Do you want Children?
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I'm pretty sure I don't want any. A wouldn't mind a partner but I don't see myself as a father. I don't see myself as selfish - I would be just like my Dad and would be a poor father figure (that's not to say a bad person, just a poor father), this world has enough mouths to feed and I know this last point sounds more pessimistic that I mean it to be but the world we live in is not a great one and I don't want to make anyone else put up with it.
Right now? No, I've been thinking about it a lot, especially since my brother became a father almost a year ago now. The way I feel it is that my life is my own, and I want to be able to do with it as I please. A child makes that impossible. Or, in other words, I'm not 'mature' enough to settle down, declare 'the next 20 years of my life I'll have a dependable income, be a decent role-model and always be there for my children if they need me', because that's what I expect of a parent.
My own parents are awesome, far better than many others I've met (and I know I'm biased, thank you), and as long as I feel that I can't be as good as them, I won't do it. Either I'll do everything I can to make sure that my kids can have a happy childhood and grow up to live happy lives where they have all the opportunities I had when it comes to making choices, or I won't have any at all.
My own parents are awesome, far better than many others I've met (and I know I'm biased, thank you), and as long as I feel that I can't be as good as them, I won't do it. Either I'll do everything I can to make sure that my kids can have a happy childhood and grow up to live happy lives where they have all the opportunities I had when it comes to making choices, or I won't have any at all.
Silly answer: Yes, please. Lightly grilled, on a bun, with a side of fries.
More serious response: "I'm going to go ahead and assume that we can mostly agree that the world is ridiculously overpopulated right now." You go right on ahead and think that. It isn't true, but whatever. Humanity isn't too numerous, simply awful at managing itself. The better the conditions people are in, the less incentive they feel to have children. The worse off they are, the more cheap labor they feel the urge to produce. Most of the first world is starting to look at this as a serious problem. Only problem is, it doesn't fit with the eco-nutter doctrine that Humanity Is a Blight Upon the Earth.
More serious response: "I'm going to go ahead and assume that we can mostly agree that the world is ridiculously overpopulated right now." You go right on ahead and think that. It isn't true, but whatever. Humanity isn't too numerous, simply awful at managing itself. The better the conditions people are in, the less incentive they feel to have children. The worse off they are, the more cheap labor they feel the urge to produce. Most of the first world is starting to look at this as a serious problem. Only problem is, it doesn't fit with the eco-nutter doctrine that Humanity Is a Blight Upon the Earth.
I'd like a boy first, then a girl a year or two later.
I really want kids. I love the idea of being a father and cannot wait until I am one.
Most of all, I want to be an amazing Dad for them.
I really want kids. I love the idea of being a father and cannot wait until I am one.
Most of all, I want to be an amazing Dad for them.
Not yet. First I need a place of own, a job that will help me stay alive, and someone to procreate with. 
I don't know. Part of me does, but another part of me can't stand them. In any case, I have other obstacles to overcome before I can worry about that.
Yes, well if you made .50 USD an hour you wouldn't spend money on condoms/birth control either.Jonluw said:
That said, yes, at some point I do hope to have kids. No time soon though. Fuck no to the near future, I'm not even remotely ready financially or emotionally to have kids. I at least want to get through most of my 20's without kids.
Of course. When you boil it down, the meaning of life is basically surviving and getting some offspring into the world. I'm not planning to get any anytime soon, but in a ten years time or so I'm sure to have some.
We all do, sooner or later. Even those who say they won't. That's instincts for ya.
We all do, sooner or later. Even those who say they won't. That's instincts for ya.
Not right now definately. I'd have no way to support them and I'm far to selfish to bother with a kid. Maybe that'll change in the far future when I'm settled down but as for now, no way in hell.
I want to get pregnant once, and you may think that means I want one kid, but there's a history of twins in my family, so I'm a little wary of saying that. Anyways, I've found the person who I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I also have a really strong urge to have a kid with him at some point. I'm sure I could rationalize it more than that, but I reaallly want to have a kid with him. I want the two of us to combine and make a baby. And I want to raise that baby in a loving comfortable household with everything she could ever want (He's set on having a girl, but I explained that it's a 50/50 shot) and I want to teach her how to see the rules of culture so she can interact in it but not be bound by it. I want to watch her grow into a person all her own...
Before I met him I wasn't sure I was ever getting married or having kids. But with him... Yeah. I want to. I really want to.
Before I met him I wasn't sure I was ever getting married or having kids. But with him... Yeah. I want to. I really want to.
Yes, I want them. Breaded and stir-fried with ginger and heavy on the garlic.
Despite what many people seem to think, no, not all people want them, not even as they get older. Can't stand the little bastards, myself. They creep me out and as I've grown older, I only get more disgusted by them. They all look like those fugly troll dolls and their shrieking/speech/babble is like the Antichrist on sound waves. Had myself spayed a few years ago and it's the best decision I've ever made, something I'm even more certain of with each passing year.
Despite what many people seem to think, no, not all people want them, not even as they get older. Can't stand the little bastards, myself. They creep me out and as I've grown older, I only get more disgusted by them. They all look like those fugly troll dolls and their shrieking/speech/babble is like the Antichrist on sound waves. Had myself spayed a few years ago and it's the best decision I've ever made, something I'm even more certain of with each passing year.
I've always like the idea of raising a son as a jewel in my crown and the ultimate monument to my arrogance, but the problem is you almost always have to get a woman involved. Women are too much trouble to include in any long term plans, so I'm definitely not getting a son through conventional means. The ideal situation for me would be to have a clone of myself grown in an artificial womb, so that I may raise it as a son. Two things are tragic about this idea: one, it will never happen, and two, I'm sure we have the technology to pull it off. Anyway, it's still a huge monetary investment, and I wouldn't even take a clone until I was in a position of iron-clad financial stability.