Dating someone younger.

[ThatRandomGuy42]

Recently, I've found myself very vaguely attracted to someone younger than me, not seriously, but the attraction is there. By younger, I mean she's in the year below me at school. (I'm in 6th year, aged 16 and she's a year below, aged 15 I think). Where I'm from, 16 is the legal age.
While I don't plan to actually initiate a relationship in anyway shape or form, I want to know your opinions on dating someone younger than yourself.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

Opinions?

P.S. Just to clarify, this isn't about my case. Though the reason I'm not going for it is because we're practically strangers. Not really the best idea.

 

[Zantos]

Half your age plus 7 has always worked for me. If you'd have been 30 and attracted to a 15 year old I'd have been worried (as I have seen more times than I'm entirely comfortable with), but I don't think by any standards 1 year difference is a bad one. I know people that cap it at 2 or 3 years younger as an alternative to the 1/2 age plus 7, either way it's good.

 

[SaetonChapelle]

I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

 

[Phasmal]

I like to date people around the same age as me. Boyfriend is only a month older, and my only other ex was 6months younger than me.
Then again, that's just how it turned out, if boyfriend had been a bit older I still would have gone for it, and younger. It depends on the person and how mature they are but I'd stick within a few years because otherwise... it gets weird.

 

[Quaxar]

One year younger? Oh you sick pedophile you!

As long as the older one is under 18 I have found that apparently most people around here don't care much. 14+17? Oh how cute. But 14+18 suddenly is weird somehow.
Not personal experiments, just a small observational study.

 

[Nivag the Owl]

Haha. One year is fine. You won't be ridiculed by anybody other than the jerks who try to find something to ridicule for. And then it's just kinda unjustified.

 

[Cavan]

One year is pretty much nothing no matter what age you are, don't worry about it .

You'll also find as you get older than your apparent age becomes a lot more subjective and ultimately a lot less important, I have been in relationships with people 3 years younger than me (was 19 at the time) and assumed to be her age, and then slightly more extremely I have gotten very close to people who were/are in their late 20s who don't realise at the time that you're almost a decade their junior.

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

I got mostly ninja'd, so I'l settle for saying I agree with this .

 

[burningdragoon]

A single year age gap stops being weird at around age... 1. Assuming there's some sort of legal buffer zone, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this.

 

[Shock and Awe]

For me I've basically just only even thought about girls within two years of me. But I am still in high school so theres that.

 

[hazabaza1]

Half your age+7 until the youngest participant is 18 then go fuckin' wild with whoever you want.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Recently, I've found myself very vaguely attracted to someone younger than me, not seriously, but the attraction is there. By younger, I mean she's in the year below me at school. (I'm in 6th year, aged 16 and she's a year below, aged 15 I think). Where I'm from, 16 is the legal age.
While I don't plan to actually initiate a relationship in anyway shape or form, I want to know your opinions on dating someone younger than yourself.

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

Opinions?

Simply put, age is just a numerical value attatched to a person identifying how long they've been alive, that is all, as long as it's legal, I don't see it as wrong, and nobody else should either, just some people are age-ist... Experience, and relative maturety in different facets of your life are where the big important things are.

For me, I'm 26, I've dated women in their 30s, and I've gone with girls as young as 18, I prefer older women for the most part, just because they tend to have more life experience, be less kneejerk judgemental about stuff, and tend to get my humour more, but I've found a few younger women with relatively mature tastes, and a more experienced and relaxed worldview.

Not that I'm dating right now, or even interested in thinking about it, I'm at a point in my life where, unless a woman asks me out, I'm pretty much just going to coast, make me some money, and chill for a bit, figure out my life for myself, maybe I'll find my path, and find a woman to love, who can appreciate my eccentricities... Y'never know.

Also, never feel pressured to find someone on the quick, I know there's a ton of pressure to fuck as many girls as you can in the teen years, I went through that as did many many other guys, just take it easy, what happens happens, only bother with the girls that truly interest you, cuz let's be honest, a conquest for the sake of a conquest always leaves someone sour, also the sex isn't as good when you're not fully into it .

 

[deathzero021]

Some people follow the "Halve your age + 7 rule" while others don't dare date anyone younger than themselves.

there are people who only date people exactly the same age as themselves? that's f***ing hard. it's hard enough to find someone likable with any age, let alone someone with the same birth day.

Also you are only one year apart, there is nothing wrong with that. in fact i'd have to say it'd be pretty stupid NOT to ask her out. You either have to be older or younger than someone, and that means that 1 of the 2 people involved in the relationship will always be younger. This is simple logic here.

As for me, i don't care the age of someone, as long as i like them and they're legal. Also i doubt anyone is attracted to a number, you aren't attracted to a "16 year old girl" you are attracted to her, whatever her name is. she's an individual, not just a number.

 

[Rose and Thorn]

I have never been with someone older then me, everyone I have been with have always been 1-3 years younger then me.

My ex-lovers family didn't like me very much as when we first fell in love, I was 18 and my lover was 15. We were together for three years, so that isn't bad. Right? Of course I had the luck of being one of the few people that didn't care what my peers thought about age differences, although I understood enough to share a laugh with them in the first few monthes. I suppose it was a little odd.

I have also been with someone a year younger then me and my last romance was two years younger then me.

It works because they have all looked older then me, due to my young features. Especially the one who was two years younger then me, he had a beard.

Age isn't important to me, it just happened by coincidence that I am always the older one. Though lately I have been the only one.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

But yeah, different people have different tastes. A year younger? Pfft. Though I love how when you're in a high school, its interested to date someone a year or two older or younger, however in your 20's it seems to be fairly normal and very acceptable to date someone 5 years and older then yourself (or younger). At least in my area.

Try guys up to 70 years old. They're so hawt.

OT: One year? Really? It's fine man. One year ain't anything to get worked up about

And for me my range is 15 - 45 for women. I like to keep my options wide and varied

 

[Kal-Adam]

Age has never mattered to me as much as maturity does, and that can sometimes be difficult with someone younger. But overall, if you're happy, and of the same mental and emotional maturity, I see no reason why an age gap (especially one as small as one year)should bother you if you two are happy. Go for it pal.

 

[sunsetspawn]

I am not into younger guys. Not saying they're bad, and Ive dated quite a few, but I find myself more attracted to older gentleman, just my taste. I am 23 and have dated those that are 20, up to 35. Single now so apparently none of the above is working for me anyways! xD

What about older gentlemen that look young?

That's my problem. My bizarrely healthy lifestyle keeps me young, so the ladies that are my age have ZERO interest. The only women that are interested are the younger ones and that makes me uneasy because I have a hard enough time relating to people my age.


But anyway, 16 and 15 is never a big deal. It's probably even legal to fornicate with her because most places have a two year rule where statutory rape will not apply if the participants are within two years of age. But I would check the legal code in your area before you make with the sexy time.

 

[Denamic]

If dating people younger than yourself were somehow wrong, I don't think there would be much of a future for humanity.
Besides, a 1 year difference? That's about as hard-hitting as the slightly downcast weather we're having here in terms of discussion value.

 

[AstylahAthrys]

1 year is nothing. If legality is a big issue, wait till she's 16 before you go at it.

Personally, I'm a girl who prefers older guys. I'd feel odd dating a younger dude, but if he was super awesome, I'd still go for it. Age is but a number.

 

[Ashhearth]

One year younger? Oh you sick pedophile you!

As long as the older one is under 18 I have found that apparently most people around here don't care much. 14+17? Oh how cute. But 14+18 suddenly is weird somehow.
Not personal experiments, just a small observational study.

You have no idea mate. I'm 18 and am dating my gf of a year now who is 2 years younger. The entire time i was a senior in high-school we didn't take any flack from the "He's too old" aspect. The instant I graduate and keep the relationship even though its long distance and suddenly everyone and there mother is telling her to break up with me(yeah someone's mother actually did tell her that).

It really is very annoying and contrite from my point of view.

OT: Yeah I obviously have no problems dating someone younger than myself and since we've been dating for a year, even though I'm at college now, we are both quite happy together. It all relies on trust and honesty, age really isn't a factor in those besides maturity and even that's variable.

 

[00slash00]

um...its a year difference. you are making this in to a way bigger deal than it is