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I am touched and happy with the response that I have gotten from this thread, trolls notwithstanding (its the internet, what can you do?)

Still, I think there are a few things I've seen that popped up in this thread.

CrazyGirl17 said:
(Waves) Hi, I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome when I was four or five years old, but have been in mainstream schooling ever since third grade (and whoever said people with Asperger's are good at math never met me...)

I have much disdain for people who are "self-proclaimed" Autistics, as well as people who use it as an excuse to be assholes, such as "he-who-shall-not-be-named"...
I have a confession to make.

The original purpose of this thread was to see if the "self-diagnosed man-child getting out of self-improvement" stereotype was true. I mean, it gets trumpeted a lot in these discussions, and while part of it lies in ones misunderstanding in what it means to be sick (ie if your sick you get treatment to get well again) it also rests with the fact that there are autistics out there who are, sadly, stupid! We have associated intellect to autism and aspergers, but they are not traits that are looked for when a diagnosis is made.

This socially-awkward Pokemon fan is someone I have never ran into. However, it might be just the company I keep, but I haven't even ran into one online.

I've ran into the "I have a feeling that I might be this" person, which I usually laugh off as they all have been higher-functioning people making it on their own and therefore a formal diagnosis would be a waste of time. But these people never would claim to have autism, nor use it to excuse rotten behaviour.

Now,I have heard of the occasional case of a rape defendant making an insanity plea on the grounds that they were autistic and honestly thought the victim wanted it. As sick as it makes me, I had to wonder if there are autistics who are so bad at reading social cues and body language that they would unknowingly rape someone, or if they are just using it as an excuse to get out of a heavy prison sentence and being listed on a sex offender registry? Much of that depends on how good of a get out of jail free card screaming autism is, regardless of whether or not the defendant actually has autism.

In my humble opinion, its only good for wriggling money out of the government. I'm using my disorder to help financing my education after all. I could go on ODSP if I wanted to. However, I am not interested in a variant of welfare, and I know I could make more money if I actually worked. Outside of that, it isn't very useful for deals unless you are lower-functioning. Lower-functioning as in can barely talk.

Now, most of the thread responds claim to have been diagnosed by a professional. Not scientific, but at least we aren't seeing any Chris-chens (or at least ones who aren't just trolls acting like assholes). Many of you still want to thrive independantly and aren't using the disorder as a trump card.

So, unless you think their faking for a free pass, if they say their autistic, their probably autistic.

Athinira said:
Diagnosed with Aspergers at 21 (mild case fortunately). Dealt with it for the most part through behavior-training (or rehabilitation), but it's impossible to completely escape, given that it's a a genetical trait.

I recommend others diagnosed with Aspergers who feel that they have trouble socializing, to give it a shot like me. There is a lot of books and courses that can help you. I actually started out with dating/pickup material from David DeAngelo, since a lot of the stuff he teaches about attraction also works in pretty much all other social interaction, including building confidence, being humorous etc. I've got much more control over my behavior now, and find that people respond to me more positively.
Actually that is a treatment option that is advocated by the pros themselves to patients. Part of life is having to deal with other people, whether you like it or not, on a regular bases. No man is an island, right?

SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
I wish I could read this thread but I have to laugh every time I read "aspie", so I cant.

I mean, could they have named this any more unfortunately? Why dont you just go ahead and call the whole syndrome dicklicker?

*Ahem*

Anyway.

I dont think I have ever met an aspie (heh) IRL. Kinda weird when you think about it, considering so many people are diagnosed.
Well, Aspergers Syndrome was named after a German psycologist named... Hans Asperger [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hans_Asperger]. Why would someone have the name turd sandwich? Well, actually the word 'asperger' is German for 'asparagus.' So in reality, its named after a vegetable!

Actually, that isn't much better.

Though, it is possible that you could go your day-to-day life and not know an autistic person. Throughout my life I've only had one gay friend despite 1/10 of the population being gay/lesbian/bi.

It isn't helped that, like other groups, they tend to congregate in certain places. Like the internet.

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Lugbzurg said:
I am autistic. I have Aspergers, and it's awesome.

It's what has made me who I am, and I would not trade it away. I say this, because, there are people out to "cure" autism, thinking it's a disease. It's not. Not in the slightest. If someone were trying to inject me with a needle that would remove my aspergers, I would have to give them several warnings, before beating them senseless. You kill my aspergers, you pretty much kill me. It's how I've been able to create everything I've come up with, and why I tend to be so different from everyone else. And I love it! I just can't stand normality, and often walk backwards down the hall, or strike action poses or Matrix moves when doing something athletic, just for the fun of it. No one else around me seems to be like this, because, they all like to be normal.

If it weren't for my autism, I never would have come up with the following under my own completely standard mindset...
Oh my God, SO MUCH THIS!!
I'll be honest. This viewpoint creeps me out a little. I mean, its like being proud that your missing toes, or proud that you have a debilitating physical disorder like spina bifida. Sure, they are sever enough to hinder you, and force you to take certain paths, but take pride that there is something wrong with you?

Are you in denial? Are you scared that the treatment options will destroy what makes you you? That so much of your personality, and what makes you unique and special, hinge on this, that without it you cease to be? I've read that schizophrenics have similar misgivings about treatment. If you have hallucinations, some of which can be scary, you would want something done about it? If you are missing the ability to connect with others, don't you want something done about it?

I'm autistic myself, so I get it. However, autism is something that I have that hinders me, and while what hinders you is as just a part of you as what helps you, I can say straight-facedly that autism is not core to who I am. I'll say it to you: it is not the core of who you are.

I can prove it in a way.

Think of all the things you love in your life: people, places, things, franchises, and so forth. Ask yourself, if you were not autistic, would you love any of these less?

Now, you may, no question, love some of these things less. I mean, in my own case, I may not have entered gaming without the autism. Some of the obsessive behaviour needed for early games played into this, and much of my functionality as a human being is owed to The Legend of Zelda: Links Awakening for placing me in worlds where I could roam around with a higher purpose while learning the basics of reading and problem solving.

However, in my case, without the autism, would I have any less malplaced love for David Tennant? I mean, I'm 24, female, and straight. I'm also fat - this plays a role in the preferred body-type you want. My parents were in their thirties when I was born, which means I don't mind my 'hotties' (subjective, I know) to be older than myself. I live in North America, where people finding the British attractive is commonplace. As for discovering his existence in the first place, well, you don't need autism to be a nerd (though arguably it might help), and my parents (whom are not autistic) are big sci-fi and fantasy fans, and my mom is a big Doctor Who fan, so of course I would have seen episodes of the rebooted series, and later have that sad epiphany while reading on the web one night.

If I wasn't autistic anymore, would I rip up that one poster I have of him and erect one of Robert Pattinson instead? Course I'm not a fan of Twilight, and I think Rob doesn't look that attractive, and I think that if I was a normal human being that wouldn't change.

I could go on, but then this would be creepier than it already is.

Alas, some people want to 'cure' autism because most people with autism are going to be children forever, and this scares parents to death the thought that their kid will never go, move out, and start a family of their own. It isn't the maligned Pokemon fan either: they are my fatass brother who can barely string a sentence, has trouble comprehending spoken language himself, is strictly compulsive... this is someone who can't function in society and never really had a chance.

Though, my humble opinion. I would give pretty much anything to feel like a human being and not like an alien pretending to be human. I believe autism has done that to me. It has made me a stranger to my own self, and a stranger even in my own family. I want to connect with others, but they can't understand me, and I can't understand them.
 

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In grade 6, I took medication that suppressed my Aspergers. And do you know what? Grade 6 was actually the happiest year of my life. I wasn't quite as sharp and my memory was dim, but I made friends and excelled in my classes. The medication later stopped working, so I stopped taking it, and while I still remember 6th Grade fondly, in hindsight... if given the chance to supress my Autism again, I wouldn't take it. Yes that year was the happiest of my life, but it wasn't part of my life... it was someone else living in my body.

I've learned that my Autism is who I am, and to supress it is tantamount to suicide. I would never kill the person I am like that again.
 

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According to papers I got from the hospital (more on that in a bit), I was diagnosed with Aperger's Syndrome when I was in high school. Thing was, I didn't find this out until last summer, when I was released from the hospital, which I was 19 and done with high school for a year. Glad there were people out there to try to help me deal with this!
 

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I was diagnosed with aspergers during third grade. I would never chose to make my autism go away.Is autism at my core, both yes and no. There are many things that have influenced who I am, but many of the traits that I would use to describe my self are characteristic of autism. This would probably change if I was moved to another country and elements of US culture was what made me stand out, but being around people with similar life experiences as me (middle class, white, American ect) I find traits affiliated with autism what makes me different, and I take pride in that difference. Autistic traits have helped and hurt me at different times. The feeling of isolation that comes from being autistic can at times be invigorating and at other times soul crushing. Typically I am so full of contempt for people that the not being able to connect to them is a source of pride rather than a source of pain. Though there are times when I would give anything for a hand to hold. I have been able to make friends through comptive debate (I competed four years in high school, four years in college and have coached for three years about to start my forth). Many debaters didn't hold my differences agensit me and won't my friends out of pity, instead we formed friendships out of mutual respect. For me therapy never worked because I distrusted anyone who wanted to "cure" me (that included my Mom for quit a while). In the end I only was able to trust the people on my debate team because they weren't the type of people that I was supposed to make friends with. My expernce have taught me to catorgize people. There are friends who you don't need to hide your autisitc traits from, there are idiot people in ahtority for you to minipulate by acting normal, and the hored of people who don't matter and you can ignore.

While I would never chose to be "cured" of autism I find it hard to stand in judgment of others who wish to be. While I was mostly mainstreamed I was around people with lower functioning autism kids who would never be able to go on a forum like this, who would never be able to take care of themselves. I couldn't tell the parent of that child that they shouldn't look for ways to get their child to a point where he could be self suffecent.
 

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I was diagnosed with it when I was 19, barely a few months ago now. I had been diagnosed with depression prior and this new diagnosis basically helped identify why some treatments hadn't been working, why my social ticks were what they were, why the habits I kept repeating were ones I wasn't learning from and such. It's really helped and has given me a much better outlook on life since, because I know what I have and how to deal with it effectively instead of flailing around confused wondering why I'm having such a hard time, like, meeting new people. I see my very wonderful psychologist about once a month and thanks to the diagnosis I've entered what could be the happiest period of my life so far.

It's strange not growing up with the realization, my parents didn't want to get me diagnosed despite suspicions and so bought me up "normally," if that makes sense, and it gives me a great deal of perspective. I feel I'm better off for it, though certainly there would have been a great deal many advantages to knowing as a child rather than just as I reach adulthood.
 

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My two little bros are autistic to varying degrees. Myself, I've no clue - I don't much care, since knowing won't change much.

Also, all the people making fun of & outright insulting autistic people in this thread need to do horrible things to themselves.
 

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FutureJarhead16 said:
I'm pretty sure 99% of the 'people' on this site call themselves autistic
What's with the scare quotes around the word people, are you implying that autistic people aren't actually people?
 

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JoJo said:
FutureJarhead16 said:
I'm pretty sure 99% of the 'people' on this site call themselves autistic
What's with the scare quotes around the word people, are you implying that autistic people aren't actually people?
What with the phrase "call themselves", I think he's just implying the plain ol' Escapist membership aren't people.
 

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OhJohnNo said:
JoJo said:
FutureJarhead16 said:
I'm pretty sure 99% of the 'people' on this site call themselves autistic
What's with the scare quotes around the word people, are you implying that autistic people aren't actually people?
What with the phrase "call themselves", I think he's just implying the plain ol' Escapist membership aren't people.
Perhaps, but then he's a member of the Escapist too, that'd imply he isn't a person either, unless he's the one enlightened true person amongst us lowly regular forum-goers 0.o
 

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My brother in law has Asperger's he's an insufferable dick-head. Who thinks he knows everything about everything and will disregard you even if you have physical proof he is wrong he acts like and will flat out state he's 'better than most' at any activity. He works in retail and constantly tells stories about people who are 'morons' who to me sound like they're asking reasonable questions. No to mention he talks down to his mother and sister (my mother-in-law and wife) for silly things. He wasn't diagnosed until he was about 33 when his fiance and him went to pre-marriage classes (with a priest/psychologist that I recommended) and then he was recommended to a specialist.

That being said I'm not sure how much of that is Asperger's and how much is just personality flaws.

JoJo said:
OhJohnNo said:
JoJo said:
FutureJarhead16 said:
I'm pretty sure 99% of the 'people' on this site call themselves autistic
What's with the scare quotes around the word people, are you implying that autistic people aren't actually people?
What with the phrase "call themselves", I think he's just implying the plain ol' Escapist membership aren't people.
Perhaps, but then he's a member of the Escapist too, that'd imply he isn't a person either, unless he's the one enlightened true person amongst us lowly regular forum-goers 0.o
Or he's saying a lot of people on this site are full of crap and tend to declare themselves to have a condition or ability without actually knowing. example: start a thread on 'which hand do you use' 50% of our site is ambidextrous despite the fact less than 1% of all people are.

That's my best guess.

I sure can't think of anyone who would claim to be autistic/aspie that isn't though.
 

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Lugbzurg said:
I am autistic. I have Aspergers, and it's awesome.

It's what has made me who I am, and I would not trade it away. I say this, because, there are people out to "cure" autism, thinking it's a disease. It's not. Not in the slightest. If someone were trying to inject me with a needle that would remove my aspergers, I would have to give them several warnings, before beating them senseless. You kill my aspergers, you pretty much kill me. It's how I've been able to create everything I've come up with, and why I tend to be so different from everyone else. And I love it! I just can't stand normality, and often walk backwards down the hall, or strike action poses or Matrix moves when doing something athletic, just for the fun of it. No one else around me seems to be like this, because, they all like to be normal.

If it weren't for my autism, I never would have come up with the following under my own completely standard mindset...
Lugbzurg said:
One day, the craziest videogame idea I had ever thought of popped into my head during one of those "Don't do Drugs" presentations in high school. That should give you some context. It's called "Noble". And it makes no sense at all.

Reginald Noble awakes from his chambers and strolls around the military base. He is the only one dressed casually, and the only one in the entire complex speaking informally.

When war breaks out, Reggie breaks out his three-headed chaingun and charges out against the enemy forces in a brown/gray environment, with plenty of cover, and some extra second gun (like a shotgun, or something). It all seems like your average cookie-cutter shooter for a few minutes, until the freaky monsters start showing up.

Before you know it, you're fighting elephants with machine guns, pixelated things inside a 16-Bit dimension and battling flying textbooks that breathe fire and horrible flesh-hungry food in Mr. Noble's old high school.

It plays in a very oldschool style, reminiscent of Serious Sam, Duke Nukem or Quake. You've got weapons that shoot things like chickens and fireworks. Mines come in the form of wet cats, Reginald's melee attack is a headbutt and you gain health by chasing down anthropomorphic food that screams and runs away when it sees you (mostly doughnuts with eyeballs), all like the cheese or the key in Conker's Bad Fur Day.

Did I mention this game makes absolutely no sense and solely exists to be as ridiculous as possible?
Just because you are able to combine a plethora of crazy ideas, does not make you a unique asperger suffering snowflake. And it doesn't mean that you would not have these ideas, if you didn't have asperger. My average dreams consists of crazier stuff and I am not suffering from any autism.
So congratz, your disease made you into a person of random acts, while everyone is stuck being 'normal'. Actually feel a bit insulted by your post. Not sure why. Maybe it's seeing denial turned into personal glory.

Hmm, something I need to think about.
 

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Freechoice said:
Well don't make ignorant blanket statements then. It's not that hard.
Funny, because I just explained that I did none of that.

And did you learn "blanket statements" on The Escapist too? Because this site's vocabulary is poor. It seems we can only use buzzwords.

JoJo said:
FutureJarhead16 said:
I'm pretty sure 99% of the 'people' on this site call themselves autistic
What's with the scare quotes around the word people, are you implying that autistic people aren't actually people?
Reading comprehension, do you need it?

My personal interpretation:
- Either he is saying that The Escapists are not people, they are just internet personas
- He is saying that an account does not correlate to a person - having multi accounts is possible

Just because his intent is not clear, there is no need to put words in his post to make him look bad.
 

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Well, I've had Self Diagnosed Asperger's Syndrome Syndrome for a while in my late teens. Turns out I'm just introverted and shy:(
 

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I'm not autistic, but I know several people who've been diagnosed with autism or Asperger's (including an ex-boyfriend of mine). I'm no doctor, but knowing these people very well for an extended period of time, I'm 99% sure that there's nothing wrong with the majority of them.

I completely understand that these conditions are real, but I do think they're horribly over-diagnosed (along with the likes of depression and ADHD). My parents are both doctors, and they raise two interesting points:

1- normal family doctors are NOT mental health specialists. They really don't know all that much about these conditions, especially compared to actual mental health professionals. Neither of them is comfortable making these sorts of calls except in the most obvious of cases, so they always refer people on to a suitable specialist. However, many doctors do not do this, and this leads to over-diagnosis.

2- the autistic spectrum is so massive that if you look hard enough you could probably find grounds to diagnose just about anyone as mildly autistic.
 

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Eamar said:
I'm not autistic, but I know several people who've been diagnosed with autism or Asperger's (including an ex-boyfriend of mine). I'm no doctor, but knowing these people very well for an extended period of time, I'm 99% sure that there's nothing wrong with the majority of them.

I completely understand that these conditions are real, but I do think they're horribly over-diagnosed (along with the likes of depression and ADHD). My parents are both doctors, and they raise two interesting points:

1- normal family doctors are NOT mental health specialists. They really don't know all that much about these conditions, especially compared to actual mental health professionals. Neither of them is comfortable making these sorts of calls except in the most obvious of cases, so they always refer people on to a suitable specialist. However, many doctors do not do this, and this leads to over-diagnosis.

2- the autistic spectrum is so massive that if you look hard enough you could probably find grounds to diagnose just about anyone as mildly autistic.
I have to agree with the sentiment that Autism is over-diagnosed. I mean, I remember when they found out that about 80% of individuals with ADHD didn't actually have ADHD, and now you need a brain-scan to diagnose someone with ADD/ADHD...

Wait, General Practitioners are making these calls? How fucked is the American Health-Care system that a GP can diagnose someone with a mental disorder? Aren't psychiatrists suppose to make that call? Last I check its even an exhausting process for many disorders... this is why it can talk six-months to diagnose someone with schizophrenia. Geezs, someone might want to look into that.

I have to agree with the second point, though it isn't just autism that suffers from that. I had explained to me that anyone who is a bit stressed can be diagnosed with a mental disorder. Sigh.
 

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Mikodite said:
I have to agree with the sentiment that Autism is over-diagnosed. I mean, I remember when they found out that about 80% of individuals with ADHD didn't actually have ADHD, and now you need a brain-scan to diagnose someone with ADD/ADHD...

Wait, General Practitioners are making these calls? How fucked is the American Health-Care system that a GP can diagnose someone with a mental disorder? Aren't psychiatrists suppose to make that call? Last I check its even an exhausting process for many disorders... this is why it can talk six-months to diagnose someone with schizophrenia. Geezs, someone might want to look into that.

I have to agree with the second point, though it isn't just autism that suffers from that. I had explained to me that anyone who is a bit stressed can be diagnosed with a mental disorder. Sigh.
I'm from the UK, so I have no idea what the situation is in America. But yes, in some cases GPs diagnose this. Or, more likely, they mention it as a possibility and the patient takes that as a diagnosis.
 

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I have aspergers but I don't see how it makes life any different. To be fair I only have a mild case but still if you think having it is cool then I doubt you actually have it because the reality of the situation is having people tell you that your somehow different to other people while you try to work out how the heck your actually any different. Unless scientist somehow work out a way to allow us to view the way other people's minds work I doubt we'll even know, for all I know I act the same way any other normal person acts.

I'm not doubting other people have it worst then me just that it's always weird when people say "I have aspergers and it's awesome!" what the extremely difficult social skills is good? Not to call anyone out on their bullshit but for me I have a hard time believing someone has a disability the instant they say they like having it. I'm truly sorry if this offends anyone and if it's simply the way you handle having your disability I get that but it just seems weird to me.
 

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This thread has taught me two things:

1. The Escapist has some sort of aspergers gravitational pull.
2. If you make any joke regarding aspergers then people will descend upon you like ravenous wolves.

I think people need to lighten up a little bit.
 

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1. The annoying thing is you can't tell who's lying and who telling the truth
2. I'd say it depends. I don't people mocking me but sometimes jokes about aspergers can be funny like the episode of South Park "Ass Burgers"