Emotional Insensitivity.

[GHMonkey]

bro, if it dosnt hit ya now. its gonna build. same happened to me when a friend of mine from new zealand died in a hang gliding accident. good luck handling it bro.

 

[Slayer_2]

yeah, same here. Minus the dead friends though. But every girl I've ever met has said I can be a bit.. harsh.

 

[similar.squirrel]

That's quite an enviable trait you got there. How much?

I myself don't have much in the way of emotions, but I'm a sociopath, so that's kind of to expected.

You brag about this in pretty much every thread. Is this an actual prognosis or are you "self diagnosed"?

Yes. I often wonder about that too. Tell us.

 

[sneakypenguin]

Eh, your not alone, I don't think it's normal not to mourn, but its rational thinking to just go eh thats that. Thats my reasoning behind everything, it drives me nuts sometimes but it works. I sometimes think if I got the call my dad died flying, or whatnot I would just be damn it then call the funeral home and start working on financial planning for the rest of my family. SO your not alone in being a cold hearted bastard.

 

[Naheal]

You could be "emotionally numb" as you've noted here, or you could've accepted death as a natural part of life and just let it be as that.

Another note is that the heavily spiritual tend to be less affected by events such as these then those who aren't. It's not really that big of a deal. You could also be more receptive to analytical thought in an emotionally stressful time, a "side effect" of this emotional numbness.

Really, I deal with the same thing and I don't worry about it. I have a harder time empathizing with people, but I'm generally better at focusing through distractions and able to keep my cool more often then not. Think of it as a boon rather then a curse.

 

[geldonyetich]

Fairly good advice here thus far (aside from "emotions are for wusses" which is ironically a stealth emotional cop out). Yes, it could be the "blunted affect." Or it could just be that you're very philosophically comfortable and able to come to grips with death as being a natural part of life.

Of course, the best advice is to go see a shrink about this concern. Seriously, nobody here is qualified to give you an answer on this. For all we know, you could be slowly self-destructing right now.

 

[Raineheart]

Fairly good advice here thus far (aside from "emotions are for wusses" which is ironically a stealth emotional cop out). Yes, it could be the "blunted affect." Or it could just be that you're very philosophically comfortable and able to come to grips with death as being a natural part of life.

Of course, the best advice is to go see a shrink about this concern. Seriously, nobody here is qualified to give you an answer on this. For all we know, you could be slowly self-destructing right now.

Sure, I could go see a shrink. Or I could build some kind of contraption that repeats "how does that make you feel?" every five minutes, for a greatly reduced cost.



To the general thread; I'm not too worried about this whole "no emotion" thing, I only had a casual interest whether other people have the same issue.

I'm pretty happy that I don't feel remorse or sadness, from what I've seen, it sucks cameldick.

 

[Valate_v1legacy]

Its not EMOTIONAL lacking, its a goddamn AUTISM PANDEMIC!!! *Red sirens cry because everyone is a genius*



-Yes I have autism.

 

[Altorin]

you may feel it later, if you don't, you may be a sociopath.

but different people cope with pain differently.

 

[Rolling Thunder]

You've gone numb. Happens to a lot of people, but sooner or later you'll feel the pain.

 

[manicfoot]

Maybe you're just incredibly unselfish?
Mourning is a pretty selfish thing, you know. You're not upset because they're gone, you're upset because you've lost them.

But yeah, I myself don't really do emotions, either.
I tried them for a while when I was younger, but I got sick of them pretty fast.
They're kind of a waste of energy.

Not always the case. What gets to me is how their life just... ended. They're no longer there. No longer thinking.. and then I start to think about how scared they must have felt during their last moments and how fucking unfair it is.

 

[Altorin]

Maybe you're just incredibly unselfish?
Mourning is a pretty selfish thing, you know. You're not upset because they're gone, you're upset because you've lost them.

But yeah, I myself don't really do emotions, either.
I tried them for a while when I was younger, but I got sick of them pretty fast.
They're kind of a waste of energy.

just out of curiousity, have you lost anyone really close to you? Because I lost my uncle last year, had to give his eulogy, had to tell my mom her brother had died.. I went through a lot of stages of grief.. but I wouldn't call any of them selfish.

that really sounds like the stupid thing to say.

 

[Agayek]

I'd have to say I'm in the same boat as the OP. I just don't really feel much in the way of normal emotions, which I think is mostly due to being bullied fairly systematically for several years in primary school. I repress well enough that I don't even know I'm feeling something before it's gone.

 

[vampirekid.13]

Does anyone else feel as if they have no emotional feeling or very little sensitivity?


I'm not quite sure how to phrase what I'm trying to get across, but I'll try as best as I can.

Two weeks ago, my best mate died in a car crash. His parents are devastated, my parents are devastated, everyone is fairly horrified by what happened, except me. I really couldn't care. I mean, he was my best mate, but he's gone. I'll never see him again. And I can't feel a single scrap of sadness that he's passed away. When I was told that he died, I just kinda shrugged my shoulders. It sounds awful, and for the people around me, it most likely is.

I'm not trying to be "tough" about this, nor is this a "look at me, I don't give a shit because I'm a MAN" thread. I'm worried that I can't feel anything and that I couldn't care that he's gone.
-EDIT- I got over being worried. I really couldn't care now.

I've never truly "felt" strong emotions before he died, either, so I don't believe its a case of "numbness". I've never had emotions for someone or wished to have a relationship with someone. However, after my mate died, I've been thinking more about why I can't feel.



So, I've a question for my fellow forum viewers:

Have you ever experienced such an experience that has cause for sadness or devastation, and you simply couldn't find any emotional feeling for what happened?

im the same way, actually people that know me call me inhuman most of the time.


i show no emotions at all ever. i genuinely dont care about anything. i thought about why im like this and why i dont care, i realized its just because i dont.

someone ODed on heroin in his room and the whole company was devastated, i was like "Sucker got what he deserved" and everyone got mad LOL.


anyway, i dont care. about anything. ever. humanity needs to realize we dont all want to save teh world, we dont all want to save people around us, we dont all want to be saved, and we dont all care enough to put effort into being "good".

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

just out of curiousity, have you lost anyone really close to you? Because I lost my uncle last year, had to give his eulogy, had to tell my mom her brother had died.. I went through a lot of stages of grief.. but I wouldn't call any of them selfish.

that really sounds like the stupid thing to say.

Yes, actually.
He was a cat, but he was almost as old as I was, so it counts.
For weeks after he died, it struck me as incredibly selfish how people would start crying again because they were just, and I quote, "used to seeing him there everyday."

Don't be insulted. Humans are selfish creatures. If you didn't mourn, it'd be like you didn't care.

Or something to that effect.
I have no idea what I'm saying.
I'm just so damn tired.

 

[InsertWittyName]

EMOTIONS ARE FOR THE WEAK!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd have to say I'm in the same boat as the OP. I just don't really feel much in the way of normal emotions, which I think is mostly due to being bullied fairly systematically for several years in primary school. I repress well enough that I don't even know I'm feeling something before it's gone.

Same as this guy, i just don't feel anymore, its come to the point when i can even tell the nerves in my hands to shut the fuck up and my pain resistance jumps a lot higher.

 

[Agema]

What people think about themselves - unemotional, sociopathic, whatever - doesn't necessarily have much bearing on what they actually are. There's no shortage of human beings who are totally clueless about their emotions and their reactions.

If you think there's something odd about the way you think and want to explore it, go see a psychologist. Or if it's not a problem, just get on with your life.

 

[Ancientgamer]

You brag about this in pretty much every thread. Is this an actual prognosis or are you "self diagnosed"?

No, I don't.

Firstly, it's not "bragging."
Bragging is something you do to your jock buddies about all those chicks you got drunk enough to sleep with you.
Secondly, I mention it once in my profile information and once in a thread about being emotionally crippled.

You mention it in many threads. Many many threads. With the appearance of it either being for attention or to make people feel bad for you -- Sometimes even to make yourself appear "badass".

Thirdly, it doesn't matter what I say, because you've clearly already made up your mind about something you know next-to-nothing about. I mean, I've already gone on record as stating it as a fact - why would restating it make you suddenly believe me if you don't already?

I haven't "decided" anything. Just tell me that your sociopathy (you most likely mean DPD\APD) has been diagnosed by a trained psychologist and I'll believe you. It's that simple, but so far all I have is you galavanting about ranting at a simple question like a lunatic.

Do you actually think before you say things, or do you find you just drift in and out?

It was a very simple question man. I thought about my post very clearly, and was quite succinct with what I wanted to say. I fully believe you read my post, but simply chose to ignore it in it's entirety. Why the flying fuck are you so anxious about answering a simple question?

EDIT: Oh, I thought of another good one.
This is like arresting someone for murder and having them protest, "I didn't do it, I swear!"
You reply with "Yes you did. You totally did. Don't fucking lie to me. Did you kill him?"
"No! I just told you I didn't."
"Oh, in that case, you're free to go."

No, this is like someone going around telling everyone "Man, I got the swine flu, it's really tough."
I reply with "Wow man, have you seen a doctor?"
"FUCK you man man why are you trying to judge me YOU DON'T KNOW ME!"


Again, just answer My simple question and everything will be A-okay. It's not hard.

what the fuck man?