So, When i grew up I never really took a position on anything. I was kind of shy and didn't want to have an other opinion than my friends.
Now, I'm 17 and I have some opinions that I want argue if I feel my friends are wrong. The problem is, I think I'm still kind of a bit insecure. I don't know.
If there's something that I'm really certain of and try to say that to one of my friends. They are really confident and say no. "That's not how it is". I always go back and say "ok, I think I'm right, but I might be wrong as well".
like when recently me and a friend got in a discussion about statistics i said "Well, if you look at the statistics, that show that I'm right" he replied with "Well, you can't trust statistics". I wasn't able to continue that because he just said "You can't". Of course I tried a couple of times to give arguments why you really can trust them, but since he was so stubborn I couldn't continue and gave up.
I'm not really confident when I'm in a discussion. Is this normal or is this something I should do something about? I might just be bad at discussing things though :/
and another thing, When I watch all that crap with Anita Sarkeesian(Yeah, I don't like her that much, it's just something about her that makes me feel that she's just voicing her own feelings and aggression, but that's not what I want to talk about), I feel like she does have a point an certain things and agree with her and then watch a video reply where someone says that many of the things she said is wrong I find myself agreeing with him. I think I'm really bad at choosing a side and sticking to it.
Anyone else do this? and I want to be able to be more assertive(not sure if assertive is the right word) in a discussion. to improve my discussing skill(?) is there any books I could read?
Now, I'm 17 and I have some opinions that I want argue if I feel my friends are wrong. The problem is, I think I'm still kind of a bit insecure. I don't know.
If there's something that I'm really certain of and try to say that to one of my friends. They are really confident and say no. "That's not how it is". I always go back and say "ok, I think I'm right, but I might be wrong as well".
like when recently me and a friend got in a discussion about statistics i said "Well, if you look at the statistics, that show that I'm right" he replied with "Well, you can't trust statistics". I wasn't able to continue that because he just said "You can't". Of course I tried a couple of times to give arguments why you really can trust them, but since he was so stubborn I couldn't continue and gave up.
I'm not really confident when I'm in a discussion. Is this normal or is this something I should do something about? I might just be bad at discussing things though :/
and another thing, When I watch all that crap with Anita Sarkeesian(Yeah, I don't like her that much, it's just something about her that makes me feel that she's just voicing her own feelings and aggression, but that's not what I want to talk about), I feel like she does have a point an certain things and agree with her and then watch a video reply where someone says that many of the things she said is wrong I find myself agreeing with him. I think I'm really bad at choosing a side and sticking to it.
Anyone else do this? and I want to be able to be more assertive(not sure if assertive is the right word) in a discussion. to improve my discussing skill(?) is there any books I could read?