M-JN said:
Yyyyyeah, but I think in a lot of ways it's necessary to have some labels on yourself. I mean, you don't have to, but things like "I'm a gamer" help to identify with other people within the bracket. People outside it may hold the stigma, but people inside it will know what you're talking about and may concede to be friends with you.
Most people label themselves regardless of whatever negative connotations there may be, because it's just easier than explaining their personal attributes when a bunch of people will already get the point because of that one word.
For another example, I'm gay, and there are is certainly rather a lot of stigma around that label. But it's still easier than trying to explain to people that I am a human with sexual urges toward other humans contrary to typical breeding procedures and whatnot.
I disagree pretty much in full. Not to say that I think you're wrong, I understand where you're coming from, and you make a lot of good points, I just disagree.
I think life is substantially easier if you don't present yourself with any labels at all. I am most definitely a gamer, I've had my share of all-nighters when a great game comes around, but I never actually just say that to someone that doesn't already know that about me. I simply meet new people and talk to them. If they're cool, I'll hang out with them more, and they'll get to know me better. Eventually, they'll realize that I play a lot of video games.
However, since they came to know this through a slower method, and simultaneously see all the other things I do, it no longer becomes an all-encompassing label. If you simply go up to someone and tell them you're a gamer, that's all they'll know about you, and it's what they'll base their judgements on. A stereotype, rather than the actual complex person with several different interests that you (and in fact everyone) actually are.
So ultimately, I feel it does more harm than good to label yourself. If you are a gamer, then it won't be hard to make gamer friends, even if you don't label yourself that way. However, if you
do label yourself that way, it'll be hard to make
non-gamer friends, and why would you restrict yourself like that?