Abandon4093 said:
Back was out, wasn't paying much attention to the thread. It's still out, but I'm back at work at least. However, I'm hesitant to bump the thread. I kind of want it to die.
However, you seemed to genuinely want a reply so...
When I say "misandry presents itself in different ways" I mean exactly that. When was the last time you heard men, or even A MAN, moaning about the sexual objectification they struggled with in day to day life? It's not really a talking point for them. Like the women's rights movement, people concerned with men's rights are often galvanized by a desire to challenge our traditional gender roles. Which in our case probably doesn't mean being someone's property or sexual chattel, but fighting to be recognized as a valid parent, for instance, or rejecting the assumption that we are hapless, violent brutes because we have a dick.
That's why I get irritated with the constant efforts to undermine any "women's rights" issue on these forums with "WELL MEN HAVE IT HARD TOO YOU KNOW", as if both those things can't be true at the same time, or as if men and women didn't both have it hard in different ways. It doesn't do "men's rights" any favor to constantly hijack every woman's issue. It would be like a gay rights activist constantly clamoring for attention during racial issues. "Oh a Black Man was mistreated? WELL GAY PEOPLE ARE MISTREATED TOO EVER THINK ABOUT THAT?" and then start high fiving one another as though a major victory was scored. It's just a furthering of this tiresome "us against them" dynamic, as if both men and women couldn't possibly have legitimate issues at the same time.
So...why do I think there's an argument to be made that the statue is misogynistic? It's fairly obvious, yeah? It's a mutilated female torso with a pristine pair of ridiculously pneumatic tits. It has no other distinguishing characteristics at all. Look at my tits, says the statue. Everything else has been chopped away, leaving the most important element behind. We live in a society where violence against women is a major talking point, and the sexualization of violence against women is a concern. So naturally, some people are going to look at that statue and say WHAT THE FUCK? And I can't help but shrug and say "Well that's hardly surprising, obviously they were going to be upset."
Do I PERSONALLY think Deep Silver INTENDED the statue to be misogynistic? Probably not. I think it was MOST LIKELY either a marketing boner, or an attempt at generating publicity through shock. I will typically presume stupidity before malice. The point in posting the picture wasn't "OMG MISOGYNY, to ARMS!", it was just to ask what people thought. And since a great many people seemed to think "HURR DURR how could anyone possibly think this was misogynistic they must be STUPID FEMINIST BITCHES" I eventually got irritated. I can appreciate an argument of "Yes I think this is misogynistic BECAUSE..." or "No I don't think this is misogynistic BECAUSE...". What I can't appreciate is this well poisoning bullshit where we say "This is what I think, and anyone who thinks differently is a MORON". Tired of that kind of post. Not saying that was YOU, but tired of it in the thread.
And generally speaking, my back has been killing me for over a week now, so I'm fucking grumpy.
Hammeroj said:
Back to being serious. We're not talking about avoiding the controversy, we're talking about what makes this statue sexist and how much sense it makes to be outraged over this.
"Outrage" is not a state of rationality. It's a state of emotional response. Do your emotional responses always make sense? Do you consider yourself the arbiter of all your emotional reactions? If so, congratulations, robot. You terrify me. If not, welcome to the human race. People don't get outraged for sensible reasons. They get outraged because they feel outrage. Do we sometimes feel that the things that outrage others are silly, or senseless, or vile? Of course we do. That doesn't
automatically invalidate them, though. I don't get to decide what is, or is not, a "sensible" thing to get outraged about, any more than you do. And given how frequently you get pissed off when you post, that's probably a good thing for you.
Certain jokes and certain attitudes don't outrage me personally, because I have no personal stake in them. That doesn't mean I can't take a minute and try and understand why they make someone else feel the way they do. After all, we're just TALKING about something that happened. An ugly statue. We're not throwing anyone in jail, or instituting public policy that will affect all our lives. I don't know why "I see your point, but I disagree, and here is why" is like...the hardest thing anyone can ever say on these forums.