Birthdays and Friends

[Doctor What]

Well, I'm not one who celebrates birthdays very often, in fact, all through high school, I never did anything with any of my friends. I don't think they even know when it is.

I sent out some emails to them about possibly going out and doing some stuff, and nobody has responded. This was a couple days ago. Should I resend them, or just let it go?

Is anybody else like me? If so, what did you do? If not, any advice for becoming less of a recluse?

 

[FamoFunk]

Maybe you could ring/text asking if they got the E-mails.

Birthdays have never bothered me.
I've only ever 'celebrated' my 18th as I was legally old enough to drink so went in to the city and got drunk.

It's my 21st in April and everyone is fussing, I don't like or want fuss really.

 

[Super Six One]

Emails and that are rather impersonal, i always have to ask the person personally if they actually want me there or if it was just a mass email.(Ok, that and i'm kinda paranoid)

Id just talk to them about it over the phone or face to face. That way you can get a instant reply.




As for birthdays, i like going out for my freinds, but when it comes to mine my mates are dicks and don't sem that interested. I mean when i turned 19 i took them 5 hours to turn up to the pub i was at! 5 hours! They were ALL at one of their houses having drinks there because its cheaper that a pub crawl, if it wasn't for my brother it would have sat in my house the whole night.

^^I have never let them live that down, ever. haha

 

[El Poncho]

Well most of my friends forgot it was my birthday last year even though I did remind them a few times that week. Even people I only talk to in some classes wished me a happy birthday. I didn't mind too much though since I can be absent minded as well.

 

[Anarchemitis]

Maybe you could ring/text asking if they got the E-mails.

Birthdays have never bothered me.
I've only ever 'celebrated' my 18th as I was legally old enough to drink so went in to the city and got drunk.

It's my 21st in April and everyone is fussing, I don't like or want fuss really.

What a kawink-e-dink, my Dad's birthday is on the same date.

 

[FamoFunk]

Maybe you could ring/text asking if they got the E-mails.

Birthdays have never bothered me.
I've only ever 'celebrated' my 18th as I was legally old enough to drink so went in to the city and got drunk.

It's my 21st in April and everyone is fussing, I don't like or want fuss really.

What a kawink-e-dink, my Dad's birthday is on the same date.

Same date? I didn't put a date up or do you mean month

I'll take that drink anyway!

 

[LostAlone]

Im not much for celebrating birthdays either. My former girlfriend made a fuss on my 18th, but since then I prefer to spend my birthdays pondering the concept of maturity and ordering take out.

Ok, thats not directly true, I mostly prefer to get high and watch tv, but I try to spend some time thinking about the passed year.

When you are young enough that a birthday means you get cool stuff or money or the opportunity to do stuff you normally couldn't, then its fine. When you 'come of age' whatever that is in your country, then sure spend it getting hammered.

After that point however, I just don't get why you have to act like a kid every time you get further away from being one. I like the idea of reflecting a little on what you've done in the past year and what I hope from the next one. Especially when compared to how going out drinking is likely to lead to some kind of strife (at least in my life). All the other peoples parties I've been to... Well it just seems so immature to drink till you throw up with people you kinda hate... And thats what it always ends up as. I can't invite x person without them bringing their other half who I hate, and if I don't invite this guy then he'll show up anyway and its just bullshit.

 

[Daveman]

I always do SOMETHING. Even if it's just to go and grab some dinner at a restaurant or a few pints at a pub.

Also, my birthday this year falls on the last day of my college rugby tour to amsterdam... FML.

The plan is to get so stoned I cannot physically move, then any prostitutes that my friends try to force on me I can sue for raping me.

 

[lvl9000_woot]

Maybe you could ring/text asking if they got the E-mails.

Birthdays have never bothered me.
I've only ever 'celebrated' my 18th as I was legally old enough to drink so went in to the city and got drunk.

It's my 21st in April and everyone is fussing, I don't like or want fuss really.

What a kawink-e-dink, my Dad's birthday is on the same date.

Same date? I didn't put a date up or do you mean month

I'll take that drink anyway!

Heyyy mine is in April as well (12th)

also....

[HEADING=1]HAPPY B-DAY OP![/HEADING]

...whenever it is

 

[MetalDooley]

If your friends are anything like me then they just haven't checked their emails.I'd recommend ringing them

Celebrated my bday last weekend.Me and my close friends went out and got drunk.Good times

 

[Sticky Squid]

I never celebrated birthdays, I consider it a stupid thing to celebrate.

 

[Caligulove]

Usually best to do things like that face to face instead of emailing someone about hanging out.

It's a very personal thing to just spend time with people, and at least I think that email is a little too professional, distancing yourself from the person, not to mention making it easier to forget about.

Plus, the older I have gotten, the more I have appreciated when someone actually goes out to basically force you to do something when I would otherwise not have other plans. When you feel like a recluse or want to do something, it's best to just go out and do something, even if you can't get people together- better than nothing. Otherwise it's easier to tell yourself that you can do something else or that having a night alone won't be all that bad.

 

[chocolatekake]

I only try and see my best friends on my birthday. If that means big party, then so be it. If it means night in with my roommates, then so be it. I just don't like telling people when my birthday is because I don't want them to be inclined to get me a gift or feel bad for forgetting.

And I agree with the face to face thing. It helps to know what somebody's response is right away. And if you can't face to face, then call them up or something.