Dealing with Stress

[TehCookie]

Everyone has a little bit of stress in their life, but I'm to the point where it is making me physically ill. My period is irregular, I have acne flare-ups, my stomach is in knots so I don't want to eat or when I do I want to vomit, I'm depressed which throws off my sleep schedule and makes me lethargic, the random crying (which makes me more stressed because it's embarrassing) then I'm angry at myself for not being able to get over it like I usually do.

There is no one cause to deal with either. My dad died a few months ago, my best friend completely ignores me after getting a boyfriend (and I don't have any close friends to fall back on since they all left for college), my brother which acts like a manchild and ruins everything, my aunt and her family getting into a white trash Jerry Spring drama on my dad's birthday memorial. With that I've just started to not be able to handle little things like college, my car battery dieing, my MP3 player breaking, my computer not working right (if you know how to fix a svchost.exe memory leak that would help) or things breaking at work that I need to use.

I can't even concentrate on anything either, I can't concentrate on test which makes me angry I'm not doing well and I can't concentrate on my hobbies either and if I force myself to do them it just feels like work.

Back to the topic how do you deal with stress, especially large amounts like I have right now.

 

[Saviordd1]

Lots and lots of drinking

No but seriously that's a hard question to answer. I'd suggest a bunch of your cliche things like yoga or meditation, maybe take up a contact sport if your into that sort of thing?

If the stress is that bad I might actually suggest a real therapist.

Sorry that I can't help more.

 

[Frezzato]

snip

I've learned a harsh lesson when it comes to life. I was finally able to put it into words a few years ago:

When your life is shit, the big things become little and the little things become big.

I want you to think about that sentence carefully. Do you understand my meaning? You've already admitted it...

With that I've just started to not be able to handle little things like college, my car battery dieing, my MP3 player breaking, my computer not working right.

You referred to college as a little thing. College is definitely NOT a little thing. But then you also admitted that the small things like your car battery and MP3 player have taken a toll on you as well. Those are (sort of) little things. I have news for you:

Your life is shit.

I mean no offense by that. Allow me to defend my position with the classic kindergarten saying 'It takes one to know one'. So first thing's first: get a new battery. Don't get a cheap one either. Die Hard is an excellent brand, so I hope there's a Sears near you. Get the standard 3-year Gold (five year pro-rated warranty I believe). Gold level Die Hard batteries are a bit pricey, but when it comes to your transportation, it is motherfucking WORTH IT. If the battery STILL dies then there's an electrical fault, but one thing at a time.

And regarding your PC, are you using XP by any chance? Check here [http://www.technibble.com/how-to-fix-svchost-using-100-cpu-memory-leak/]. If that doesn't fix it, hell, I can use Google like the best of them. Also, I have a very capable PC-fixing friend who might have some excellent suggestions.

Listen (or read), I lost my job 6 months ago. I had some money saved and some super kind parents, so it hasn't been as stressful as it should be. I don't know if it gives you solace to know that there are people out there who have it worse than you. Doesn't matter. But you know what helps with my stress? I help people. The harder the task the better. Physical labor is easy for me because I can usually figure out a fix. The truth is it's a mental thing. Helping people has always been the act of figuring out what has to be done and choosing a starting point, then going step by step.

One thing at a time.