Does this seem justified to you?

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Alright, So I've liked this girl for a long time. (Almost about a year) and I noticed on facebook the other day that she apparently broke up with a guy she's been dating for about a month. This guy isn't really a bad person or anything, he's a bit of a smart-ass, but it's a lot better than the douche she dated for a long time before him. But anyway, She told me the reason she broke up with him today was that "She was tired of people calling him gay."

So apparently people were accusing him of using her as a cover up, and she breaks up with him?

That logic just doesn't sit too well with me.

Now, the guy is completely fine with this, unscaved, but she feels regret for doing this.
I highly doubt they'll get back together, because I think there is some driving reason behind it, spacifically a situation that she has been in for the past week or so. And she seemed more saddened by the fact that she now had 5 ex boyfriends. (I know what you're thinking, she isn't the bitchy type, but she does tend to make a big deal out of minor things occasionally.)

But anyway, what sort of logic do you think she implied into this, because I'm just goddamned baffeled.

EDIT
Alright, So I went back to school today, and she continues to act extreamly strange about this. She doesn't seem to be herself. She is very melancholic, But I don't think it's from this, but another relapse of something that would take another 3-4 paragraphs to explain. So now my question is, how can I try to cheer her up?

 

[Daystar Clarion]

I'm guessing none of you are older than 20?

Because that would explain a lot.

 

[Vault101]

mabye she thourght he was gay, but she should ahve spoken to him about it

I would be pretty pissed if I was being used as a cover-up for a closeted gay

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

I'm guessing none of you are older than 20?

Because that would explain a lot.

Damn, why are children and teens so dumb?

 

[Daystar Clarion]

I'm guessing none of you are older than 20?

Because that would explain a lot.

Damn, why are children and teens so dumb?

Because children and teens are dumb?

I don't mean that in a derogatory way, but young people don't tend to have any real life perspective and still have social hangups from their school days.

 

[Strain42]

Eh, humans are complex creatures, and often there are multiple reasons why people break up. Often it's not even the reason people say.

I once heard (sorry, I don't have any sources on this so I could just be talking out of my ass. It was just something I read online once) that the number one reason women gave for breaking up with a guy is that "he was too happy with the relationship." not because he was smothering or anything, but because there just wasn't enough "drama" which to me seems like a pretty bad reason, but to some people it probably makes perfect sense.

I'm not saying her reason for breaking up with him was good, in fact I'm not entirely sure I even understand it 100%, but if the guy seems ok with it, then it's not something that needs too much dwelling on.

If she regrets what she did, it's up to her to think about what she wants to do next. If she decides she wants him back and he says yes, fine. If he says no...well I wouldn't blame him for that. That's just the way life goes some times.

 

[Logiclul]

That single statement isn't the whole story, my friend.

That seems to be merely an ambiguous phrase she decided to tell you that she, not you, can fully understand. It seems that despite liking this girl for a year, you've failed to gain enough trust with her for her to tell you her problems.

 

[Keoul]

woman logic

A yup.
Gal seems so shallow, she likes him enough to go out and start dating him but breaks up because people "think" that he's gay -.-

 

[GigaHz]

Snip

She sounds like a total shit-for-brains, and I would distance myself from her by any means necessary.

But, you give off the hint that you want in her pants, so I suggest you act as anti-gay and alpha male as you can.

Throw around the word "Fag" a lot, call your friends bro or bra, wear a wife beater, play a contact sport, play Call of Duty, call women bitches and if you happen to hug a male, say 'no homo'.

Keep it up and she might be all over you.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Snip

She sounds like a total shit-for-brains, and I would distance myself from her by any means necessary.

But, you give off the hint that you want in her pants, so I suggest you act as anti-gay and alpha male as you can.

Throw around the word "Fag" a lot, call your friends bro or bra, wear a wife beater, play a contact sport, play Call of Duty, call women bitches and if you happen to hug a male, say 'no homo'.

Keep it up and she might be all over you.

This is probably the worst advice I have ever gotten on her.
She disdains people like this, I said she went out with a douche, but not the sterotypical douche-douche, but just the fact that he didn't care for her feelings, and randomly left her, 3 times.
Literally, when someone like that sat down at our lunch table, she left after 2 sentances from the guy.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

That single statement isn't the whole story, my friend.

That seems to be merely an ambiguous phrase she decided to tell you that she, not you, can fully understand. It seems that despite liking this girl for a year, you've failed to gain enough trust with her for her to tell you her problems.

Actually, quite the opposite. I remain one of her few friends who is a guy, and all of her other friends told me the same thing, she's been acting extreamly strange, to everyone, for the last couple of days. To me, her closest friends, and everyone.

 

[Monkeyman O'Brien]

Meh. She sounds like a ****. Dumping someone that she (supposedly) liked just because of what other people think of him makes her shallow and a right dumbass.
He is better off without her.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Meh. She sounds like a ****. Dumping someone that she (supposedly) liked just because of what other people think of him makes her shallow and a right dumbass.
He is better off without her.

Got in before the Edit didn't you? oh well- I really doubt it's from that, but a relapse of a huge depressive part of her life, she hasn't been herself for about 4 days, and it's sort of scaring me.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

woman logic

A yup.
Gal seems so shallow, she likes him enough to go out and start dating him but breaks up because people "think" that he's gay -.-

She actually really isn't shallow at all. The more I see her, acting in ways she never really has before, It scares me. For about a week now she has suffered a relapse of a... let's just call it a memory, and it's seem to drive her to the edge, like, mega depression.

 

[Antari]

woman logic

A yup.
Gal seems so shallow, she likes him enough to go out and start dating him but breaks up because people "think" that he's gay -.-

She actually really isn't shallow at all. The more I see her, acting in ways she never really has before, It scares me. For about a week now she has suffered a relapse of a... let's just call it a memory, and it's seem to drive her to the edge, like, mega depression.

They are called hormones. They turn women into explosive devices in some situations. Others depression. Shes young and confused and as she already put it possibly isn't happy about the decision she made. She'll eventually figure out its not the end of the world or sales at clothing stores and be back to normal. Young girl makes rushed misinformed decision, whoa, thats never happened before. Worry more about school. Your going to need it.

 

[Signa]

Are YOU this girl in question, because you seem to be defending her actions a lot.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Are YOU this girl in question, because you seem to be defending her actions a lot.

Guy defending girl he likes actions?
SHOCKER!

But no, I'm defending her actions because now they seem much more defendable. Let's just say she isn't the most normal human being on the planet.

 

[Signa]

Are YOU this girl in question, because you seem to be defending her actions a lot.

Guy defending girl he likes actions?
SHOCKER!

But no, I'm defending her actions because now they seem much more defendable. Let's just say she isn't the most normal human being on the planet.

Let me tell you something dude, this is a MAJOR red flag here. She may need help, but she doesn't need you as a boy friend right now.

 

[GigaHz]

Snip

She sounds like a total shit-for-brains, and I would distance myself from her by any means necessary.

But, you give off the hint that you want in her pants, so I suggest you act as anti-gay and alpha male as you can.

Throw around the word "Fag" a lot, call your friends bro or bra, wear a wife beater, play a contact sport, play Call of Duty, call women bitches and if you happen to hug a male, say 'no homo'.

Keep it up and she might be all over you.

This is probably the worst advice I have ever gotten on her.
She disdains people like this, I said she went out with a douche, but not the sterotypical douche-douche, but just the fact that he didn't care for her feelings, and randomly left her, 3 times.
Literally, when someone like that sat down at our lunch table, she left after 2 sentances from the guy.

You thought I was giving legitimate advice?

I thought the Call of Duty part alone gave away that I wasn't being serious.

I still think she's no good though.

 

[Screamarie]

I LOVE how it seems that the majority of your responders are men blaming it on Woman Problems! or Women's Minds! Because guys aren't messed up with their hormones at that age and could never be shallow or stupid or anything.

Anyways it does seem a little shallow what she did, but she could have reasons, I don't know anything about her. You seem to see redeeming qualities in her so I shall give her the benefit of the doubt and instead just caution you on being supportive, but also being aware of your own feelings. Before defending everything she does, whether to us or to yourself, make certain your not blinded by the fact that you a, care for her and/or b, you may feel something stronger for her.

In the end if you think she's falling into a major depression over something that I'm gonna guess was really bad that happened to her, I would suggest delicately bringing up the subject that there may be something deeper going on. Don't pressure her to talk to you if you don't think she would want to, but instead simply say "you don't have to tell me about it if you don't want, but is there something going on?" And if she says yes, try and encourage her to talk to your school's counselor who would be more equipped to help her emotionally.