Does She Like Me?

[azraelthor]

First off I'm not looking for advice on how to handle this, just peoples opinions on the informatin about our interactions I have listed.
1. We never hung out outside of school or swim, but given the chance in school or swim we were almost always together
2. In classes we would always sit next to each other even if she had more conventional friends in the class.
3. After practices we would spend hours in the hot tub talking.
4. She enjoyed picking on me for my lack of work ethic in school and in swim
5. After our schools graduation they sent everyone on a 3 hour cruise of Boston Harbor (2 hours away from my school) for the entire cruise, instead of staying with her friends below deck were there was music drinks and dancing, she chose to play cards with me and two other kids on the deck
6. After delivering a very thinnly veiled insult directed at her, all she did was laugh and assaulted me with her shoes
However
1. After a friend of mine (without my knowledge) told her that I had feelings for her all she said to me was "Your friends have a cruel sense of humor"

So what do people think? Likes me as a friend or more?

 

[IndianaJonny]

3. After practices we would spend hours in the hot tube talking.

My,my, we might want to correct that, mightn't we?

Since you already seem to be such peas in a pod, go ahead and ask her if (strange as this may sound) you'd genuinely like her to be your girlfriend. The 'if' is because do you genuinely feel that's a level of relationship you want enter into with her, that it seems a natural and right progression? - or do you think you 'should' do this simply based on some arbitary concept of what's the 'norm'?

 

[370999]

The obvious answer is ask her if you want to know (and am prepared to deal with it). I think this is your friend from ages ago, yes? In which case what does it matter as she has probaly moved on and you haven't gotten in touch with her.

 

[azraelthor]

3. After practices we would spend hours in the hot tube talking.

My,my, we might want to correct that, mightn't we?

Since you already seem to be such peas in a pod, go ahead and ask her if (strange as this may sound) you'd genuinely like her to be your girlfriend. The 'if' is because do you genuinely feel that's a level of relationship you want enter into with her, that it seems a natural and right progression? - or do you think you 'should' do this simply based on some arbitary concept of what's the 'norm'?

Fixed, and I'm trying to decide that, if she does like me, if it is worth it to start a relationship, right before college

 

[SillyBear]

I see a lot of these types of questions in both real life and on the internet, and the trouble is, we just can't help you. Sorry. We don't know you two, we haven't seen the body language, we haven't seen the chemistry and we have no idea what type of girl she is. There are a thousand variables here and we just can't say.

It sounds like she certainly does like you to some degree. Is it more than a friend? Look, we just can't say. Ask your friends if they think so - they know you both and they've seen you together. Usually your friends are right. The most attractive and amazing boy in the school had a huge crush on me for three years and my friends would always say "he likes you! You idiot!" and I never believed them. So that is my advice, ask your friends. They generally know this stuff pretty well and they pick up things that go over your head. Human beings, especially those close to you, have a six sense about this stuff. Make use of it.

 

[370999]

3. After practices we would spend hours in the hot tube talking.

My,my, we might want to correct that, mightn't we?

Since you already seem to be such peas in a pod, go ahead and ask her if (strange as this may sound) you'd genuinely like her to be your girlfriend. The 'if' is because do you genuinely feel that's a level of relationship you want enter into with her, that it seems a natural and right progression? - or do you think you 'should' do this simply based on some arbitary concept of what's the 'norm'?

Fixed, and I'm trying to decide that, if she does like me, if it is worth it to start a relationship, right before college

You don't know. You can be reasonably confident at times but noone ever knows for sure. Yet again this probelm pops up of how often do you deal with this girl. I am sure you are the fellah who was talking about getting in touch with her a few days ago so I question te wisdom of going from "hey haven't seen you in five years" to "Want to go out?". Like how pratical is it?

 

[artanis_neravar]

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No that was me, this guy is my asshole friend (IRL) that is still trying to prove a point to me that I fucked up all those years ago no matter what I tell him.

 

[azraelthor]

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No that was me, this guy is my asshole friend (IRL) that is still trying to prove a point to me that I fucked up all those years ago no matter what I tell him.

LIES!....No you caught me...LOVE YOU MAN!!!!

 

[370999]

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No that was me, this guy is my asshole friend (IRL) that is still trying to prove a point to me that I fucked up all those years ago no matter what I tell him.

I was a bit weirded out by the strange lack of posts. Anywho is really fucking up if you didn't want to go out with her? Seems ike you got a friend out of it so that's not bad.

 

[artanis_neravar]

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No that was me, this guy is my asshole friend (IRL) that is still trying to prove a point to me that I fucked up all those years ago no matter what I tell him.

LIES!....No you caught me...LOVE YOU MAN!!!!

Dude we've been over this, we can never be, your fiance scares me, you never know when she's going to use her Alma powers

 

[artanis_neravar]

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No that was me, this guy is my asshole friend (IRL) that is still trying to prove a point to me that I fucked up all those years ago no matter what I tell him.

I was a bit weirded out by the strange lack of posts. Anywho is really fucking up if you didn't want to go out with her? Seems ike you got a friend out of it so that's not bad.

He's engaged to his high school girlfriend, so he believes that high school romances last. I, on the other hand believe that he is the exception. By the time I realized that I might have feelings for her and that she might have feelings for me, it was already halfway through our senior year. We were going to separate schools and hour away from each other, and she didn't drive. I believe that when two people go to different schools while being tied to each other just builds resentment, and I didn't think it was worth it to start something only to ruin it.

Sorry if that's kinda rambley I kept getting distracted trying to write it

 

[Zantos]

It sounds positive, but make sure you're not just over analyzing every single little detail in faint hope. There's no individual steps, no checklist, just a great big whopping if it feels right then go for it.

 

[Aurgelmir]

1. After a friend of mine (without my knowledge) told her that I had feelings for her all she said to me was "Your friends have a cruel sense of humor"/quote]

Oh you missed a good chance of a comback there... "And what would be so cruel about me liking you?"

Girls are complicated, and tend to like to have guys give them attention (not all girls are aware that they are doing this, not calling anyone an "attention whore" here).

So you might actually just give her tons of emotional stimuli, which in the case of girls doesn't always equal boyfriend material...

Only way to know is to step it up a notch, take this to the next level: Outside of school, on your terms.

 

[LordRoyal]

The majority of advice I have here is to go for it irregardless. Asking people over the internet isn't going to teach you how to look upon the situation again in the future. It's very likely even if this relationship succeeds or fails your going to be in another situation just like it in the future.

I recommend going for a relationship anyway purely for life experience, you only live once after all. Is it better to go for the girl, crash and burn or reminisce on it 20 years later?