Hmmm funny I've always (and still have) had a wierd experience.
To start it off I wasn't always a nerd, sure I may have played a bit of Doom and Wolfenstein and Half-life but it was never really serious..and back then i didn't know what the difference between a CD and a DVD was *shame* .
Then at the age of about ten things changed- i got a new computer (still using it now, soon will upgrade to a i7 DX11 machine
) and things exploded. In litellary two years I got into D&D, Hardware, Comics and a LOT of videogames. So suddenly after a year or so I realised- I was now a nerd. Crap I thought I must look really bad in peoples eyes. But was it because I was "normal" before, or something else I don't know but I never stopped my old habits. I still went out. I still played football a LOT.
To be honest I was always considered a bit nerdy since I am, well I really hate bragging about it but lets just say i have an "above average" IQ. Also people have told me I have a great sense of humour.
So logically I made friends EXTREMELY easy so I awlays knew closely at least 70% of the people from each class. Maybe thats why I never got bullied. Sure I was nerdy as hell but I dressed like the "cool dudes" I acted like them, I joked with them and so I never felt excluded in any way. I got invited to partys and birthdays, I had a ton of friends, everything was great.
I guess another factor was the fact I moved a lot. My first school was an ordinary one but when I reached 4th grade, my parents decided I should go to a better school. So I went to a mathematics school from 5th to 7th grade. I adjusted suprisingly well and had even MORE friends than before. Then at 7th grade I took the admitance tests (thats how things work in my country) and I got in everywhere. So I was split up... Most of my friends went to a higher tier mathematics college, but they were all the "nerdy ones" and also going there would make me go to math competitions and the like. My other choice was ACS- American College of Sofia( its in Bulgaria-Go Berbatov
), it was famous for its strict rules, discipline and how succesful all the kids that came out of it were. So I made a leap of faith. (On a side note whilst studying English outside of school I was a bit closer to a "nerd" since I watched a LOT of cartoons as little and was way ahead of the rest and as a result was 4 years ahead of my age. Let me tell you something being 10 and having to be with 15 year olds staring at you like your an alien all the time was NOT a good experience. Also the fact I won essay competitions and got an average of 97% didn't help either :/. It's a bit weird since I never have studied... EVER. I went to take a scholarship test and was first after exiting 20 minutes after the begining...the test was supposed to be 2hrs. And sinced I start feeling im braging a lot lets just continue)
So here I am 9th grade... I have a girlfriend, I am in the school soccer team, i actively play tennis, I am now learning to play the guitar adn yet... I'm nerdier than ever.
I have no idea how this happened but it's awesome. I feel great now. The teachers like me. The "cool kids" all know me and like me and the nerds accept me as one of their own. I am my class representative at the moment so yeah I'd say im pretty popular in the school. I seriously don't know how i do it. I always seem to find the biggest amount of friends for the least amount of time. I've always felt like the link between all the worlds. I have emo friends, death metal friends, nerdy friends, athletic friends even a couple of gothic female friends. Most of them would never even CONSIDER talking to each other, yet, they all accept me.
Is it humour? Is it charisma (I always disregard that stat in RPGs
) I don't know.
I have no idea how I pulled it off but I love my life.
Being a nerd and enjoying it to the fullest whilst being greeted by everyone in the hallways feels great.
So yeah there goes your anti-social nerd theory...
P.S. I'm sorry for the chaotic style of writing and the grammar/punctual mistakes in it i'm kind of in a hurry right now so yeah sry
Also excuse me if I've gotten waay to arrogant in the post, I honestly did not do it on purpose.
P.S.2 I almost forgot three very important things in my story which im not proud of...
-first of all I have done something that I'm really ashamed of before- hurting nerdy kids so as to seem cool in front of the "cool kids", even after appologising I feel really bad for all I've done
(And will never do it again)
-People have tried to bully me twice:
-once in 4th grade a bunch of 7th graders tried to punch one of my friend in OUR OWN FREAKING classroom no less, so I flipped and I might have punched three or four of them and I did throw my self knee forward into one guys stomach... I'm not really proud of that but people did somehow start to respect me more so two weeks later those same guys met me behind school and tried to surround me but about 20 kids from our grade jumped on them and chased them away. The fact they stood up for me made me feel great and I think it shows there are good friends out there. (I don't really like friends who run away when you need them). Two weeks after that the 7th graders came to me shook my hand and appologised.
- In 8th grade when I was still a "newbie" in the school a 9th grader tried to pull me out of my polace in the cafeteria. So I stood up and I asked him are you really sure you want to get yourself hurt and expelled for some crappy cafeteria food? (the rules in the school are VERY strict about the guy who attacks first) I think that caught him off guard because he stood there staring at me and then grumped and walked away. We are now great friends and play games regularly. SO don't misdjudge bullies people. They have hearts too
P.S. Sorry about it being so HUGE
tl;dr Nerds aren't always outcasts of society.