rarely amount to much more than a drone."

If it's affecting your music, however. Try a form of interaction that you're comfortable with. People-watch at a local pub. Go to a local record store if they have a local band playing (this is becoming more and more common as the industry declines). Anything you can do to feel or experience something will definitely help with creating tunes.