Facebook and peer pressure

[Cazza]

If they can't be bothered to call or even text you a friend to inform you about events. Then what kind of friends are they? Maybe you could get your best friend in the group to call/text you about events. If they are all to stubborn well I guess you would have to get facebook or change friends.

You wouldn't need to add any information to it. Just sign you add your friends. Check whenever for stuff they want to do.

 

[Lyri]

*snipe*

What's your gripe with facebook?

I've not read 5 pages of the thread so feel free to copy pasta or point reference if you've said it already.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I don't see how you can consider these people your friends. They know you don't have facebook, and they don't care enough about you to make sure you're aware of their arrangements.

Personally I dislike facebook, and if my friends were pushing me to get facebook I would distance myself from them immediately. Not because I'm that averse to facebook, but just because I don't want those kinds of friends. I don't like to associate with overly social people because, as in your example, you could drop off the face of the planet and they would hardly care, because that's how shallow all their relationships are. I have only one friend and they're the only person I'm interested in keeping contact with, and vice versa. If you have so many friends you need them documented in a 'facebook', I'm not interested, because I like depth in my friendships.

 

[superbatranger]

Honestly, get over yourself and at least try it for a week. The worst that could happen is you realizing it's a waste. Then, all you do is delete it and keep on with your life. Hell, it's free, relatively easy to create, you don't have to put anything you don't want the world to know. But, at the same time, I'd be lying if I said your friends sounded like dicks. Calling you, texting you, emailing you, any of those should not be so hard.

 

[Yureina]

I don't bother with facebook. Aside from the fact that there is nobody on that site I want to talk to, it just isn't interesting to me. Also, organizing events and plans through that exclusively seems... ineffective. That is unless you spend way too much time on that site and so can get early warning that plans are being thought up or made.

 

[Ickorus]

I have a facebook account due to being forced to by a group of friends but I pretty much never use it. Unfortunately like you all my friends organise everything through facebook so I miss out on quite a lot of stuff.

The thing is that I know just how invasive Facebook really is and how much information they're allowed to use without your permission so I pretty much refuse to use it whenever possible.

 

[zombiesinc]

Your friends suck. You not having Facebook isn't an excuse for excluding you.

I have a Facebook account to keep in contact with old friends and family. I'm not a fan of it, but it has it's uses.

 

[tharglet]

I have a facebook account, which I opened because it happened to be the easiest way of talking to the person I needed to be in contact with. My account is pretty much empty and not much used.

I also refused to sign up with my real name . If you want my real name, I'll tell you in RL. Also I think pretty much all the information that I had to put in is wrong. Well, my gender's correct, but that's about it afaik.

It is rather mean that your friends don't bother to try and tell you what's going on, but I guess you have to choose between making things easier for them to contact you, or if you accept things as they are.

 

[ElTigreSantiago]

Dude. It's not a big deal. If you want to hang out with your friends then sign up. Because frankly, you sound a tad bit rediculous and I bet your friends feel the same way. Facebook doesn't ruin people- normal people, that is- and if you don't want contact with someone, don't friend them. It's pretty simple.

 

[TimeLord]

I didn't get Facebook for a while. Mainly because I could be assed! But then I did get it and it has been great at keeping in touch with old friends and making new ones. And people still text me because not everyone has internet access.

 

[smithy_2045]

Facebook is the best thing to have happened to my social life.

 

[ultimateownage]

Something I didn't mention in the OP is that no matter how normal or nice they are in real life, everyone I know (With only several exceptions) all act like chat speaking tossers on the internet. Trust me, the less I speak to my friends which isn't face to face the better.

 

[El Poncho]

I don't have one either, although my friends don't use it to organize things, or if they do I am told about what's happening.

If I needed it I would get it but I have everyone I need to talk to on MSN.

 

[HentMas]

Also, what it does to people's real social life is horrid. South Park actually showed what it did to people fairly well.

OK!!! here is the first Issue

South Park, albeit a really funny show, is know for EXAGERATING things, now, i personally have not seen that particular episode, but i have seen the one of "World Of Warcraft" and well, i do "Get" that those things are harmfull, but you are talking about a "cartooney" critique on a game that has millions of users, and NOT everyone will turn out as it is portrayed in the show, actually i can safelly say those are a minority

secondly, ok, your friends are being dicks about it, i get it, its actually really stupid and you SHOULD get angry, but not because the "social network" but because they are not really your friends, a real friend actually pick´s up the phone and calls you, if they value your company that much thats the least of things they could do, i have facebook, i use it, i chat, i comment and i get invited to partyes through it, and even if i see my closest friends listed as "invited" i at least call them to see at wich time we are going, were are we meeting and stuff like that, right now we are even thinking of "shooing" one of the guys because he never calls or gets in touch outside Facebook.

now, i´ll say to you this, Facebook is not the rooth of all evils, its a nifthy little tool, thats all!!, you can create an account, and make it forward all the messages, important updates from your friends and that stuff to your mail, now, create an account, make it private, get in touch with your friends, put everything to be forwarded to your mail, and thats it, you can forget about the damn thing and still get the benefits of being in touch with your friends through there, that way you can receive the "invitation" and then connect with messenger with your friends, or call them or wathever, to fine tune the details

in the end, your friends are being dicks, you have the power to change that, and Facebook is a tool, not a "life", you have the power to see that

from all this rambling you may take wath you want

hope i helped!

 

[disturbed_one]

eh, I use facebook mostly for getting information from my university, some people even share scripts and old exams for studying. Also I don't have to check up on my uni's website, which is horrid. AND EVERYONE CAN SEE THAT I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND, LAWL!

 

[Mr Montmorency]

Try getting better friends.

Easier said than done, actually. I ditched my old "friends" because of their obsession with social networking and being annoying hipsters in general.

Now I have no friends. Thanks, Facebook.

 

[Death God]

No, your not being stubborn. I joined Facebook once. I was swamped with messages like, "Hey, [insert some guy I've never even heard of before] likes your [picture only meant to be seen by friends]." or messages like that. So I quit. It is just a ridiculous site.