Cheating on People

[Sneaky-Pie]

I've been cheated on... by my wife.

It's really a long and complicated story, but I have yet to feel a worse feeling than the moment I found out. Nothing quite like being betrayed by the person you were supposed to trust the most.

I never once considered cheating on her and now that I know how it makes one feel, I could never cause someone else to feel that pain.

Those who willingly cheat... I find it rather disgusting and they should morally examine themselves. There is never a good and or valid excuse.

My advice for those who have been cheated on? Forgive them.

 

[archvile93]

If you want to sleep around, don't commit. Ther's no reason to hurt others while you're at it.

 

[Pegghead]

I don't see the point of it either. Maybe it's the thrill, the rush that drives them to cheat on their partner. Frankly I think some people rush into serious relationships and marriage too soon, so they feel the need to cheat.

 

[Lunar Shadow]

I have trouble offering an opinion on this without sounding like a hypocrite. While I've never cheated myself, I have slept with a lass who did have an on-off boyfriend at the time and no matter how much of a dick he was (a lot) and the fact that she came onto me, I still did 'wrong'.

Don't regret it though, just means I have a little trouble justifying the statements that I wouldn't cheat, I would hope my partner wouldn't either.

This, except it was a steady BF and I do regret it. Cause she was my first. Good fucking lord do I regret it. I personally am a one woman kinda guy, to the point that a threesome seems unappealing to me. I generally have to trust someone alot to go that far with them, so I doubt I would ever cheat. That and I have a really low sex drive.

Edit: The guy threatened to kill me over it too, at least I think that was the source of the hostility with him. Little hard to tell since he was an utter **** before I slept with his girlfriend.

 

[effilctar]

I don't like cheating, though I did pull a stunt like two and a half men(the one with the kid) where I had a completely idiotic girlfriend that I loved, but I had a friend who just happened to be a girl who I could have an intelligent conversation with.

 

[katsabas]

I am not that desperate after sex to cheat on someone. I have never been on a relationship but I have had the feeling of being committed to another person and I really really love that feeling. If my girlfriend cheated on me, I would be sad cause it is only natural. If she ended up with another guy, I would like to know if he sees her as I saw her. If he doesn't, it is her problem. If he does, happy for her.

 

[Shycte]

If you can't commit to a relationship then you have no place in one.

Simple as that.

 

[mikecoulter]

Cheating is bad mmmmkay.

 

[orangebandguy]

It's wrong, if you can't overcome the most basic needs you might as well throw yourself off the nearest bridge. If a relationship is not going well make that clear, don't leave it so that your partner finds out in the worst way possible.

 

[Gigano]

What is wrong with cheating is the lies to the other part in the relationship, not that one chooses another partner - It's a free world. It's perfectly OK to be with another man/woman if one is married or in a relationship, as long as the other part in it is told of the "infedelity" at first chance. Then he/she can openly decide how to deal with the fact, and wheather to stay in or leave the relationship/marriage as he/she sees fit.

We are all free men/women, our partners do not "own" us like slaves, and so long as everything is laid bare, I can see no problem in breaking off a relationship by jumping another man/woman (or staying in it with an unfaithful partner if that is ones choice). I would not blame a girlfriend who found another man more attractive, as long as she immidiately told me, at which point. This would make her life better, and allow me to choose to "better" myself - or leave and find a woman who my current self would truly satisfy.

 

[Kair]

No, I'm not saying polygamy is ok. Insincts should be overlooked and overcome in most cases.

Why? Not saying I don't agree, just curious as to why it should be the right thing to do to go against the way we are "programmed".

You just pissed off every intellectual on earth.

Who decides who is an intellectual anyway?

An intellectual is someone who both uses and advocates the use of intellect and reason, which is what separates us from more instinctive creatures.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I disapprove. If you're not happy with your lot, the relationship needs to end. But cheating is a bad idea. It's childish.

Also, I'm too fugly to even consider messing up a relationship >,>

 

[Lynx]

Cheating can sometimes be an asshole thing to do, and sometimes just a human mistake. Lying about it/ not having the guts to confess to it is worse.

 

[Aur0ra145]

Define cheating.

I think it's completely reasonable to be dating multiple women at the same time. It's even reasonable to have been dating a single girl for quite a while and still date others every now and then.

Should you hide this from any of them? Absolutely not.

I even believe it's perfectly alright to date some other people even when you have a girlfriend. Just tell all of them.

For instance, my girlfriend was out of town and I had a formal for an organization I'm a part of. So, what did I do? I asked the next hottest chick I knew to go to it with me. She accepted and I told my girlfriend that I was taking so-and-so to formal with me. No big deal.

Afterwards girlfriend asked me if I had kissed other girl and I told her yes. She didn't care.

In the end I think not being honest about your actions is what "cheating" really is. If you have to hide your actions from someone you love, then your probably shouldn't be doing it.

To clarify, don't run around having sex with random people if you have a long-term relationship. But, dating others during a long-term relationship is acceptable. Just don't engage in intercourse with people other than the person your in the long-term relationship with.

Though once you get engaged/married it's game over. No more dating of others ever.

 

[BonsaiK]

I've never cheated on anyone.

I've also never been cheated on. (I have had a girl sleep with other guys when she was my girlfriend, but that girl was a prostitute by occupation and she was doing it as part of her work and I entered into the relationship knowing that that would happen, so I don't think that really counts.)

I have however been the "third party" - the person who someone else cheats on their partner with. It was a very awkward situation and one that I'm not keen to repeat. Having to keep things secretive was a real pain, because when I'm with someone I like, I prefer people to know about it. I'm also quite honest by nature so it's really hard for me to lie to people, however, when you enter into an "affair" type of situation then lies kind of go with the territory. The whole thing made me feel weird and I was semi-glad when it was over.

 

[purplegothchick]

I finished my ex, and when I got with my new boyfriend he said I was cheating on him Fucking retard.

Yup, I'm pretty sure that my ex boyfriend is saying that too, cos he knows I "got with" someone else. I wouldn't mind, but he actually dumped me(!) and now reckons that I'm a slut who should have got back with him (cos he has "soooo much to offer"), instead of hooking up with the other guy... to quote again, fucking retard.

EDIT: I didn't cheat, and never would. It's an awful thing to do to someone.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I finished my ex, and when I got with my new boyfriend he said I was cheating on him Fucking retard.

Yup, I'm pretty sure that my ex boyfriend is saying that too, cos he knows I "got with" someone else. I wouldn't mind, but he actually dumped me(!) and now reckons that I'm a slut who should have got back with him (cos he has "soooo much to offer"), instead of hooking up with the other guy... to quote again, fucking retard.

EDIT: I didn't cheat, and never would. It's an awful thing to do to someone.

Haha! sounds like mine! Except mine said I should get back with him because I'm a fucking slag didn't make much sense to me.
I didn't cheat, but he told everyone I did for a month :s thankfully everyone knows he's a waste of sperm ad sided with me.

 

[bodyklok]

One thing that always got me about people cheating on one another, was when someone cheats on somebody else because they think that they have already cheated on them. I guess I can understand why, but it's still pretty foolish.

OT: I'd never cheat on somebody I loved, if I cheated on someone, then it's probably because I'm to off my head to say no (in which case I fail) or I don't like them and we should break it off.

If I cheated on somebody I did love and neither of the above reasons applied, then I've got commitment issues that should be resolved.

At lest that's how I look at it.