Desperate times; Desperate measures

[Firia]

So the saying goes, "desperate times call for desperate measures." For me, times have never been so desperate as they are right now. I'm a student working part time while juggling 7 classes (18 credits). It's so much work, that everyone is calling me mad. And who can blame them? It was a maddening amount of work to take on! I thought I could handle it.

And I can. I can do it! It's hard hard HARD work, but I'm doing it. The part that's stressful is my financial problems that are brewing in the background. I'm barely making enough money to cover rent, forget about the other bills. I in fact just canned my internet (comcast, no love lost) to make things easier next month. I eat one meal a day to stretch out my food budget. I disabled every feature on my phone (except for txts, cause no matter how many times I tell friends not to text me, they will text me, the dumb asses). The only bills left in my name are;
-Rent
-Cell
-Food
-Electric

I can afford rent. I can afford a smidgeon of food. I can afford nothing else. Times are hard for me. Very very very hard. And I'm starting to feel the stress of this financial problem I'm facing. I'm starting to consider things a girl in my position only turns to in those really desperate times.

A few years ago, I was offered to participate in a porn. I'm putting some thought into contacting that person to see if there's any chance of doing something like that. A gal at school suggested I try shaking a leg, since the pay there is good. But that one would be really REALLY hard to do, since getting caught could put my school (and by extention), my career at risk.

With so many classes, and a PT job that perfectly form fits this packed schedule (which is why I keep it in loo of a higher paying job), the time I have to earn extra scratch is extremely limited. I'm relegated to "fast cash," which is almost always sketch.

What have you folks done/would do if times were as hard for you?

 

[Enemy Of The State]

Don't do the porn. Seriously.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

A porno? If you're anything like me, small and suffering from premature ejaculation, then you can forget it.

You're best staying on the viewer's side of the action, with a box of tissues and your penis in your hand. Feel free to grab another, though, if that tickles your fancy.

EDIT: You're a girl. In that case, go for it. I'll keep an eye out for you. Not necessarily the one in my head, mind.

EDIT 2: Electric Boogaloo: My head? That came out wrong-- you know what, fuck it.

 

[Tekkawarrior]

You reputation will be tarnished for as long as you live, someone somewhere will always know that you're the girl who sucked it for money.

To be honest, I feel quite sad that you are even considering selling your self for money, but I don't even know you. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but there are better ways of gather money.

I don't believe in god, but if he existed, I hope he helps you.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Sounds like you are very overworked and financially uncertain. Perhaps if you look hard enough you'll find a guy/girl you can relate to who cares enough about you to help you out. I'm not saying use someone for money but perhaps if you had someone beside you to lessen your burden the week won't seem so long.

Don't go into Porn though. You will meet characters who won't forget you and will try to suck you into their world. Have you considered asking your family or friends for help? You'd be surprised what people are willing to do to help a friend in need, even if you don't think they will.

[sub][sub]Gee, I hope you get out of this rut. I really don't hope I won't be facing the same situation in a year either [/sub][/sub]

 

[Tekkawarrior]

A porno? If you're anything like me, small and suffering from premature ejaculation, then you can forget it.

You're best staying on the viewer's side of the action, with a box of tissues and your penis in your hand. Feel free to grab another, though, if that tickles your fancy.

... to consider things a girl in my position only turns to ...

 

[The Madman]

Ask yourself this: Would that really make things any better? I very much doubt it, plus it could potentially come back to haunt you in the future if not right away. Not worth it at all. If all else fails; beg your friends and family for help. It's depressing and low and makes you feel like shit, I would know, but it helps and you'll get over it.

That said I'm really not the sort of person to be helping in these sorts of situations considering when things 'really' got tough for me I took the easy way out and said 'screw it!' and just took a break from life, which worked out quite well for me I gotta admit, but which was and remains hardly the most dignified or respectable thing to have done. Still, it's an option to consider. You can always come back to school and some time off could really help.

Personally I left school, quit my job, and blew all my money on a series of trips around the world. Never did go back to school, which kinda shames me, but at at the same time I never would have lasted much longer anyway. Always the future I figure, I'm young still and there's all the time in the world.

 

[Mr Montmorency]

A porno? If you're anything like me, small and suffering from premature ejaculation, then you can forget it.

You're best staying on the viewer's side of the action, with a box of tissues and your penis in your hand. Feel free to grab another, though, if that tickles your fancy.

... to consider things a girl in my position only turns to ...

Way ahead of you.

 

[LongAndShort]

Don't do them. If you're worried about it hurting your schooling and career (and you obviously care about them), than it's not worth worrying about. But I'm guessing the fact that you are considering them shows how desperate you are.

I don't know what I'd do. Get a higher paying job, cut down the credits I'm doing next semester and get a small loan to cover immediate expenses. Sounds easy on a forum, but life is rarely as easy as that.

 

[paragon1]

Frankly, I would cut back on the classes, if at all possible. They're an additional expense, and the work load takes away from time that you could be working.

Please be very careful with only eating one meal a day. With the amount of work and stress you have, you've got to be burning a lot of calories, and you don't have anything if you don't have your health.

Stay away from the porn if your considering a career in something other than porn. It's the age of the internet, and there's no way to determine where anything your filmed in will end up. You could find yourself in for a very unpleasant surprise down the road.

Again, please be very careful with whatever you decide to do. Best of luck to you.

 

[Naheal]

Risk vs reward.

Risk:

Your education
Your career
Your reputation
Your self-respect

Reward:

Better food
Electricity
A little bit of pocket money

This is not even remotely balanced. While you can't ignore the short term, the long term risks are far too high.

Have you thought of tutoring?

 

[Angryman101]

I'm currently selling my blood a couple times a week for cash. All of my friends tell me how low I've gone to have to do that, but I honestly don't mind that much. It's 45$ a pop, twice a week, enough for my share of the rent and some food while in between jobs. College is a really hard time for destitute students who have to pay their own way, no shame in doing what's necessary. I've done some less than legal things for money as of late, so I personally cannot judge you for considering the porn/prostitution option that is available to you. If I had less qualms about perpetrating homosexual acts, I would most definitely sign up for some form of prostitution at the moment. No shame in it; it's a legitimate business.

 

[Tekkawarrior]

I'm currently selling my blood a couple times a week for cash. All of my friends tell me how low I've gone to have to do that *clip*

There is nothing wrong with selling blood as long as you are feeding your self well, my friends have done it, and if I ever needed money, Id totally do it.

 

[DJDarque]

Damn, that's rough. I'm gonna have to go with everyone else and say that porn is probably not that best option.

[sub][sub]This coming from someone who loves it so much.[/sub][/sub] What?! [sub]Nothing.[/sub]

But anyway, it may make you feel like you really hit rock bottom, but I would consider asking friends and family for support.

 

[BrionJames]

Don't do porn. Really, it's a bad idea, that will potentially haunt you the rest of your life. Take the advise from everyone here, cut back a little. Yeah, maybe you get everything done quicker or you could have a psychotic episode. Seriously, there's other things you can do for money that isn't so self-depreciating as that. Shit, sell contraband, it's illegal, but at least your state of mind (and body) is intact.

 

[Angryman101]

I'm currently selling my blood a couple times a week for cash. All of my friends tell me how low I've gone to have to do that *clip*

There is nothing wrong with selling blood as long as you are feeding your self well, my friends have done it, and if I ever needed money, Id totally do it.

Honestly, there's nothing wrong with pornography and prostitution, either. If your body can be used as a commodity and you're willing to go through with it, there's nothing wrong with using it to get money. Selling blood and doing porn are no different. However...

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If you don't want this affecting future career paths, you NEED to use a pseudonym, and try your hardest to have the producer not use too many clear shots of your face (no gross pun intended). This is a very serious commitment, and you have to be realistic about what it is that you're getting into; the porn/prostitution business is a very hard one to get out of. Be aware of the risks when you're going into it.

 

[Tekkawarrior]

..there's nothing wrong with pornography...

Didn't say it was generally wrong, but she's doing it for the wrong reasons, in this case it's completely wrong.

Well that's just my opinion.

 

[DJDarque]

..there's nothing wrong with pornography...

Didn't say it was generally wrong, but she's doing it for the wrong reasons, in this case it's completely wrong.

Well that's just my opinion.

Agreed.

 

[Luftwaffles]

Funny thing. In my at my university, there are adverts to recruit girls into escort services as a part time 'job'. So keep in mind that there are 'entrepreneurs' that will try to convince the down and hard to do something they would regret. Dont do it.

In case you didnt see that DON'T DO IT!!!!!

 

['Aredor]

Can't you just drop one or two courses to make room for a, let's say, less sketchy PT-job? And pick them up again next semester? Couldn't your parents maybe help you out a bit more, maybe make it a loan if they can't really afford to? Or someone else who could advance you some money? Would moving house be an option, get a place where the rent is lower?