We all know the great and terrible Oz power of the internet, rally the masses, silence the few, Simpsons porn and what-not. Subsequently I'm sure we're all aware that social media is just that but with friends, family and people you only added because they wouldn't stop sending invites added into the equation. With this in mind, has anyone ever had any problems with what happens in reality ending up on Facebook, youtube so on and so forth no matter how badly you want noone outside of whoever witnessed your actions first-hand to see? You might just be goofing off with mates or family members and suddenly something's said or something's done and within 24 hours whatever took place is suddenly up in videos, photos or even just bad rumours for anyone with a connection to see.
A bit of context behind my asking (it's a wall of text, but please don't be discouraged):
Towards the start of the year I finally got a Facebook, before that I'd never gotten into social media and since then I've found it a great way to talk with the people I know and organise events with ease. At the end of the day that's all I use it for and that's all I wish to use it for, I feel awkward about putting alot of personal information onto the world-wide web (location, contact details, photos of me etc) and while I have nothing against those who do I try my best to keep it that way. But for the past couple of months quite a few videos and pictures (far more than what goes up for anyone else) have been posted, publicly, on Facebook by other people (mostly taken and always published without my knowledge or permission) of me in pretty embarassing situations and circumstances. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind the occasional photo popping up of me out with friends or whatever but it just seems like friends of mine (I know you're going to get the impression that I'm like the abused spouse friend of the group who only hangs around because he thinks getting treated like crap counts as friendship, it's not like that at all) are just posting these ridiculous photos and videos of me and only me and it bothers me immensely. There's a video that shows me getting carried and thrown about at school like a bride over-the-threshold, a short video focusing on me shoving my hand on my friend's ass (it was at school, we were mucking about, most of us landed on the floor and I was just getting up from the pile of bodies was all, but noone's shut up about the fact that at one point my hand was on another guy's backside) you get the picture.
I've tried to shrug it off up to this point and assume it's happened to everyone but after today I feel like I've got to draw a line. Today me and some friends had a barbecue out in the park and afterwards we just goofed around in the park for a few hours, nothing bad, just playing soccer and stuff like that. Anywho, one of my friends whips out an older videophone and begins running to each of us and "recording", the kind of thing that used to happen all the time with friends when people crapped themselves over being able to record video with mobiles. So naturally each of us are just pulling a stupid face or barking at the camera or whatever and it gets to me, so I follow suite with the classic middle finger while laughing and then lick said finger (Shenanigans!). Well, turns out I was the only one recorded and as soon as that was revealed by the cameraman everyone else yells him on to upload it to Facebook. I shrug it off, assume they're not going to upload something so stupid and pointless (I asked once or twice personally if he was going to seriously upload it. He said no, hell, he whispered to me afterwards that he hadn't taken any actual video >_>) and lo and behold it was posted just a few hours ago and my inbox has been notifying me constantly of people commenting on the video (which he also tagged a chunk of people in so they'd be notified of it's completely public existence).
Everytime one of these videos gets uploaded nobody leaves me alone about it. I wouldn't be so concerned but it happens to me alone and I know for a fact that it's because they like to antagonise me for not wanting all my personal info up on what is essentially something I use to stay up to date with the people I know. I'm not saying we should shut down Facebook or that there should be a hundred different privacy settings, and I'm not worried that saying whether I prefer boxers or briefs online (or indeed this business with the videos and whatnot) is going to turn me into the next Jessi Slaughter. All I'd like is just for this business to stop...any advice?
A bit of context behind my asking (it's a wall of text, but please don't be discouraged):
Towards the start of the year I finally got a Facebook, before that I'd never gotten into social media and since then I've found it a great way to talk with the people I know and organise events with ease. At the end of the day that's all I use it for and that's all I wish to use it for, I feel awkward about putting alot of personal information onto the world-wide web (location, contact details, photos of me etc) and while I have nothing against those who do I try my best to keep it that way. But for the past couple of months quite a few videos and pictures (far more than what goes up for anyone else) have been posted, publicly, on Facebook by other people (mostly taken and always published without my knowledge or permission) of me in pretty embarassing situations and circumstances. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind the occasional photo popping up of me out with friends or whatever but it just seems like friends of mine (I know you're going to get the impression that I'm like the abused spouse friend of the group who only hangs around because he thinks getting treated like crap counts as friendship, it's not like that at all) are just posting these ridiculous photos and videos of me and only me and it bothers me immensely. There's a video that shows me getting carried and thrown about at school like a bride over-the-threshold, a short video focusing on me shoving my hand on my friend's ass (it was at school, we were mucking about, most of us landed on the floor and I was just getting up from the pile of bodies was all, but noone's shut up about the fact that at one point my hand was on another guy's backside) you get the picture.
I've tried to shrug it off up to this point and assume it's happened to everyone but after today I feel like I've got to draw a line. Today me and some friends had a barbecue out in the park and afterwards we just goofed around in the park for a few hours, nothing bad, just playing soccer and stuff like that. Anywho, one of my friends whips out an older videophone and begins running to each of us and "recording", the kind of thing that used to happen all the time with friends when people crapped themselves over being able to record video with mobiles. So naturally each of us are just pulling a stupid face or barking at the camera or whatever and it gets to me, so I follow suite with the classic middle finger while laughing and then lick said finger (Shenanigans!). Well, turns out I was the only one recorded and as soon as that was revealed by the cameraman everyone else yells him on to upload it to Facebook. I shrug it off, assume they're not going to upload something so stupid and pointless (I asked once or twice personally if he was going to seriously upload it. He said no, hell, he whispered to me afterwards that he hadn't taken any actual video >_>) and lo and behold it was posted just a few hours ago and my inbox has been notifying me constantly of people commenting on the video (which he also tagged a chunk of people in so they'd be notified of it's completely public existence).
Everytime one of these videos gets uploaded nobody leaves me alone about it. I wouldn't be so concerned but it happens to me alone and I know for a fact that it's because they like to antagonise me for not wanting all my personal info up on what is essentially something I use to stay up to date with the people I know. I'm not saying we should shut down Facebook or that there should be a hundred different privacy settings, and I'm not worried that saying whether I prefer boxers or briefs online (or indeed this business with the videos and whatnot) is going to turn me into the next Jessi Slaughter. All I'd like is just for this business to stop...any advice?