Could you be a Househusband/Housewife?

[game-lover]

I have doubts. I can be pretty lazy about things. Especially cleaning and chores. I think I'd have to get a job just so I could hire a damn maid.

But also, I wouldn't wanna be this vulnerable in my marriage on the off chance he does something stupid and cheats on me. I will not get stuck, thank you.

 

[MysticSlayer]

I doubt I would be OK with it. If I just put in 4+ years into college, I'd actually want it to pay off with a job. It also clashes with my personality of needing something to do, or else I tend to have trouble functioning at 100%. Not to mention, it is generally a good financial decision to have a two income household but live as if you have one, so while we may not live better because we both have a job, then at least we'll be saving money in case anything bad happens. It may also help us pay off student loans faster.

So yeah, there are plenty of reasons why I wouldn't want to be a househusband. Traditional gender roles may not be one of them, but I certainly have a lot of other reasons for not wanting to do it.

 

[AnthrSolidSnake]

Yes. I don't care what anyone thinks because I'm a guy, those people aren't worth my time. No family can function if the house is a disaster. Keeping everything clean and keeping food cooked is just as important, if not more important than going to a standard job.

I'm sure I wouldn't like it at first, I mean, who honestly likes cleaning at first? But with some good music and the fact I"d rather stay at home to do work than go out means eventually I'll find my own groove to doing it, and get cleaning, repairs, etc. done much faster.

It doesn't HAVE to just be cleaning. Homes fall apart sometimes. Things will need fixed. Contrary to some peoples thoughts that I know of, taking care of a house is not some prissy, dainty, wife work. It can be long, sometimes tedious, and require a lot of work to keep a house in good repair and shape.

 

[viscomica]

Nope! I really love working and pursuing a career. The idea of not having my own money earned by my own means just doesn't appeal to me. Sure, having a job is super stressful sometimes (like this week) but I would get bored just being inside a house the majority of the day. I respect people who do it but it's not the lifestyle for me.

 

[Flunk]

No, I might be willing to work from home but I'm not willing to give up on my career (Software Development) that I've studied and worked so hard on.

I also don't believe that any woman I marry should have to give up her career either.

 

[Clive Howlitzer]

No, I couldn't be a househusband. ...And I am offended that you would even suggest such a thing.

I can't even...

What kind of emasculated man would want such a thing...

On the other hand; I do expect my partner to be somewhat of a housewife. Atleast to do the cooking, cleaning and laundry.
Call me a hypocrit. Haha.

I am surprised I can hear you all the way back in the 1950s!

 

[Camaranth]

Nope!

Mostly for the same reasons others here have already mentioned. I hate having to depend on anther person to car-pool to work let alone someone else to pay the bills! Also I'd develop some weird guilt complex over my partner paying off the stuff I'm 100% responsible for like my phone or student loans (especially as I'm planning on going back to school).

I've witnessed this type of situation (wife stay at home to look after kid because child-care costs more than her wage) gone very very bad. Of course this situation went bad because of the people and personalities involved but the idea of putting myself on either side of that is mildly terrifying.

 

[Longing]

I'd prefer being a trophy wife, way less work.

 

[Evil Smurf]

Yes, that sounds great. I love staying home! Looking after children 0 - 2 years is a pain though.

 

[Korolev]

No Children? Then no, probably not. I want to work - I want to contribute to society, and my future job enables me to do that. If my wife will be out working, why can't I? She won't be home either, and if there are no kids, I'm sure the house can manage to stay standing until I get back from work. It's not like the floor requires constant attention. Plus, if we're both out of the house, hey, the house remains clean!

If there are children, and she earns more than me, then sure, I could stay home. I am someone who believes that one parent should remain at home to help the children. I don't care which one it is - the mother or the father, but as long as it is possible, I think one parent SHOULD remain behind. I don't believe in shoving a kid into child-care to be raised by strangers.

Of course, I understand that many families have to have two working parents due to financial stress, and I don't blame the parents for putting their kid in child-care if they both have to work. But that's only if they both HAVE to work.

 

[OysterEleven]

No, I wouldn't be able to do it. I love my job and enjoy working in general. It brings me fulfillment, and nothing makes me feel better about myself than being recognized/praised at work. Without it, I would probably be pretty depressed and feel like I was worthless. Which would make me a shitty husband and likely ruin my marriage.

 

[Dragonbums]

The mere thought of being financially dependent on one person, especially in this day and age makes me feel highly uncomfortable. I do not want my entire well being to be reliant on the loyalty, virility, and viability of one male/female spouse.

It's bad enough that in the US of A being a stay at home mom, yet alone a stay at home wife is unappreciated what with getting lower pay (or no job at all) and all that trash.

Granted I would see myself as a person who works at home. Providing I can't find myself a job at a studio somewhere.

However that does not mean that I'm going to do all the housework. It's going to be an equal thing between both me and my hypothetical spouse. In rotation to keep things interesting.

 

[V4Viewtiful]

Yep.

I've cleaned my house before on my own and I liking having the option of staying home doing nothing except play games drinkwine and ask the occasional "how was your day?".

 

[Leemaster777]

Nope. I'm a worker bee. I need to get out and work.

Same. Has nothing to do with gender roles, or even a reluctance to do cleaning or housework. I'd just go stir crazy if I didn't have a job to go to.

 

[Baron von Blitztank]

I could but probably not, or atleast not for a long time.
Not that I object to sitting around the house, keeping it clean and looking after my darling wife but I've got job-stuff that I want to do with my life too, even if it will take forever for me to get there and it doesn't sit right with me to not contribute financially to the household.

 

[waj9876]

Yep. I could. Very easily.

If I ever get married, or hell even if we're not married and we just live together, I'll probably have to be the stay-at-home one in the relationship. I'm hoping for my main career to be that of a writer. So I can totally see myself not being the main breadwinner, unless of course I write a hit novel that rakes in a ton of cash or something.

Instead of going out and getting a menial labor job, or even a...minimum wage job. Brr. I shudder just thinking about it. I'd honestly prefer being a stay-at-home husband.

Best part? I don't plan to ever have kids. So unless my partner wanted them, which would be unlikely, I wouldn't have to deal with one of the hardest parts of that scenario.

 

[Strazdas]

Lets assume one thing in this hipothetical sitaution: im not dropping my career just so she get fired 5 years afterwards and we end up broke. If we assume that she takes care of money forever, then the answer is yes.

I dont want kids, so that wouldnt be even a question. Id rather break up than ahve kids forced on me.

As far as doing the chores and cooking - i already do all that living alone so while the demand would increase for two obviuosly but i cenrtainly can handle. and i would probably have more time for new recipes too which is cool.
And yes, i would definatelly have more time for games that way.

I dont get bored at home. in fact the only times i leave the house is when i need to. those involve: work, shopping, visiting family/friends.

Last summer on holiday i havent left the house for whole week, same goes for when im sick. Im not afraid of outside or anything, heck every summer i go on a camping trip with friends where we go "no technology for a week" type of deal. but im perfectly confortable being at home all the time. Actually i usually plan my outside stuff in a way that i would ahve to leave house as little times as possible since "thats just wasting time". Which is why i always thought id be great for those space travel to mars experiments. i can see myself sitting in same house for 6 months easy.

 

[Heronblade]

Yes and no

I am a good enough cook that people keep telling me I should become a chef, and would not mind the cleaning duties too much.

However, doing nothing of significance for too long is likely to drive me bat s**t insane, and while my chosen career mostly involves computer work that could be done anywhere, it also requires a team and logistics support that is impossible to achieve at home.

Let me put it this way, the last time I had a slow week at work, I went and designed a product my company will never produce, because I found that ultimately wasted effort to be preferable to taking it easy and watching youtube videos like my peers.