Cheating: Whose Fault is It?

[DistinctlyBenign]

I think its the fault of the developer who put the codes in the game in the first pla....

Oh. The other kind of cheating.

I have no strong opinion as it has never been an issue for me, but I would assume its on a case by case basis.

 

[Sparrow]

I'd say the circumstances would sway me in several directions. I mean, I doubt I'd blame my girlfriend for cheating on me with someone like Brad Pitt. Hell, I'd probally ask for an autograph.

I suppose in the long term it's the fault of the cheater though. But as I said, cirucmstances would sway me in different directions. For instance, if partner A made partner B upset by losing their house in the mortgage, then partner B went out drinking and had sex with slut A whilst under the influence... sorry, I got carried away there. What was the question?

 

[khaimera]

Its always the cheaters fault. ALWAYS. We can't make decisions and then blame them on the situation or on someone else. You make your own decisions about who you sleep with. Its always a choice and thus you can only blame yourself. Only a cheater would try and balme the otehr perosn or their partner. If you need to cheat to get your sexual needs filled, end the relationship with your significant other first. Otherwise you are a piece of crap. Unless you have an open relationship and then you are just different.

 

[The Warden]

It's all circumstantial, really.
For example, if the husband is an abuser, it's the husband's fault the women cheated on him.
But if the wife just cheated on him for no real reason, it's her fault.
But if the guy the wife is cheating on him with also knows full well she is in a relationship with someone else, then it is both the cheater and the guy who she is cheating on the husband with that are at fault.

 

[The Warden]

Edit: Sorry, internet fucked up and posted the same thing multiple times.

 

[The Warden]

Edit:Sorry, internet fucked up and posted my previous thing multiple times.

 

[Samnite]

Affairs don't cause bad relationships - bad relationships cause affairs.

 

[Xanadu84]

Depends. Some relationships are open, and it's not cheating. However, in many (Dare I say, most) there is a common agreement to stay loyal, which also has an extremely strong genetic component. Yes, monogamy is programmed into our genes in many ways. Of course, so is having lots of sex, so that doesn't mean that we can't overcome certain aspects of our genes in order to have what we consider a better life. Essentially, whether cheating is possible is a function of the individual couples choice.

Beyond that, it is everyone's fault...to some extent. And it depends too much on individual factors. The cheated partner could have been an abusive, distant douchebag whose partner desperately needed some sort of love in their life after living so long in fear...or they could have been a sweet, kind innocent partner who for some reason didn't quite satisfy there partner completely without them even realizing it. The Cheater could have been the aforementioned desperate, abused victim...or they could be easily board, and wanting to have casual sex with anyone, no matter who they hurt in the process of their own appetites. The Other Partner could have not done enough research to realize that there new partner was already taken, or they could have been a close friend who needed to support someone they care about through a difficult time...or they could just want to get laid, and decide that the most convenient pool of potential sex friends would be the significant others of people they know already. Every situation is different, everyone shares the blame (Though sometimes, 1 or 2 partners share of the blame is incredibly minor) and often times, it's not as clear cut as we would want to believe.

 

[Acier]

Cheaters fault, every time.

If they don't have the self control to resit the other person/ not come on to the other person,or initiative to fix/end the relationship then thats their fault.

 

[johnzaku]

I feel it varies. All are valid points, all are worth noting.

sometimes they are driven away, seduced, or just irresponsible.

 

[Plurralbles]

hormones.

And anyway, everyone wants a little sexy time, no matter who's it with.

 

[ArcWinter]

Cheating is stupid. If you want to get it on with someone else, get out of your current relationship. It's not that hard to figure out.

Because of this view, I place the blame squarely (and hopefully painfully) on the person doing the cheating, no matter what gender.

 

[Paksenarrion]

I believe I speak for most who've gone through this experience when I say,

ROCKS FALL. EVERYBODY DIES.

 

[MelziGurl]

At some point the other person takes some blame. If they have deliberately tried to seduce an unavailable person at some point, then they take some blame for active pursuit of an unavailable person. It takes two. For the most part though, it's the cheaters fault.

 

[Soxafloppin]

In my opinion, Its allways the cheaters fault.

You feel unsatisfied with a relation? Then leave it.

No need to tear out there heart and rub your ballsack all over it by cheating.

 

[Colour Scientist]

In my opinion, Its allways the cheaters fault.

You feel unsatisfied with a relation? Then leave it.

No need to tear out there heart and rub your ballsack all over it by cheating.

Exactly, it's always the cheater's fault. You can say that the other person is at fault but they have no obligation to the person's significant other. The cheater made a conscious decision to cheat so you can't really blame anyone else.

 

[Uncreative]

Well, it's difficult to assign blame without specific circumstances being provided...But, in my opinion, if the other person was relentlessly pursuing a person they full well knew was in a relationship already, they're a scummy person. But it's not really their fault.
If the cheated is intolerable (Spiteful, mean, or emotionally/physically abusive), they're also scummy. And they really asked for infidelity. But theyre not the person who cheated.
Thats where the responsibility should lie. The cheater should either be stronger for the person they are with, or just break up. Really, if you're not happy, there's not a secret organization running around clubbing people who move on.

It's their own fault that they did something with another person while already in a relationship, because they didn't have to be in a relationship.

 

[oppp7]

In an obnoxiously logical and technical sense, the action of cheating falls to the one doing the cheating, and if the outside person knew, then they could be found at fault to a degree.
But less computer and more human.
This is a moral issue, and thus you can't come up with an answer for every single occurance. To name a few factors: was the cheater's friend abusive? Did the cheater-helper know they were helping them cheat? Did the cheater have children?

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Depends on the motive behind the cheating incident.

Were they taken advantaged of?
Was the cheater doing it for the hell of it?
did the partner who was cheated on treat the cheater with respect in a relationship?
etc?

too many answers, I personally would have cheated on my ex because at 18 she didn't want to have sex and I did which I told her ages before we dated that I wanted a serious, committed relationship, not just a label to be called your boyfriend and nothing more. heck, I'm 19 and only had sex twice. That's pitiful for the life I wanted. :|

 

[BGH122]

Gender doesnt come into it. If your relationship is THAT BAD[/I], Leave. Then you're not cheating.

This.

Women get a pass for numerous misdemeanors including in matters of law (as per normal, I don't just make stuff up or make blanket claims; here's the scientific study [http://ftp.iza.org/dp2870.pdf] to prove it ("Our results indicate that women receive more
lenient sentences even after controlling for circumstances such as the severity of the offense
and past criminal history." - Sorensen et al 2007)). This has only been worsened by Feminism's incessant portrayal of women as victims and men as bastards. The true inequality is against men, at least in this matter.

If your boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/wife does not meet your requirements, be it emotionally, physically, financially ad nausem, you should attempt to resolve the matter through conversation like an adult and, if that fails, leave him/her. You do not have a right to break the inherent covenant of the relationship and renege on your part of the 'deal', that just makes you the bad guy/girl.