Coping With Death.

[SimpleChimp]

Thanks guys. I just talked to my brother about it.

They have known each other for ten years. They used to hang out all the time. He was so emotionally distraught about it.

It felt like i couldn't even help him.

But every small bit helps. I will be their for him like he has been their for me.

Really, thank you all for your help.

 

[Cowabungaa]

BAM! and the post is gone!

fair point, i mean animals to a point you can have that attitude towards, but with humans it can be a bit different.

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Not for me it was. I lost 3 important family members and a very important cat (the one I grew up with since birth) and I reacted the same to all of them: death happens, old creatures die, no matter if it's a cat or a human. Accept and move on. I think it would be different if it would be because of an accident or illness, but I have yet to encounter that.

And the best way to help your brother? Just be there for him. If he wants to talk, listen carefully, if he needs a shoulder, let him cry on yours.

 

[A.A.K]

Best way to cope with death is as follows:

Don't give a fuck.

This works. and ive squared off my past (so i can talk about it) and apparently im emotionally devoid- or at least that was my interpretation of "you have a mind stronger then that of most adults" but i have a count. so far 9 people have died. 4 murdered. Yes, its upsetting, but get over it. Its life. people die. YOU will die. and since theres nothing you can do about it, why care?

 

[Xaryn Mar]

Talk/think about all the good times you have had with the person and "celebrate" (for lack of a better word) those times or perhaps a better phrasing: Remember that the person lived a good and fulfilling life even though he might have died early.
That is the way I have coped with the death of two of my grandparents.

What you are feeling is quite natural as is sorrow, different people feel differently in these times. Not everybody feels grief and sorrow and not everyone will/can show it by crying.

With regard to your brother: Be there for him, talk to him (as I can see that you have) and comfort him if he is grieving and he will do the same for you.

That is the best advice I can give, since it is what I do. Always be there to listen and comfort you will be surprised how efficient it is to help people cope with sorrow.

 

[Ashbax]

The best thing to do? Well...there isnt one. A few years back, one of my very close friends died of cancer.

As the cliche says, it gets better one day at a time. It was two years before I could even discuss oscar (Thats his name.) so...I guess I know how you feel.

 

[LongAndShort]

Sorry for your loss.

Personally I'd laugh it off. That's how I deal with things, humour. Probably not the healthiest way of dealing with things, but it works for me. It won't work for everyone. All I can say is talk, to other people and your brother and make sure he talks to people. A guy sat next to me in a park, apparently just from a funeral and just began talking to me, I listened, and he was greatful to have someone to listen to him. I was happy to oblige. Talk helps.

 

[DC_Josh]

I went through somthing like this a few months ago.

Death is one of those things so profound that everyone has a diffrent way of dealing with it. There is no short and tall answer to how you should be feeling. If someone has a go at you for not doing this/feeling that, they are wrong.

When I was told my old housemate had died after a very long and painful battle with CF, leaving my best friend without her partner of 4 years, I paused my game, thought about it, and kept playing. All I could think about was shooting some more south african mercs. I can't really say if I did think about anything else.

You'll get upset a few times. It may come at night while your trying to sleep, or while your doing somthing unrelated. Keeping your mind busy is good. Mourning is good also. I made the mistake of always keeping busy and when the funeral came... well i was pretty fucked. Don't make that mistake my friend.

Keep your chin up as it were and be supportive. Keep busy when you can. That'll also help you get to sleep easier at night.

PM me if you fancy a chat about it bud, best of luck to you.

 

[JayDub147]

If the individual in question is nice enough to warrant my attention after he or she has died, it's usually safe to assume that that person is in heaven and requires no pity from me. If they're in hell, at least I'll get to see them again.

If there is no god, then what does it matter?

 

[Blackadder51]

Im sorry to hear about your loss.

For me i felt that confiding in others was by far the best way to cope it.