Escapists by candle light

[Itdoesthatsometimes]

I figured I would do my part in the personal information about fellow escapist thread trend.

What is the most romantic thing you have done for someone?
What is the most romantic thing someone has done for you?
What is your greatest romantic wish?

I ask these questions, because I just realized something. I don't think I have ever been romantic in my life. I've been in love, been loved, done nice things, and benefited from other people's care love and kindness. But none of this was romantic.

I think the closest I have come to being romantic, was lighting candles putting on some nice music preparing a bubble bath and then leaving the woman to it all herself, while I left the room so I would not say something stupid for at least 45 minutes.

I can not think of anything someone has done for me romantically.

If I had a wish, it would be able to understand romance better. Maybe then I could pull off something better than shutting up and going away.

I hope you all have better answers.

 

[sky14kemea]

Does.... Does it count if I was helping someone else be romantic to someone they loved?

I once made my mum a candlelight bath with rose petals and stuff 'cause he boyfriend at the time didn't have any ideas.

I've also let friends sleep on my shoulder when travelling. I dunno if that's romantic or not but it makes me feel fuzzy inside. :3

I've probably had romantic things done for me but I'm so dense I probably didn't notice. It's harder to tell when you've never had a relationship, though.

 

[Itdoesthatsometimes]

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I would say that does not count, but I think I have shown myself to not understand romance so well. I would call that stuff, just being a good person. Ironically, your post reminded me of the time I called the priest at my best friend's wedding a whore. No one respectable heard me say it, I did not detract from the romance in the air. The priest was being shitty, he deserved it. I was being a good friend.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I've also let friends sleep on my shoulder when travelling. I dunno if that's romantic or not but it makes me feel fuzzy inside. :3

You realize of course by internet law of social interaction this makes you a creeper, stalker and possibly serial killer?
Just a heads up before you tell internet people such things.

I've done stuff in the past while still taking in that generic dating nonsense, "shower people in gifts and compliments" and other such guff. So I would write poems, craft gifts, pick flowers, go to extraordinary lengths to obtain peoples favourite things, cook their favourite dishes and such. Not sure how they rate on the scale of romantic, but I do know they make fuck all difference in the grand scheme of things, yes people will appreciate the gesture but how much they liked you in the first place stays the same.
And the most "romantic" thing I got in return were some two buck teddies with hearths on them, real effort in that one...

 

[sky14kemea]

I've also let friends sleep on my shoulder when travelling. I dunno if that's romantic or not but it makes me feel fuzzy inside. :3

You realize of course by internet law of social interaction this makes you a creeper, stalker and possibly serial killer?
Just a heads up before you tell internet people such things.

"possibly." Heh. Hahaha...

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I would say that does not count, but I think I have shown myself to not understand romance so well. I would call that stuff, just being a good person. Ironically, your post reminded me of the time I called the priest at my best friend's wedding a whore. No one respectable heard me say it, I did not detract from the romance in the air. The priest was being shitty, he deserved it. I was being a good friend.

I dunno if I would've gone with "Whore" to insult a priest. Seems like an oxymoron to me.

 

[Euryalus]

1.) Me? Romantic? *rolls on the floor laughing*

The closest I can get to being romantic is the setup to a tasteless joke. To date my greatest accomplishment in life was cuddling with my girlfriend in bed being all lovey and stuff, then looking her in the eye and saying in as sweet and soothing a voice as I can manage... "Haley, I just want you to know I farted"

cue pulling the covers over our heads as she tries to kick me out of the bed.

Aww god it was beautiful I tell you. I mean if that isn't love then clearly I've misinterpreted Disney movies my entire life.

2.) As for something romantic someone's done for me? Well my girlfriend bought me a Jungle book cup for my birthday this year. When I was younger I was obsessed with Jungle book. It was just the most amazing god damn thing I could have possibly ever imagined and I must've watched it hundreds of times.

I have a mug with all the characters on it from when I was very young that I still use. She just got me an adult sized one

 

[Itdoesthatsometimes]

I dunno if I would've gone with "Whore" to insult a priest. Seems like an oxymoron to me.

The full quote was something along the lines of, "Be sure you count it, (payment for his services) you whore!" I came out with whore because I was angry, and groomsman beats up priest was not the way I imagine they wanted to remember their wedding. Despite both of them telling me later that they wish I had.

I could have come up with something better if not so upset at the time...Nah, whore was the perfect word.

 

[DanteRL]

Just my two cents but, I don't think you do romantic things to someone to make them "like you more", you do it because you like the person and that's it, it makes you feel fuzzy, as it was said. Of course that if you're the only side doing something, than maybe said person is not that interested.

As for me, the same "romantic dinner" stuff, I've been on both sides. And also smaller things, me and my girlfriend live on different cities, so we don't see each other so often. One thing we do, is leaving small romantic notes on places the other one will only find a couple of days later, at work and stuff like that. Those things really count man.

 

[shrekfan246]

Uh.

One of the girls I dated in high school had the nickname "Gir" (like the Invader Zim character) so for Christmas I bought her some gloves/scarf/etc. that had Gir (the Invader Zim character) on them.

Also I hold doors open.

The women, they swoon for me.

The most romantic thing someone has done for me is probably NSFW.

 

[L. Declis]

Oh, I am allowed to gush? I shall gush away.

How I met my fiancee was pretty damn romantic, in my mind.

I went to an international student's ball (someone had asked me to come), but my date didn't like to dance and ended up going off with someone else. I ended up dancing with some random girl with flowers painted on her face.

The next day, there was a short little foreigner wandering lost around the uni. I helped her out, and when we had finished, it was night. So, I walked her home to be safe (poor lighting in the area). She invited me up to her room, but before we went in, she had to quickly ask her neighbour for a spare cup.

Turns out her neighbour was the mysterious flower girl from the previous night, and we started to talk between the three of us. Within half an hour, the short girl left leaving me with the flower girl. She said she couldn't cook, I said I can make food with anything she liked in it. What was her favourite food?

Chocolate. For dinner. Hmmmm.

So I made steak with chili and chocolate sauce and we watched a crappy copy of Sherlock that my housemate had leant to me. Then, at about 11, I walked her home because, well, crap lighting. However, the stars were bright and I had some amatuer stargazing knowledge. I also ended up taking a detour back to hers so we would have longer together. We ended up sitting in the wet grass (my coat was a great blanket) and I pointed out various stars, and we kissed.

Fucking perfect.

Anyway...

I always cook new and interesting food for her, get some wine, watch a movie of questionable quality in a poorly-lit room.

About once per month, I'll have a romance-out where I get her a romantic movie, give her back-rubs, prepare her comfort food, wine, candles the whole lot.

I ambushed her outside her classroom with roses on Valentine's.

We went to an indie theatre in Bath where they removed the seats with beanbags and wine.

When she went to Paris for a month and was lonely, I booked a ticket and surprised her for the rest of the month.

And apparently, according to her, the most romantic thing I've done is give her breakfast in bed.

 

[CrazyCapnMorgan]

1) Hid a red rose in my gf's (at the time) car, waited for her to find it and have her look around, sneak up on her without being heard or seen and say "Happy Valentine's Day"

2) Can't remember/nothing memorable

3) Don't have one; already learned the meaning of the word "love" in my mind and I have no desire to enter another relationship with anyone ever again

 

[Barbas]

I've also let friends sleep on my shoulder when travelling. I dunno if that's romantic or not but it makes me feel fuzzy inside. :3

You realize of course by internet law of social interaction this makes you a creeper, stalker and possibly serial killer?
Just a heads up before you tell internet people such things.

"possibly." Heh. Hahaha...

Spoiler

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I would say that does not count, but I think I have shown myself to not understand romance so well. I would call that stuff, just being a good person. Ironically, your post reminded me of the time I called the priest at my best friend's wedding a whore. No one respectable heard me say it, I did not detract from the romance in the air. The priest was being shitty, he deserved it. I was being a good friend.

I dunno if I would've gone with "Whore" to insult a priest. Seems like an oxymoron to me.

Could have been in Russia; blyad' is a pretty common insult which translates into whore, while 'suka is another common one that means *****. When used against men, the latter can also mean scumbag. Most unfortunately, possible cultural learnings on this page have been hampered by the lack of support for Cyrillic translations. How very racist. Disappoint.

OT: Yeah, I've just done things like help people move heavy furniture or carry their groceries. Romantic? I doubt it. Compassionate? Urr...maybe?

My greatest wish is for somebody to whisk me away from this dreary life and show me the world and all its associated wonders, etc. learning the humanity to let people sleep on my shoulder without getting grossed out and pushing them onto the floor, then claiming "woah, I 'unno what happened, you OK? Is that bleeding?"

 

[PsychicTaco115]

1) Last Christmas, I gave my ex my heart and she gave it away a panda adoption thingy from the WWF. She loves pandas so I thought it was the best move. Turns out she ended up crying because she loved it #StillGotIt

2) I dunno ._.

3) I'm easy to please ;3

 

[Sleepy Sol]

I am an aromantic robotic being. Beep boop.

Maybe one day I'll be a romantic person or I'll have romantic things done for me. But alas, today is not that day. ;_;

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Does.... Does it count if I was helping someone else be romantic to someone they loved?

That's even more romantic. You're like Cyrano de Bergerac.

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I don't know if this counts, but I suppose the most romantic thing I've done for someone was helping out a friend of mine propose to his GF. The set-up was that I was already at his house practicing some pieces on violin before watching a movie or something, and to be fair I do this regularly with these people so it's not like it was random. He signaled me and I played something (I don't remember the piece) while he did the whole thing. It was disgustingly cheesy, but it did the trick.

As for the second question, I'm pretty damn oblivious to these things so if someone did something romantic for me I wouldn't know. I joke that you would literally have to use signage for me to notice.

For the last thing, I have no idea. I'm still on my first cup of coffee, so I'm not feeling very imaginative at the moment. It's also not something I give much thought. I fail at being a girl. :/

 

[The White Hunter]

What is the most romantic thing you have done for someone?
What is the most romantic thing someone has done for you?
What is your greatest romantic wish?

1) Tolerate their presence.

2) Leave me alone.

3) Extinction of the mogglesguard.

 

[Blow_Pop]

What is the most romantic thing you have done for someone?
What is the most romantic thing someone has done for you?
What is your greatest romantic wish?

Nothing....unless you count me "romancing myself" in the bathroom. Which is basically a hot bubble bath and reading whatever book I'm reading at the time. And possibly a candle.
Nothing....I haven't ever been in a non abusive relationship for long enough to really have romance.
I'm a hopeless romantic at heart though I tend to be quite a lot of cold hearted since I'm tired of being fucked over over and over again. Preferably, a massage to relax all the knots in my back and neck and a nice hot bubble bath followed by cuddling on the couch watching movies (don't care about genre most of the time it's whatever me and whomever I'm watching with decide on) and possibly getting take out delivered or cooking something simple and then be tucked into bed and cuddled. I'm actually a fairly simple person. I just like cuddles and my hair played with so....long as those are incorporated I'm happy.

 

[Scarim Coral]

Romance, what romance?

Sure I have some thing for someone and vice versa but I wouldn't called it romantic, more like being a good friend/ kind.

 

[Souplex]

As I am incapable of feeling, my brand of romance is routine and mechanical.
I am fond of generally being a nice person, but not making big gestures.
Beep-Boop.