Do you take compliments well?

[Palademon]

I usually don't take them very well because people seem to hand them out really easily, and usually in reference to actions they would consider to have a good or bad dichotomy about them.

For example, a parent asking me to help them.
My options are to help and be called a good boy, or refuse and look like a lazy asshole.
That's hardly something worth praise if my only alternative is negative.

Also, I don't like them very often because lots of people give them out to be polite instinct rather than actually feeling the desire to do so.

 

[Mersadeon]

I actually take them pretty well. I will always try to be humble and say it isn't a big deal or that they should stop because I might blush, but after one initial remark I'll just take it. I like it, even if I don't like to admit it.

 

[VanQ]

I suspect the vast majority of respondents to this thread don't take compliments well. It's only because every once in a while somebody will post something about the Myers Briggs Type Indicator and most people will respond with INTJ as a result.

I dunno what a INTJ is like but as an ISTP I don't dislike compliments but prefer to not be lavished with them. A simple "good job" or "thank you" is more than enough for me and will make me really happy, but go into detail about why I did such a good job or worse, make it out to be a big deal to other people and then I tend to get uncomfortable.

 

[sanquin]

I used to not take them very well. I was way too pessimistic about compliments. But I tried to force myself to think otherwise. And it worked, eventually. Even if I don't agree with the compliment it still feels kinda nice to be complimented now. And I always thank them for it. The worst thing you can do is make excuses for why you didn't deserve said compliment.

 

[Heronblade]

My internal reaction to a compliment usually ranges from indifference to suspicion. I've gotten better in recent years about showing appreciation for such things, but in reality don't really care about the appreciation/regard of others. If I did a good job, I know it.

Ironically enough, I rarely get praised for the things I do feel pride over. It almost always seems to be some inconsequential thing I could have done in my sleep and/or would choose to do by default.

I suspect the vast majority of respondents to this thread don't take compliments well. It's only because every once in a while somebody will post something about the Myers Briggs Type Indicator and most people will respond with INTJ as a result.

I dunno what a INTJ is like but as an ISTP I don't dislike compliments but prefer to not be lavished with them. A simple "good job" or "thank you" is more than enough for me and will make me really happy, but go into detail about why I did such a good job or worse, make it out to be a big deal to other people and then I tend to get uncomfortable.

INTJ's are nicknamed "masterminds". We tend to be fairly aloof individuals with a strong bias towards logical thinking. Basically the closest humans get to the outlook of Star Trek's Vulcans.

 

[Aesir23]

I love compliments but because I don't get them very often I still don't take them very well. I get very flustered and usually have no idea how to respond beyond a small "Thank you".

That Myers Briggs Type test is fairly interesting from a psychological standpoint. Turns out I'm ISFP.

 

[Barbas]

It causes unbearable awkwardness, which I solve by frowning deeply and staring in cross-eyed disapproval at the person who spoke the compliment until they leave out of discomfort. If that doesn't work, I begin to slowly remove my clothes.

 

[Elfgore]

I only receive compliments about my hair. Since my Mom hates my hair long and says it looks terrible whenever I receive a compliment about it, I just feel like I won a small victory against my mother (I don't hate her, I just want to prove her wrong). So I take it quite well.

 

[Tahaneira]

I'll join the rising chorus and say no. If I can get away with it, I'll look at the ground and shuffle my feet awkwardly. If a response is required, I'll probably mumble something about getting lucky with whatever it is I'm being complimented on. If it's my appearance that's being complimented, then I just get flustered as hell.

I get it from my dad, who just sort of stays quiet and avoids the spotlight. Which is hard, since everyone around him thinks he's a genius. The females in my family, on the other hand, cannot understand our 'modesty.'

Guess who the extroverts are.

 

[Frezzato]

I love compliments but because I don't get them very often I still don't take them very well. I get very flustered and usually have no idea how to respond beyond a small "Thank you".

That Myers Briggs Type test is fairly interesting from a psychological standpoint. Turns out I'm ISFP.

From what I hear, the MBTI should really be administered by a professional. Unfortunately that can cost around $200, but for the purposes of this forum I don't think that free tests will do much harm.

I do take umbrage with one part of the online test I took. I believe I am both detail oriented and a 'big picture' thinker and didn't think it realistic when I was forced to choose. Being able to work that out must be one of the advantages of getting tested by a pro. Also, I hear the real test has hundreds of questions.

 

[Techno Squidgy]

It depends on if I think I deserve the compliment or not.
If I deserved it, I take it well.
If I didn't, I tend to say "Thanks but..."

If I'm complimented on my appearance I either proceed to making jokes about my "Adonis-like" physique or recommend an optician. I'm not terrible looking, but I'm still not satisfied with my appearance and refuse to let compliments lull me into a sense of complacency. It's far too easy to put the weight I lost back on.

 

[Mr Fixit]

I love getting compliments & I like to give them out too. I remember the last one I got was "your intelligence is so sexy", that was a good one... I think my response was something along the lines of "finally someone gets it & thanks". I've got quite a few compliments lately, which is odd, but it's a good thing. Gotta love that ego boost.

 

[Scarim Coral]

I guess? I mean I do say thank you when I get it but I don't aim to seek compliment, just stay focus at hand (I don't seek for glory).

 

[Hero of Lime]

I don't take them that well, too modest I suppose. Being modest can be nice since it gives me better special attack a more humble outlook.

Realistically I just just say a hearty "thank you." A few years ago when I got into great shape, I always explained how I did it as people would always ask after complimenting me.

I should mention I like complimenting people, especially if I can tell they may be uneasy, or nervous in some way. It can be amazing how one nice compliment can make someone's mood change for the better.

 

[zerragonoss]

I love compliments but because I don't get them very often I still don't take them very well. I get very flustered and usually have no idea how to respond beyond a small "Thank you".

That Myers Briggs Type test is fairly interesting from a psychological standpoint. Turns out I'm ISFP.

From what I hear, the MBTI should really be administered by a professional. Unfortunately that can cost around $200, but for the purposes of this forum I don't think that free tests will do much harm.

I do take umbrage with one part of the online test I took. I believe I am both detail oriented and a 'big picture' thinker and didn't think it realistic when I was forced to choose. Being able to work that out must be one of the advantages of getting tested by a pro. Also, I hear the real test has hundreds of questions.

Yes a test administered by a pro is a better idea, also the thing with myers briggs is it talks about natural tendencies and its actually scales not binaires, so if one side is 0 and the other is 100 you could end up being called one even though you are only at say 55. The tendencies part of it is that you think the way your type is supposed to think first, if you're a well rounded healthy individual you then move onto thinking the other ways. In fact one of the main purposes of the test is to show you what ways of thinking you should practice or make yourself consider, as they don't come to you naturally. Source: my mom loves the system and is qualified to give tests.

On topic, I tend to take them decently I guess just say thank you add nod. I do kinda get dazed after so many, as I found out recently when I won a competition for my school, and was getting completed by half the room.

 

[DkLnBr]

Not in the slightest. I had major self esteem issues back when I was an angsty teen, and I never felt like I deserved any praise I got. Its gotten better now, but It's still there, I don't really know what to do when someone gives me a compliment. I tend to just awkwardly mumble out a quiet "thanks" and that's about it (It still feels like I'm being arrogant and boastful when I acknowledge something I've done well, I guess I'm modest to a fault). I actually prefer criticism over compliments because at least I know I can handle that.

 

[Someone Depressing]

I get embarassed. I'm not good with people, full stop. I'll clam up and deflect the compliment, then skip town in a van full of Fillipino immigrants.

 

[Poppy JR.]

I feel kinda awkward receiving compliments. I wish I knew why.

PS I'm a ESFP [footnote] Extravert(67%) Sensing(38%) Feeling(25%) Perceiving(33)% [/footnote] myself.

 

[FPLOON]

I suspect the vast majority of respondents to this thread don't take compliments well.

Well, I can honestly say I take compliments EXTREMELY well... Just don't try to quote me just to prove a point in said compliment... or make it sound like you're not really interested in complimenting me in the first place...

It's the sincerity that counts, for me... not the pending awkwardness that follows afterwards...

 

[KOMega]

It generally puts me off guard and I stammer for a second or two.

It's not like I can't take compliments ever, but generally I don't get them very often or about things I think are worth a compliment.