Bisexuality doesn't exist

[holy_secret]

In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

The same works the other way around. Except this time, the heterosexuals say that "maybe you were just experimenting with homosexuality" and the homosexuals say that "you are in denial bladibibla".
Even the last guy I was dating was like this. He was convinced I was homosexual because I was in love with him (and him being a guy).

This was okay in the beginning. I didn't really mind this. I know what I am and I don't care what anyone thinks of it.
However. This has been going on for several years. It's not really about the years. It's about the fact that this has been going on for as long as I have been open about my sexuality.
Now, this is pissing me off incredibly. Of course, this makes these people say "oooooh why are you getting so upset huh? :3 You know what it means when you take it personal riiiiight?"
I'm not taking it personally, I am just tired of hearing how I am and what I am is a lie and to be told I am something else. I know what I am and nothing is going to change that.
Point is, people are hell bent on telling me bisexuality is bullshit.
That's my rant.

So escapist people. What do you think of bisexuality? Is it a bunch of bullshit?

 

[Thaluikhain]

It is true that people sometimes take a while to settle on their sexuality, so I cna sorta understand people being a tad dubious about the idea.

But, to say that it is now, and always has been, totally impossible for a person to sexually desire both males and females is obviously wrong.

And, yeah, certain types of people are going to be surprised when you take denial of your sexuality personally.

 

[Furioso]

As dumb as it is, that's just how we think these days, if a girl says she is bisexual then its hot, but if a guy says it suddenly he's just gay, no excuses

 

[The Lunatic]

Eh, if you're Bi, you're bi, I really consider sexuality to be what you consider yourself to be.

As for what other people think, well, they're not you, and you don't have to care.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

I think bisexuals are greedy :3

Nah, I'm kidding.

You know your sexuality better than anyone else right? So if you think you're bi, then you're bi.

 

[Buizel91]

Being Bisexual myself i can easily say it isn't bullshit xD

It really doesn't matter what people think, i get it a lot to, some people just don't understand

 

[Floppertje]

how the hell would I know? I'm straight as a line, I don't know what other people are feeling. but for what it's worth: if someone says they're bisexual and they're not a 15 year old schoolgirl who thinks it's cool to be bi, I believe them. why wouldn't I? After all, I find the idea of having sex with a dude rather repulsive and I'm sure gay guys would find the idea of sex with a woman yucky. So why would someone who genuinely dislikes having sex with women date them if they're already 'out'?

 

[Colour Scientist]

Sexuality is a complicated thing and I don't know nearly enough about it to make a solid judgement but it seems to me that if you're physically attracted to both men and women then you are bisexual.
No one can really argue otherwise.

If you pursue both sexes and enjoy having sex with both than I don't really see how anyone can argue otherwise.

I think, for whatever reason, people in general have a hard time accepting bisexual men. Most don't even bat an eyelid at bisexual women anymore but for some reason a guy needs to be one or the other. I think it's just something they don't understand so they try to rationalise male sexuality into black or white.

 

[Ilikemilkshake]

Well from experiance, 95% of "bisexuals" i know are just doing it for attention, oh look at me i kissed someone of the same sex im so cool, give me attention.

But speaking as a pansexual with quite a few actual bisexual friends, yes bisexuality is a real thing, its not just for people who cant make their mind up or are in denial.

 

[KiloFox]

honestly, i'm a bi male, i havn't heard really any of the doubt about my sexuality you're talking about though however i have heard some people say that bi's are "just horny and not caring" (it's a little out of context) but essentially means that they just don't give a damn about gender. my view on it is simple really... we all get feelings of sexual interest, maybe even love, towards different people. and who are we to deny those feelings just because of gender?

 

[TheMinz]

how the hell would I know? I'm straight as a line, I don't know what other people are feeling. but for what it's worth: if someone says they're bisexual and they're not a 15 year old schoolgirl who thinks it's cool to be bi, I believe them. why wouldn't I? After all, I find the idea of having sex with a dude rather repulsive and I'm sure gay guys would find the idea of sex with a woman yucky. So why would someone who genuinely dislikes having sex with women date them if they're already 'out'?

A circle is made of a line... Just saying

 

[Batou667]

You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.

 

[IAmTheVoid]

Actually had one of my family say that bi people were 'in denial' and 'just faking it'. I felt like punching him but sadly was in a public place.

Don't listen to them, dude. Only you can know your feelings, and at the end of the day who you like is none of their business in the first place. Rest assured that sensible human beings don't actually think that.

 

[Thaluikhain]

You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.

BWAHAHAHA.

Hmmm...more content...um...I think that pic and accompanying comment to be amusing and relevant to the discussion?

 

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Bisexuality is the only true sexuality. Homosexuality and Heterosexuality are just fetishes.

As animals with pleasure organs, there is no difference between any sexual partner, other than what emotional/rational attachments we associate them with.

Procreation has to happen heterosexually, at the moment. Everything else is down to personal choice.

Saying all that, most people will tend towards a set of relationships they're comfortable with, but there's no more difference between men/women, than between redheads and brunettes, from the organs PoV. Yours may differ.

 

[WolfThomas]

Human sexuality is vast and diverse, ignorance and more importantly insensitivy to something another person unqiuely experiences always upsets me.

I love women, I love women a lot. Still I do find some men attractive. Would I ever have sex with another male? Probably only in very certain specific circumstances, but it's not impossible. Likewise I have interests in bondage some people would find odd, but on the flipside I don't like S&M.

Everyone is different.

 

[Floppertje]

how the hell would I know? I'm straight as a line, I don't know what other people are feeling. but for what it's worth: if someone says they're bisexual and they're not a 15 year old schoolgirl who thinks it's cool to be bi, I believe them. why wouldn't I? After all, I find the idea of having sex with a dude rather repulsive and I'm sure gay guys would find the idea of sex with a woman yucky. So why would someone who genuinely dislikes having sex with women date them if they're already 'out'?

A circle is made of a line... Just saying

hehe, yep, it sure is. luckily I'm confident enough about my sexuality that I can take jokes about it

 

[Treblaine]

*snip*

Pro Trip: don't believe idiots just because they are persistent and numerous.

Example: a lot of idiots insist that we did not evolve from primates but rather god created us by magic. Literally. These people are idiots. It does not matter how many people say this or how often, a lie repeated often enough is not truth.

Bisexuality does exist and anyone who says you are a liar you can tell them to "Fuck off".

 

[Siegfried Raybrandt]

Though my particular area is open about a lot of things, sexuality isn't it. This doesn't mean I accuse them of being closet homosexuals/homophobes. No I think its just a fear of judgement. Its nice though to catch them planting a kiss on their partner's cheek though (that was in a store if you can believe it. Being bi myself, I can rest easy knowing I'm not alone in this world.

So in regards to the topic, I think it exists. Its just like chivalry and good deeds. Its hard to see.