Do you like to share your bed?

[Danglybits]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

 

[Corpse XxX]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

Get a bigger bed and seperate covers.. No biggie..

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Yes and I prefer the person I share it with to be female XD

 

[JokerGrin]

I don't mind at all. Though it can be dangerous. I remember a dream where I was hitting some pikey and my girl said that in the night I'd swung out my left fist, punched her chest of drawers with some force, muttered "ouch" and went back to sleep.

Be mindful of your bedmates! If you have suppressed violent tendencies, make sure your partner isn't on the same side as your main attack arm.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

Me and my SO sleep with seperate covers so there's no stealing, we also have a king size which is nice for not bothering your sleeping partner... but still small enough that you can easily roll over for cuddles.

 

[Baby Tea]

It took me a while to get used to sleeping with my wife once we got married. I had about 3 months of crappy sleeps. But, now I'm totally used to it!

Although she DOES steal the blankets from time to time...

 

[super_smash_jesus]

I had bad tendencies for sleepwalking for the first 20 or so years of my life, so I was always reluctant to share my bed. But I do now, and it isn't that horrible, except she is always cold, and I am always too warm, and spooning adds to the warmth enough that I get very uncomfortable.

 

[Specter_]

If she's pretty, yeah. Then I don't mind having her sleep eagle-spread on me and I don't need a cover for warmth

On the smacking and pretending to be asleep:
I once smacked someone in the face (more precisly the eye) while I was asleep, didn't wake up and the next day at breakfast everyone was having a laugh when I entered the room (smacked person couldn't sleep anymore because of the pain and told everyone I was some evil monster)

?dit:

I remember a dream where I was hitting some pikey and my girl said that in the night I'd swung out my left fist, punched her chest of drawers with some force, muttered "ouch" and went back to sleep.

I lol'd

 

[rossatdi]

Just takes a little practice. Personally I've just started a new relationship. The first time I slept over was a disaster (in some ways) because I just couldn't sleep. I've not had that many relationships and the sensation has always been weird.

However, the second time (just two days ago in fact) she came over to mine (bigger bed) and it was wonderful. Took a while to settle down but I can feel that I could get used to it.

Just have patience. As long as the person you are with makes you feel relaxed stick with it. I can promise you a 'no sleeping over' policy is a bad idea.

 

[Fightgarr]

Don't complain, you should see the dorm bed I have...if I'm in there with anyone, we roll an inch to the left and fall out.

I got the same deal, man.

 

[JayCro]

Different experiences with different girls. There was one that I just could not sleep next to. I don't know what it was.

For the most part I do like sharing my bed.

And as a side note I have this thing where I twitch in my sleep. I've been known to punch in my sleep. That goes down real well.

 

[Evilbunny]

Don't complain, you should see the dorm bed I have...if I'm in there with anyone, we roll an inch to the left and fall out.

I got the same deal, man.

Me too, dude. I'm glad my gf and I are both skinny or else we wouldn't fit.

 

[curlycrouton]

I usually end up sleeping in a massive armchair that I bought off eBay anyway, so it doesn't really come into it for me.

 

[Amoreyna]

When I was younger, in my preteens and early teens I thought that sharing my bed with a romantic/sexual partner would be wonderful. Almost like having a living stuffed animal that loves you.

And then I started doing it and I realized just how much I can't stand sharing my bed. I hate not being able to turn over when I want to and to have to do it very carefully so as not to disturb whoever is in the bed. Then there is snoring, cover stealing, people taking the spread eagle position and forcing you to sleep in a chair or jab them in the chest. Speaking of which, ever smack your bedmate and pretend to be a sleep to stop them snoring? So does anyone actually like sharing their bed or is it just me and my selfish ways?

And you don't do anything that would bug the other person? After that list of complaints it makes me admire the people that have actually choosen to fall asleep next to you.

As for me, no I never had any ideals or thought of my lover like a living stuffed animal. To me that is just demeaning. I don't think of my pets that way, why in the world would I treat my lover, the person I was intimate with, like that?

But I'm also very particular in who shares my bed - call me old fashioned but less then 1% of the men I have ever dated have gotten that privilage. To me it's not about having some sort of romantic ideal that you want to live in. Rather it is simply extending that part of your life and opening yourself up. So yes, when I truly love someone their little quirks don't bother me. And trust me I've been with some real snorers.

I think the problems you are encountering is that you are trying to rush into something with stardust still in your eyes instead of waiting and allowing your own wants, needs and desires to show you where to go.

 

[Double-O]

Don't complain, you should see the dorm bed I have...if I'm in there with anyone, we roll an inch to the left and fall out.

I got the same deal, man.

Me too, dude. I'm glad my gf and I are both skinny or else we wouldn't fit.

cause shes always coming to sleep in my res, and the bed is build into the wall, i always make sure i'm next to it everytime, and just throw an arm around her waist to maintain intimate contact. that gives me lots of space to move!

 

[johnman]

Shared with males and females ( you know how drunken parties go - any space will do) and the female aspect floats my boat. Then again i am only 16 so havent experianced the full range of annoyances

 

[Rhayn]

One of my dogs sleep in my bed. Every night, has done it since the very first day we bought her.

It's not quite a girlfriend, but at least it's warming my feet.

 

[Amoreyna]

I don't mind at all. Though it can be dangerous. I remember a dream where I was hitting some pikey and my girl said that in the night I'd swung out my left fist, punched her chest of drawers with some force, muttered "ouch" and went back to sleep.

Be mindful of your bedmates! If you have suppressed violent tendencies, make sure your partner isn't on the same side as your main attack arm.

Actually, my ex-fiancee was a cop so he has some nasty dreams. The one big thing is when you have someone who has violent dreams don't lean over them and shake them awake. I knew better not to do this but apparently his ex-wife didn't. He had been having a dream about fighting a guy with a knife and ended up punching her in his sleep, but fotunately didn't hurt her.

If your partner is having a bad dream call out their name and slowly wake them up before you touch them.

Hehe, though on the non-violent side I have spooked out a couple of men by sleep walking - apparently I'm good at that. One night I tricked one into believing I was awake for over 10 minutes before it dawned on him slowly that I wasn't blinking.

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

Never done it. Probably never will knowing my luck with the opposite gender. However I will say that sleeping in a barracks I had absolutely no problems with hard mattresses or people snoring. Those sleeping bags are so nice - if you open them up to the right degree (not too cold/hot) I can sleep like a baby... until people start getting up or somebody wakes me up quietly (weird how I react to that really quickly).

 

[cyber druid]

all i have to say is lol