Do you take arguments too personally?

[Eri]

I'm sure all of us have encountered a person who takes to heart everything you say to them, regardless of what it is or your sometimes valid reasons. (Console fan boys famous example of this) I'm sure we have all at one point done that at least once. So, Do you feel attacked by arguments? Do you also constantly see others being affected this way? What are your observations?

 

[Kiefer13]

No.

When you break it down, there are two kinds of arguments.

1. The intelligent debate, where people on both sides put out their own views, and are willing to at least consider points from the opposite side.

2. The stupid argument, where people on both sides are rabid fanboys that are unwilling to admit that their opinion may not be the only one that matters.

I enjoy the first type of argument, and just ignore or mock people engaging in the second type, as they tend to be idiots and I don't get offended by anything idiots say as I find it difficult to take them seriously. I never take it personally.

 

[Raven's Nest]

When someone posts something that questions the validity of my opinion, I'll take it personally. If someone has an opinion which affects my values I'll speak out against them. But I try to avoid starting arguments. I'm pretty easy-going when it comes to opinions on the internet, but if I see someone who is acting like a complete prick, I'll call them out on it.

 

[Distorted Stu]

Arguments never bother me, im way too laid back about any subject.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Arguments that advocate racism, homophobia and stuff like that really get to me, mainly because the person arguing it is an idiot and I dearly wish for them to die, and I cannot bring about such death.

 

[zohmbee]

I only feel attacked if their argument makes no sense / is completely stupid, because I know they're just arguing for the sake of arguing or they're trying to piss me off.

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

Are you insinuating that I'm insulted easily?

 

[Acier]

In real life I sometimes get defensive over silly things

Internet, I tend to steer away from arguing

 

[Eri]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

Are you insinuating that I'm insulted easily?

Yes, Yes I am. Nub

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

Are you insinuating that I'm insulted easily?

Yes, Yes I am. Nub

Yeah...well...YOU'RE A NARUTARD!

TAKE THAT! HOLD IT! OBJECTION! GOTCHA!

 

[dkyros]

I wouldn't say that I take arguments personally, more out of a feeling of general apathy towards popular subjects. I will say that it does get annoying to speak to someone that cannot hear you, by this I mean no matter what you say they wont attempt to see it from that view because it is not their own. Also, having ADHD doesn't help and I lose my train of thought really easily, for example right now I'm staring at Onyx Oblivion's hypnotoad and am taking a really long time to finish this post.

 

[Eri]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

Are you insinuating that I'm insulted easily?

Yes, Yes I am. Nub

Yeah...well...YOU'RE A NARUTARD!

TAKE THAT! HOLD IT! OBJECTION! GOTCHA!

At least I have chicken..

 

[Xojins]

I take some arguments personally, specifically ones that involve someone questioning my motives or intentions. Since you are not me, you cannot possibly know what I was thinking, so for you to try to insinuate otherwise is retarded.

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

Are you insinuating that I'm insulted easily?

Yes, Yes I am. Nub

Yeah...well...YOU'RE A NARUTARD!

TAKE THAT! HOLD IT! OBJECTION! GOTCHA!

At least I have chicken..

...and stay out!

 

[The Hairminator]

When someone is terribly stupid I rage... =easily trolled.

 

[MelziGurl]

I work in a retail environment, taking things personally in an argument wouldn't end well. So no, I've learnt not to take things personally regardless of the person.

 

[HeartGear]

First let me say I find this thread hilariously ironic. The level of maturity it takes to admit one's faults is directly correlated to the maturity it takes to understand the difference between a debate and a personal attack. And while it's great to hear from the mature side of the audience (mature being a relative term) I can't help but feel bland anticipation for the condemnation of immaturity and parodies thereof.

You see, I can honestly say that quite often I DO "take arguments too personally" because I'm a person that needs to be heard. Yes one of THOSE types of people. I think for quite a while now I've secretly relished the opportunity to be wronged and lash out with all my self-righteousness behind me at the foolish twat ignorant enough to get in my way.

But the THIRD thing I'd like to mention (because there are always three things) is that my post is in of itself an irony due to its awareness of its own faults. As I'm attempting to point out the futility of posting a thread that will spawn predictable results I'm actually reinforcing the nature of it all.

at which point I can only say FUCK YOU!

 

[FalloutJack]

I take some things personally, sure. Wouldn't be human if I didn't do that. The question is...how do I respond? Well, given my track record, I must not be doing too badly. I generally can't stand to be near a stupid debate about things I'm not very interested in anyhow. And if said debate IS about something I care about, I might still not bother to comment on the grounds that it'd be a waste of time, given the crowd.

 

[HeartGear]

1. The intelligent debate, where people on both sides put out their own views, and are willing to at least consider points from the opposite side.

2. The stupid argument, where people on both sides are rabid fanboys that are unwilling to admit that their opinion may not be the only one that matters.

I think you sum it up quite nicely.

 

[tkioz]

mmm it depends, an argument generally leads me to walking away, nothing good ever came from an argument.

A debate on the other hand... this may sound horribly geeky but when I was in High School I took part in the debate club, and even before that my grandfathers both taught me the skill of debating and how to use it as a positive, I love it, but you've got to be careful with who you debate.

If used correctly a debate can be both informative and a great deal of fun. I love it.

My grandfathers were on opposite sides of the political fence, one right wing and one left wing, but very good friends none the less, respecting each other, disagreeing on points of interest, but respecting each other none the less. I remember Sundays out fishing where they'd give me a topic and make me take the side I disagreed with and argue for it.

You can learn a lot doing that, not only about the other side, but about more effective arguments to make.

I think the skill of the debate has been lost today to a great deal, and people really don't get that you can disagree with someones opinion without hating them. I don't hate some right wing people, I just disagree with one point of their agenda, after all, people aren't just one of their points of interest.