Basically, me and my best friends have this hanger-on, also called Emma, but to save confusion, I'll call her L.
two and a half years ago, me and Emma were part of a big group of friends. so was L. at this point she wasnt creepy. she was just a little more quiet than everyone else but still contributed something to the group. But all of a sudden, L disappears. Doesn't say anything to anyone. Just disappears. For a full two years, she doesn't contact anyone from school. Then in August at the start of our 5th year, here she is. She turns up and finds our group in ruins. Me & emma have seperated off to form our own little four person group. Me, Emma, Robert and Ross & it was this way for a year or so before L came back. L comes back, the old group no longer exists, so she starts following me and Emma around. She sort of thought that since we were her friends before, we'd be her best friends now. This is not the case. She doesn't contribute anything. She doesn't talk, she doesn't come out when we invite her to places, nothing. At lunch she sits quietly eating her lunch, we ask her questions and we get one word answers or she'll repeat an answer someone else already gave. When the bell rings at the end of lunch, she will stand and wait, staring at me and emma, waiting for us to move. She'll follow us to our class then go to hers. Her teachers don't ever mark her as late, even if she comes in halfway through class. She has 100% attendance but when she gets bored, she phones her mum and goes home. She refuses to do essays, especially for homework, and teachers don't bat an eyelid. She hasn't sat a single NAB and for those of you who don't know what they are, you basically need to pass all three of them for each subject to be able to sit the final higher exam.
From the start of August until now, we've continually tried to help her make the effort to actually be our friend but she never responds. She's a hanger-on and nothing more. We want to try talk to her about it but she might do what she did to another group she latched onto a week into 5th year. She accused them of being bullies and moved on to us. How can we tell her to make an effort to be our friend or to leave us alone?
tl;dr - ex-friend won't leave us alone. doesn't even try to be our friend. we've put up with this for about 5 months now. how can we get her to leave us alone without invoking an accusation of bullying?
two and a half years ago, me and Emma were part of a big group of friends. so was L. at this point she wasnt creepy. she was just a little more quiet than everyone else but still contributed something to the group. But all of a sudden, L disappears. Doesn't say anything to anyone. Just disappears. For a full two years, she doesn't contact anyone from school. Then in August at the start of our 5th year, here she is. She turns up and finds our group in ruins. Me & emma have seperated off to form our own little four person group. Me, Emma, Robert and Ross & it was this way for a year or so before L came back. L comes back, the old group no longer exists, so she starts following me and Emma around. She sort of thought that since we were her friends before, we'd be her best friends now. This is not the case. She doesn't contribute anything. She doesn't talk, she doesn't come out when we invite her to places, nothing. At lunch she sits quietly eating her lunch, we ask her questions and we get one word answers or she'll repeat an answer someone else already gave. When the bell rings at the end of lunch, she will stand and wait, staring at me and emma, waiting for us to move. She'll follow us to our class then go to hers. Her teachers don't ever mark her as late, even if she comes in halfway through class. She has 100% attendance but when she gets bored, she phones her mum and goes home. She refuses to do essays, especially for homework, and teachers don't bat an eyelid. She hasn't sat a single NAB and for those of you who don't know what they are, you basically need to pass all three of them for each subject to be able to sit the final higher exam.
From the start of August until now, we've continually tried to help her make the effort to actually be our friend but she never responds. She's a hanger-on and nothing more. We want to try talk to her about it but she might do what she did to another group she latched onto a week into 5th year. She accused them of being bullies and moved on to us. How can we tell her to make an effort to be our friend or to leave us alone?
tl;dr - ex-friend won't leave us alone. doesn't even try to be our friend. we've put up with this for about 5 months now. how can we get her to leave us alone without invoking an accusation of bullying?
Not really a "relationship problem" though so I'll answer it here instead.
