Do you think age matters in a relationship?
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This is just one of those "depends" questions. It depends on the people and what stage they are of their lives they are in. I've seen two good friends of mine split mainly due to age, yet my Grandparents were married 52 years and they were 8 years apart.
As long as both members of the pair are adults (physically and mentally please) then I don't have objections to differences in age.
I could probably talk myself blue about things everyone says about males generally maturing later mentally than females, but whatever the reason I tend to find myself attracted to men slightly older than myself (I'm 24). Lately I seem to be into 27-year-olds >_>;
I could probably talk myself blue about things everyone says about males generally maturing later mentally than females, but whatever the reason I tend to find myself attracted to men slightly older than myself (I'm 24). Lately I seem to be into 27-year-olds >_>;
I don't really care. I've heard someone say before if you divide the older persons age by 2 and add 7 to that number, then that is the age that the younger person can be without it being creepy. So a 30 years old could could date a 22 year old fine but if the younger person was 18 or 19 it might be a bit odd. I dunno. I guess it only works down to a certain point too before it becomes illegal.
But once again I don't really care. Just something someone told me once after a few drinks.
But once again I don't really care. Just something someone told me once after a few drinks.
If the age difference is 4+ years, or if it's someone whose legal dating a minor(if they are off by like a year, whatever. But if it's like, 21 and 13 then wtf), then that is kinda sketchy to me. Anything other than that I find ok.
When the your can plausibly be mistaken for your child, there's a problem.
Even more so when you actually have a child and hook up with someone in the same age bracket as they are.
Even more so when you actually have a child and hook up with someone in the same age bracket as they are.
Yes I think it matters. 90 year old with 16 year old is bit odd. As the question was with general age and relationship it really does matter. I can't find the quote, but I agree that if the both sides are mentally and physically mature, the age matters not.
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Sooooo... I quess what I am saying is that generalle yes, but when both sides are mature, no. (Yes I know. "Mature" is really subjective matter to be measured, but still.)
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...is totally fine. Even 89 and 27, because I know that 27 years old really does know what he/she is up to.Gnoya said:
Sooooo... I quess what I am saying is that generalle yes, but when both sides are mature, no. (Yes I know. "Mature" is really subjective matter to be measured, but still.)
If it's legal it's fine but if someone is 17 and his/her BF/GF is 18 in an area where 18 is the age of legal sex, it's BS to keep them apart.
I think that the appropriate age formula holds pretty accurate:
(your age)/2 + 7
So for example I'm 22 so I shouldn't date a girl younger than 18, which is reasonable. And then if you're 40 the age is 27 which is also reasonable. The older the pair the larger the chronological gap could be without being creepy, unlike when you're teenagers and there is a BIG difference between 14 and 17.
Granted there can be some allowances for people who are aged beyond their time through severe trauma and such, but never to the point of pedophilia. Which seems to be what happens in fandom a lot but that's another thread.
(your age)/2 + 7
So for example I'm 22 so I shouldn't date a girl younger than 18, which is reasonable. And then if you're 40 the age is 27 which is also reasonable. The older the pair the larger the chronological gap could be without being creepy, unlike when you're teenagers and there is a BIG difference between 14 and 17.
Granted there can be some allowances for people who are aged beyond their time through severe trauma and such, but never to the point of pedophilia. Which seems to be what happens in fandom a lot but that's another thread.
Once you're over the age of 18 you're free to date above your age, no matter how big the gap, but that doesn't mean its right or healthy. Considering a vast difference in age, you may wish to examine your reasoning on why you're with that person. Most generation gap relationships (ones over 10-20 years or more) aren't healthy relationships. Either one party isn't mature enough or the other party is looking to reclaim a part of their life they'll never get back and it never works out in the end. Also see "golddigger".
I'm of the mind that you should be with the person who truly makes you happy, not just physically, but emotionally and intellectually.
I'm of the mind that you should be with the person who truly makes you happy, not just physically, but emotionally and intellectually.
well when i was in gr 9 i was dating a girl in gr 11
at that age, age gaps like that are a bit of a different story, they seem and are considered more of a deal
it really was a good relationship though; it isn't age that matters so much as it is maturity
at that age, age gaps like that are a bit of a different story, they seem and are considered more of a deal
it really was a good relationship though; it isn't age that matters so much as it is maturity
Another vote for "as long as both people are legal consenting adults it's fine" over here. If a 24 year old and a 60 year old are happy together, that's their business, not mine.
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For some people, this is serious business. For others, like a gay friend of mine who likes to date middle-aged men (he is in his 20s) it is less of a concern. In fact age, a bit of success and some maturity is probably attractive to him.