best way to propose...

[vampirekid.13]

to your exgirlfriend that is currently in a relationship.


well....im stumped, someone give me an idea.


oh yea, and we're an ocean apart atm....so that makes it even harder.

 

[twistedshadows]

If she's your ex-girlfriend and she's in another relationship, why are you thinking of proposing at all?
I'd think her answer would be obvious, unless there are extenuating circumstances we aren't aware of.

Edit:

meh, i broke up with her like a month and a half ago...just to realize i ABSOLUTELY CANT FREAKING LIVE without her.

Proposing is rather extreme; I highly doubt doing so after you broke up with her would be the best idea. Aside from letting her go and getting on with your life, you should probably just tell her how you feel and see how she reacts.

 

[vampirekid.13]

Best way to do it in that situation.... DON'T. Unless you like feeling like a jackass.

meh, i broke up with her like a month and a half ago...just to realize i ABSOLUTELY CANT FREAKING LIVE without her.

i cant sleep.

i cant enjoy life.

i cant work.

i cant have fun.

there is seriously nothing in life worth the effort w/o her

i want her back.

 

[Cuniculus]

The best way to do it, is while it's being video taped. Then from there you put it on youtube. If nothing else, you'll be a star.

 

[ADDLibrarian]

Express that you do miss her and would welcome her back, but other than that, let her go. You're up shit creek without a paddle. I mean, if she's in another relationship, there's nothing you can do; besides, you broke up with her.

 

[SharPhoe]

The best way to do it, is while it's being video taped. Then from there you put it on youtube. If nothing else, you'll be a star.

You mean like LittleKuriboh?

I don't care what anyone says, I found it romantic.

 

[vampirekid.13]

Express that you do miss her and would welcome her back, but other than that, let her go. You're up shit creek without a paddle. I mean, if she's in another relationship, there's nothing you can do; besides, you broke up with her.

yea, pretty much, i know im neck deep in shit and a roof less than an inch above me.


however my only hope is this. her "relationship" is mainly online. she hasnt met the guy irl yet.


so theres still hope right?


i was thinking of writing her a long letter and having flowers delivered at her door...

something ridiculous like 200 roses.


meh, i dont know.

 

[space_oddity]

Dude, you need a lettuce leaf and a cuddle, not a wife right now.

 

[Gooble]

Have you ever considered you're just going through the 'getting over her' phase? How long were you guys going out for?

 

[Major_Sam]

If I wanted a guy to propose to me in this situation, I would want to see him face to face. I really don't recommend doing it by email, text, or phone. I'm sorry but if she is in another relationship at the moment, I'm pretty sure she is going to say no. And whatever happened last time, she would still remember it. We don't forget.
In all honesty, I wouldn't ask her. Unless you need some sort of closure and being prepared for whatever happens, I guess you could do it if you want.

 

[Zacharine]

Tell her of your mistake, tell her you'd like her back, admit you're sorry.

Then, let her make the decision if she want's to get back together with you. If and only if she does, can you even think of marrying her.

And be sure you really want her back because you love her and make sure she understands it as well.

And do this, face to face. No matter where she is. Not via a letter, not in the phone and definately not using a text message. Tell her you'd like to talk and then meet her.

EDIT: And if she says no, accept that you screwed up.

 

[zauxz]

Make it a surprise no fancy diners, no anything. Just a "will you marry me" out of nowhere.

 

[Vitamin T]

Is this a serious question?...or is there some level of satirical intent here?

If it's the former, then to be honest proposing to her would be a bad idea. I would not suggest it but if you're set on trying then be honest and tell her how you feel or something. If she says no, well to be fair you've lost nothing and if she says yes you've gained a ball and chain.

*ahem* wife...I totally meant wife...*looks around shiftily*

However if it's the latter then do it in the most overblown way you can think of, get a huge bouquet of flowers, take her to a romantic secluded spot where you have a picnic (or a table, with candles, a hot meal (somehow?) preferably something you know she likes, a waiter too (some snooty looking dude?) and music playing in the background (something romantic?)) and then you get down on bended knee and you pull out the ring as the fireworks you set up beforehand go off spelling across the night sky "will you marry me?". Have a friend film it all or something so if she says yes, well congratulations and you now have a nice reminder of a nice moment in your life, if she says no then you push her face into the food and run away cackling like a maniac and watch the video at your leisure. Or send into 'You've Been Framed' or something.

Alternatively...hire a barbershop quartet to sing the question or something.

 

[vampirekid.13]

Dude, you need a lettuce leaf and a cuddle, not a wife right now.

i dont get the lettuce leaf thing...but cuddles are always good...


also, we've been together for like 3 yrs before the breakup.

and i was going to propose to her...it was never meant to be a permanent breakup...it was supposed to just give us a break...i wanted to marry her for...forever, we just hit some rough seas and i wanted a little room

i made a big mistake and if i dont get her back im seriously going to pay for it for the rest of my life.

Is this a serious question?...or is there some level of satirical intent here?

If it's the former, then to be honest proposing to her would be a bad idea. I would not suggest it but if you're set on trying then be honest and tell her how you feel or something. If she says no, well to be fair you've lost nothing and if she says yes you've gained a ball and chain.

*ahem* wife...I totally meant wife...*looks around shiftily*

However if it's the latter then do it in the most overblown way you can think of, get a huge bouquet of flowers, take her to a romantic secluded spot where you have a picnic (or a table, with candles, a hot meal (somehow?) preferably something you know she likes, a waiter too (some snooty looking dude?) and music playing in the background (something romantic?)) and then you get down on bended knee and you pull out the ring as the fireworks you set up beforehand go off spelling across the night sky "will you marry me?". Have a friend film it all or something so if she says yes, well congratulations and you now have a nice reminder of a nice moment in your life, if she says no then you push her face into the food and run away cackling like a maniac and watch the video at your leisure. Or send into 'You've Been Framed' or something.

Alternatively...hire a barbershop quartet to sing the question or something.

id love to do that.


but you must of missed the one ocean apart due to work bit.

im going on deployment soon too. and i really want me and her back before i leave

Tell her of your mistake, tell her you'd like her back, admit you're sorry.

Then, let her make the decision if she want's to get back together with you. If and only if she does, can you even think of marrying her.

And be sure you really want her back because you love her and make sure she understands it as well.

And do this, face to face. No matter where she is. Not via a letter, not in the phone and definately not using a text message. Tell her you'd like to talk and then meet her.

EDIT: And if she says no, accept that you screwed up.

...


see the issue is....
saying "Hey captain, im going to go ahead and take leave in the middle of our training cycle right before deployment so i can ask my ex to get back together with me" just isnt something my captain is going to allow....in the middle of a training cycle....right before a deployment.

 

[vampirekid.13]

oops double post. check out the one above.

 

[Zacharine]

Tell her of your mistake, tell her you'd like her back, admit you're sorry.

Then, let her make the decision if she want's to get back together with you. If and only if she does, can you even think of marrying her.

And be sure you really want her back because you love her and make sure she understands it as well.

And do this, face to face. No matter where she is. Not via a letter, not in the phone and definately not using a text message. Tell her you'd like to talk and then meet her.

EDIT: And if she says no, accept that you screwed up.

...


see the issue is....
saying "Hey captain, im going to go ahead and take leave in the middle of our training cycle right before deployment so i can ask my ex to get back together with me" just isnt something my captain is going to allow....in the middle of a training cycle....right before a deployment.

You're screwed man. You. Are. Screwed.

Talk to your captain ASAP, ask for personal leave, ask them if there is any way you could have the chance to meet her. If not, set up a live-video conference with your ex. The important bit here is that you need to talk to face to face. If it can't be done in-real-life as it were, do it via webcam. You clearly already have access to the internet.

 

[vampirekid.13]

You're screwed man. You. Are. Screwed.

Talk to your captain ASAP, ask for personal leave, ask them if there is any way you could have the chance to meet her. If not, set up a live-video conference with your ex. The important bit here is that you need to talk to face to face. If it can't be done in-real-life as it were, do it via webcam. You clearly already have access to the internet.

webcam is definately do-able..well a lot more doable than real life at least.


meh, im just going crazy, we've been on no talking terms since may 18th at 7:02pm.

that is entirely way too long. i have nothing to look forward to w/o talking to her at the end of the day.

i dont even like WoW anymore..and i used to play that game every day...

FOOD HAS NO TASTE. im dead serious. im that depressed.

>.<

 

[Castigar0]

you need five things, the ring, your girlfriend, a will, grenades and a tugboat

 

[Vitamin T]

Dude, you need a lettuce leaf and a cuddle, not a wife right now.

i dont get the lettuce leaf thing...but cuddles are always good...


also, we've been together for like 3 yrs before the breakup.

and i was going to propose to her...it was never meant to be a permanent breakup...it was supposed to just give us a break...i wanted to marry her for...forever, we just hit some rough seas and i wanted a little room

i made a big mistake and if i dont get her back im seriously going to pay for it for the rest of my life.

Is this a serious question?...or is there some level of satirical intent here?

If it's the former, then to be honest proposing to her would be a bad idea. I would not suggest it but if you're set on trying then be honest and tell her how you feel or something. If she says no, well to be fair you've lost nothing and if she says yes you've gained a ball and chain.

*ahem* wife...I totally meant wife...*looks around shiftily*

However if it's the latter then do it in the most overblown way you can think of, get a huge bouquet of flowers, take her to a romantic secluded spot where you have a picnic (or a table, with candles, a hot meal (somehow?) preferably something you know she likes, a waiter too (some snooty looking dude?) and music playing in the background (something romantic?)) and then you get down on bended knee and you pull out the ring as the fireworks you set up beforehand go off spelling across the night sky "will you marry me?". Have a friend film it all or something so if she says yes, well congratulations and you now have a nice reminder of a nice moment in your life, if she says no then you push her face into the food and run away cackling like a maniac and watch the video at your leisure. Or send into 'You've Been Framed' or something.

Alternatively...hire a barbershop quartet to sing the question or something.

id love to do that.


but you must of missed the one ocean apart due to work bit.

im going on deployment soon too. and i really want me and her back before i leave

Well to be fair proposing down the phone or with a letter isn't really what you want to be doing. Call me old fashioned or whatever but I think proposals should be in person. First you have to get her to take you back, which is never a guarantee. I think in this situation all you can do right now is to talk to her about this, phone her seeing as you can't be there in person (what with being in a training cycle right before deployment) and make sure she understands that if you could be there in person having the conversation then you would be. Then tell her how you feel, tell her you made a mistake and that you've had time to think and clear your head and you're sorry. Tell her you'll come and see her as soon as you can and arrange some holiday time for the earliest moment if that's at all possible.

Then hope...hope to God she understands and forgives you.

She might never take you back dude...but it definitely sounds like you need some level of closure or you'll spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been.

And before you do any of that make sure you do actually feel about her the way you say you do or you could be making an even bigger mistake than the one you say you've already made. You could just be feeling the fear of having lost someone you care about a lot right now...might not necessarily be love. Love is confusing, it's worth making sure you know how you feel.

 

[vampirekid.13]

Ya know... I kind of had hope for you. Thinking that proposing to this chick would be a awesome way to fuck around with her current relationship but sadly no. Yet another guy who is whipped like the family pig.

The only advice you need. Get over it. She is already happily banging some other dude. You had your chance and blew it. There is no going back. She is probably banging her new BF right now.
Have a nice night.

you need to read the thread.


shes not in a real life relationship...its a guy she met online, that she has yet to meet in real life, he's in australia...shes in america. so i dont see it happening any time soon.


i will have a nice night thank you.


what kind of psychopath would propose to someone just to mess with their relationship.


if she says she doesnt want us 2 back together, ill ask her if shes happy where she is now, and if i get a yes ill be half happy at least