can i be called a pervert??

[Jim-a-Lim]

As a Teacher I can tell you that if the parents are ok with your relationship to these children and are comfortable with what goes on, then you shouldnt let it trouble you . Personally I would not be able or feel comfortable myself with your situation but that is just me .

Perverted acts are something that is damaging primarily on the child and these children feel happy in your space and your comfortable letting them be there. So no not perverted , inappriopriate? Well as a practicing proffessional, I would avoid anything like this as though it were the black death. Seriously. We have children visit the house sometimes and I do not allow them to stay with me alone for any real period of time. Why? Because it's wrong for me. That's not my role within my proffession, and anything that could put me in such a light would be reckless for me to entertain.

But you? Your a friend on a personal level to these guys and the parents are fine with it. Don't let it bother you, it's perfectly normal to consider whether or not it's an issue, if anything it shows how much you care about them, and how important thier safety is to you! If this neighbour wouldn't feel fine with it, that's her perspective on her children, and it's wrongful to force her values onto someone else's children, just as it would be unfair to force putting her children into a position that she doesn't feel comfortable with . She's right, your right and most of all enjoy the great relationship you have with these kid's because it's a special one. As precious to them as it clearly is to you.

 

[Tiny116]

It's borderline
If the kids turned on you (And seeing they are 7 and 11 lets be honest it's in the realms of possibility)
And said you did do something its your word against theirs. And people ALWAYS believe the kids.
There is no such thing as innocent until proven guilty in this day and age only Guilty unless proven otherwise.
And even then once accused of paedophilia it's a stain that never washes out.

So my advice to you is to have a conversation with your neighbours kids and explain they are to old to have you sleeping in the room with them.
(I had a close call a few years ago with a 12 year old girl who wouldn't leave me alone. I was 19 at the time. It could have been bad. Luckily it wasn't)

 

[PeePantz]

Although you might have not done anything sexual with the children, I do find you to be inappropriate. Why would a 19 year old sleep next to an 11 year old and a 7 year old (a fifth and second grader). At the very least, the eleven year old should be able to sleep by himself/herself. This is an awkward situation and you should put up boundaries. A 19 year old sleeps a lot different than pre-adolescents and even for sleeping reasons, this is not right. Sleeping is very intimate and one should not share it with someone else unless there is an appropriate bond between the parties involved. Michael Jackson was wrong to do this (regardless if he diddled them or not), and you are as well.

Also, you are a pedophile. A pedophile means that you love kids. A pederast is one who sexually loves them, which you are probably not.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

Well as long as you didn't feel sexually aroused at all, then no you aren't a pervert. All just because you slept in the same room with them doesn't mean that you are a pervert. Parents will occasionally let their kids sleep in their beds with them. Does that make them not only pedophiles, but also incestuous pedophiles?

If sleeping in the same room with someone that it is "wrong" to have sex with makes you a pervert, then I'm sure we're all perverts because I doubt anyone has always sleep alone in their own room with nobody else.

 

[mParadox]

ya ain't perverted.

 

[hudsonzero]

only if you get a boner

 

[Aedwynn]

You can be called anything by anyone at any time. The truth is often irrelevant.

 

[Admiral Stukov]

What? No!

Let me ask, are you an american? Because in my experience americans tend to be ridiculously protctive about their personal space.

And somhow think that a glimpse of the female nipple somehow is harmful to the minds of everyone below the age of 35, while violence is completly ok. (but thats beside the point)

 

[Julianking93]

Well, as some people may know from a thread I made a while back, I used to take care of children at a daycare centre I worked at for a long time.

I also babysat from time to time and the kids always seemed to love me and want me to sleep next to them if I had to stay the night or if they were just tired, so I let them. The parents didn't mind it and if you're not a creep who wants to start diddling little kids, they won't mind you doing it either.

 

[sheogoraththemad]

you give about the kids, the kids obvious feel safe when you sleep next to them and doing this only shows that you care about those kids, and for that

Spoiler

 

[Brandon237]

Nah, and that's just one heck of a shifty-eyed mother giving you problems. You just looked after them and so long as you didn't do anything with sexual intent, your good. On this case, anyway.

 

[JEBWrench]

It's inappropriate, certainly.

But that doesn't make you a pervert. Though you still can be called one.

 

[FolkLikePanda]

No you're not but I can see the Mom's just being protective of her children.

 

[Neofishie]

I thought this was going to be a request at first.

Then I realized you wanted opinions. Here's mine:

"Meh."

I would be worried about it unless A) you were aroused sexually or B) people start saying mean things to you.

There's far worse things out there than your story.

 

[EliteFreq]

I'd say at most it just seems a bit weird, totally understandable, but weird. I wouldn't go as far as calling you a pervert though (unless you were my friend and I used it as a way of making juvenile jokes).

 

[Giest4life]

Depends on who's doing the calling. Probably, yes.

 

[Phoenixlight]

Inappropriate? Yeah probably. Perverted? It doesn?t looks like it from what you?ve put.

 

[Blind Sight]

Having just been on the thread about sexuality, im curious as to if your worried about sharing a bed with someone of the same sex... What about sharing the bed with a young child or even 2 whom you are babysitting.

Im 19, but last year i used to babysit my neighbour's 2 kids a lot. The oldest was 11 and the youngest was 7yrs old. Both used to like sleeping beside me in my room, and my mum would be in her room. Obviously i never laid a hand on them nor had any intention seeing as i treat and love them like brother and sister to me, not only that but to be honest, i hated sleeping beside them because id often end up battered and thrown off the bed before morning, but the kids insisted on me sleeping beside them.
However one of the girl's friends lives in the same street and her mum thinks its inappropriate and you can tell from her attitude that she seems to think im some sort of pervert.

Can you honestly call someone a pervert for this??

Not perverted, but I suggest you cut that out if you don't want to end up with a buggery case in the future. Should one of those kids get older and decide to fuck you over by claiming you sexually abused them, it will go to court, regardless of whether they have evidence or not. A friend of mine is going through that right now, some drug-addicted criminal who he supported in the Big Brothers program years ago came forward and claimed some shit. Not only has this guy been in prison before, but he's been charged with lying to the police. And the case is still going to trial.

No, but with the pedophile witch hunts raging across the world, it's best to avoid any situation that carries unfortunate implications.

This guy's got the right idea, I've been told by high school teachers to never take up teaching and never to be alone in a room with a student, because eventually some little asshole is going to try to claim something.

 

[Robert632]

If you touch them inappropraitly, then yes. If not, then no.

 

[TwitchierGuitar]

No that's not being perverted. I drilled a hole in the weight lifting room in my gym so i could see everything that goes on in the women's locker room. Classic case of voyeurism, or better yet, me being my version of a pervert, an oppurtunistic horn-dog?