Can I get some advice?

[Berethond]

Yeah, but face it, you're in high school. All you're gonna be doing is spending m oney on another man's wife.

BTW
Life Sucks.

Want to share something? Come on, let it out.

The fact that life sucks is common knowledge. I thought everyone knew that.

Yet the context and the "another man's wife" (???) part made it look suspicious.

Oh.

Dating in high school is like spending money on another man's wife because you never marry the people you go to school with. (rare exceptions noted)

...so? Are you saying that relationships that don't end with marriage are worthless? You're either very practical or very romantic.

I'm just extremely depressed and alone right now.

I don't want to piss you off by giving advice, but I (no stranger to loneliness and depression myslef) wonder how you'd respond to something like that: I realised that there are more important (and permanent) things in life than happiness: freedom, success, satisfaction. It's good to make some progress in your life no matter what happens around you. Also suffering really does make you stronger (and a more interesting person for sure)
There was a fameous quote about a tree and wind ilustrating what I mean, but I can't find it.

Well, thanks for the advice. And I believe what I'm searching for can be called an enduring, 'long-term happiness.'

And I do know that quote, something about an Oak tree and the wind blowing off the leaves and it now knowing exactly how strong it was.

 

[lizards]

take it from me when i was in high school i was friends with this girl and better yet she and my other 2 best friends were all friends with her to

well me and her started hanging out alone with eachother more and more until we got to where we both liked eachother i was afraid because we both knew that if we did start dating it would get serious because after being friends for 5 years we knew we get along wonderfuly but i was afraid of "but what happens if we dont work out and we arent friends anymore?" well we both kind of made little passes at eachother (including a night where we both were drunk and well you can figure the rest out by yourself) but still we never postively were going out and one day i got news that made my heart sink and my face go ghost white she was moving and well

i havent seen her since

she was the only fucking person to move away in highschool too not one other person left but i guess that serves me right

you need to go for it hell we could be married right now if i didnt fuck up but now im alone just having 1 night stands going to college trying to forget about her getting drunk but i guess my cynical "fuck god and fuck everyone else" look on life doesnt help very much either

dont believe someone when they say that its better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all because its bullshit if that never would have happened i would be happy instead of lonely and just trying to get by by getting drunk playing gears of war all night and picking up as many women as i can

 

[INF1NIT3 D00M]

Do it. Ask her out. I hope I'm not too late.
What's the worst that could happen?
Are you afraid she'll say no? or are you afraid she'll say yes?
Think of it this way:
If she says no, its back to friends. Its like you never asked. There's no harm in trying.
If she says yes, you can relax. Go home and be happy. You now have a date.

Just for goodness sake, ask. If you don't, you'll always wonder if it would have worked.
Not asking will hurt more than rejection ever will...

 

[Grenbyron]

Ask her out. But before you do make some plans just in case. If she says yes then hoary for you. If not then run with your plans. Helps if the two are the same. Plan to see a movie and see if she wants to come along.

Good luck. Worst she can do is say no.

 

[Grenbyron]

Do it. Ask her out. I hope I'm not too late.
What's the worst that could happen?
Are you afraid she'll say no? or are you afraid she'll say yes?
Think of it this way:
If she says no, its back to friends. Its like you never asked. There's no harm in trying.
If she says yes, you can relax. Go home and be happy. You now have a date.

Just for goodness sake, ask. If you don't, you'll always wonder if it would have worked.
Not asking will hurt more than rejection ever will...

Yeah... that was what I was rambling about.

 

[Specter_]

I agree, after all whats the worst that could happen? (in realistic terms)

She laughs in your face and mocks you for the rest of her natural life.

But thats an extreme, realistically it'll probably just be a no.

Worth the leap right?

The way you say it, no it's not worth it

OP:
Go for it.

 

[INF1NIT3 D00M]

sorry Grenbyron.
XD I didnt read anyone else's posts...

 

[Trivun]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice, since I'm always in the 'friendzone' and I don't actually take my own advice (since I'm an idiot and a coward). But go for it. Talk to her, ask her out, and if she says yes then you win, and if she says no then try to stay friends. I did that a while ago, the girl said no, but we stayed friends (even though she then started dating one of my friends, that annoyed me but I got over it). That said, I'm too afraid to ask out someone else I like because I'm worried she'll say no, and I'm basically an idiot (as mentioned above...).

 

[Snowalker]

I'm probably not the best person to give advice, since I'm always in the 'friendzone' and I don't actually take my own advice (since I'm an idiot and a coward). But go for it. Talk to her, ask her out, and if she says yes then you win, and if she says no then try to stay friends. I did that a while ago, the girl said no, but we stayed friends (even though she then started dating one of my friends, that annoyed me but I got over it). That said, I'm too afraid to ask out someone else I like because I'm worried she'll say no, and I'm basically an idiot (as mentioned above...).

I feel like I'll be in your shoes though, one of my friends has asked her out, she said she's not really interested in dating, but that was a couple of weeks ago, but she still hasn't given him an answer.

 

[wewontdie11]

Screw whatever negative ramifications you think may result from her turning you down or whatever, just ask her. No pain no gain. Even if she does deny you, it's only that one little word, "No".

If I had a pound for every time I'd been turned down by a girl over the past 3 years I'd have exactly 7 pounds. Yes I am that much of a loser, but I'm glad I at least tried because two words a whole lot worse than "no" are "what if...".

 

[SotK]

I feel like I'll be in your shoes though, one of my friends has asked her out, she said she's not really interested in dating, but that was a couple of weeks ago, but she still hasn't given him an answer.

Maybe she is hoping you ask her?

Anyway, I say you go for it. You'll regret it if you don't.

 

[Necrophagist]

Ok, some of you know I created a forum awhile back, me talking about this girl who was taken at the time, most of you said I was in the friendzone, well, she's single now. Today i've had the best day in my life so far, me, a friend, and her were goin to go walking and hangout at our park, but the friend cancled, so it was just me and her talking, and somewhere through the jokes she said "I had a really good dream last night, I want to see how much of it comes true, and don't ask what it was cause I'm not going to tell you."

My first thought was unrelated to our relationship, but the more and more I think about it, is she wanting me to ask her out?, she knows how I feel about her, and she's told me she's taking this break up pretty hard, and I don't want to be pushy. So I need some advice, what do you think she was talking about, and should I ask her out?


P.S. please don't say "forget it your in the friendzone" cause that really doesn't help at all

Fuck her then fuck her sister.

I didn't even read your post.

But that's good advice right there.

 

[mhitman]

wait to long and she'll be taken again

 

[Snowalker]

Ok, some of you know I created a forum awhile back, me talking about this girl who was taken at the time, most of you said I was in the friendzone, well, she's single now. Today i've had the best day in my life so far, me, a friend, and her were goin to go walking and hangout at our park, but the friend cancled, so it was just me and her talking, and somewhere through the jokes she said "I had a really good dream last night, I want to see how much of it comes true, and don't ask what it was cause I'm not going to tell you."

My first thought was unrelated to our relationship, but the more and more I think about it, is she wanting me to ask her out?, she knows how I feel about her, and she's told me she's taking this break up pretty hard, and I don't want to be pushy. So I need some advice, what do you think she was talking about, and should I ask her out?


P.S. please don't say "forget it your in the friendzone" cause that really doesn't help at all

Fuck her then fuck her sister.

I didn't even read your post.

But that's good advice right there.

Thanks for a chuckle, but she only has a brother, and I'm not willing to experiment...

 

[Necrophagist]

Fuck her, then fuck her best friend. Preferably at the same time.

 

[Snowalker]

Fuck her, then fuck her best friend. Preferably at the same time.

Hmm... Her best friend is kinda cute...

 

[Nomad]

Definately ask her out. She already knows how you feel, so theres zero chance of her freaking out. Worst case scenario is you just remain friends, and you know how she feels.

That's exactly what I was going to say, but Talendra beat me to it. Well said!

 

[Kodlak]

Just go for it, if it helps your nerves have a drink.
Disclaimer: I am not promoting the consumption of alcoholic beverages.

 

[Joselyn]

Without doubt she's telling you in an inadvertant way, that she wants you to make
a move....she's just enjoying the fact that the pressure of the situation
is going to get to you...and it is...obviously!
But, in simple terms, what I'm trying to say above is, GO FOR IT!!!
She wants you to do make a move...she's just testing to see if you have the balls...lol

 

[Snowalker]

Well, a bit of an update, I did ask her out. She said, she wasn't ready just yet, but she's already been thinking it over, she said she's kinda worried about hurting my or my friends feelings too. So I'm still waiting on an answer.