Burdens You Put on Your Partner

[Slash Dementia]

Do any of you feel that you have something that's just a burden to your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife? If you do, what is it, and how do they react to it?

As for me, one of the only thing that I can think of right now is that I get frequent suicidal thoughts for no reason at all--I'm happy with my life for the most part--and they just randomly come to me in uncontrollable bursts. I have no want to kill myself.
I hate hearing her cry when I get like that, and she always tells me that she'll be there for me, and that we'll get through it no matter how many times it happens; but I just feel horrible that I put her through it. I can't even count how many times it has happened, but I'm always really thankful to have her there with me.

 

[tharglet]

I can be emotionally unstable, mainly hormone related, and it is quite annoying. Suicidal thoughts are annoying, even if you know you wouldn't really go through with it, and probably the most frustrating for doing so.
Also I can shout and yell at things - even if it's just a flare or I'm not massively angry, it can upset my partner ^^. He's not very good at ascertaining my level of anger, so he finds it hard to understand the difference between me shouting at a game, or shouting at people.

 

[CrashBang]

I'm just too damn sweet! Seriously, I'm like the best boyfriend ever. Maybe I play videogames too much, but I've never chosen them over spending time with her so maybe not. Maybe playing punk and metalcore in the car probably drives her a bit insane

 

[Julianking93]

Um...really the only thing I can ever think of is a bit of emotional clinginess.

When I say I love cuddling and being with someone, I mean it.

Really though, other than that, I think I'd make an awesome boyfriend. Perhaps my cuteness might become too much and they'd die from sweetness overdose, but I don't necessarily see that as bad.

That's how I'd want to go anyway. ^-^

 

[Albino Boo]

220 lbs

 

[DeadlyYellow]

I have dysthymia. I can usually keep it under control, but every now and then I get hit with an overwhelming sense of utter despair. Not fun for any relationship.

 

[Tekkawarrior]

Memory of a goldfish, I think she thinks that I don't care to listen to her, but infact I listen and forget 1 day later, sometimes even quicker.

 

[SonicWaffle]

I can't tell her I love her. We broke up once because I fell out of love with her, and through some circumstances I won't go in to here, we got back together. I just don't think I love her anymore, even though I love spending time with her. She's so desperate to hear me say it, and it's hard when she says "I love you" in such a hopeful way because I never know what to say back.

 

[wooty]

Its the opposite for me, my GF is off to the University of Toronto this september for a year to do her masters degree. I think it would be better if we split for now and see how it goes, but she doesnt want to. I guess thinking about thats taking up a lot of thought these days.

 

[clipse15]

For a long time I was a financial burden. I was basically broke for a couple years and she would support me and loan me money and pay for the both of us whenever we went out which was quite often. She said it never bothered her but I still felt like a shit.

 

[-Samurai-]

My last relationship I ruined because of my jealousy (which, to be fair, wasn't entirely unfounded..) and I can be and will be cruel when I'm hurt by someone I love, which is something I detest about myself but I can't help it. By the time I realise what I've said, the damage is done.

Exactly the same here. My accusations of her cheating weren't false, and I took the opportunity in any argument to do as much(verbal. I'd never physically abuse anyone) damage as I could. I took a ton of cheap shots. Then again, she had it coming.

I guess the burden I put on her was my refusal to fully grow up. I worked multiple jobs to pay the bills, but when I had free time, I wanted to spend it gaming and hanging out with friends. I cared more about having fun than making sure rent was paid on time.

 

[Treeinthewoods]

Small - I let my wife make lunch for me every day, but I don't ask her to (she just gets up and packs it).

Major - A 12 pound ball of wiggly cuteness that wakes up early and doesn't like to be set down for most of the evening when it's play time. Still, I help her out when I'm home and I worked my schedule down to a meer 40 hours instead of 50 so I could be home.

Putting your load on someone elses shoulders is great, you just have to help them shoulder their load occassionally as well.

 

[fenrizz]

I am a very jealous man.
Very, very jealous.

But she knows what I can accept, and what I can not.

 

[Pinstar]

I had unprotected sex with my wife and put a burder on/in her in the form of a baby. Of course she's given birth at this point so the burden is ours to share. All said and done, it is one awesome little burden to have.

 

[Ham_authority95]

I'm too obsessive, so that would be a problem.

I also have a bit of a problem meeting new people, so if she tried to drag me somewhere to meet others, it would be awkward.

 

[child of lileth]

I have extreme anxiety during the Summer months because of a lot of things that happened over the years, which is also a time when I also get sick alot, for other reasons. That, and I'm a tsundere most of the time when I'm with them, which alot of partners can't handle.

 

[Snake Plissken]

My friends come over quite often because I've always maintained an open house. They often come over with about 20 minutes notice. My girlfriend gets along with all of my friends and has never mentioned anything about it, but I would assume that it may be perturbing sometimes.

Also, we ended up having to get a 2 bedroom to store my studio. Thus, I have about 6 guitars, a keyboard, and all sorts of recording equipment because I needed that extra space for my stuff.

 

[Hurray Forums]

When I say I love cuddling and being with someone, I mean it.

If lots of cuddling is a burden on your partner I want to be the relationship equivalent of Atlas.

 

[Questalace]

I'm a bit unstable I guess, one time I got alittle hurt and I'm really not able to deal with emotional pain so I stabbed/pierced a needle through my hand and started twisting the skin around whilest she was sat opposite me, I guess I'm abit of a idiot sometimes, she dislikes me hurting myself so didn't take kindly to it.