I need help from the Escapist. I have what I think is a fairly unique situation...
For the last fourteen years of my life, I've lived in Brazil but we visit family in the US every year. Today, I'm nineteen years old and I'm about to go to college in Virginia. Currently, I'm Memphis, Tennessee with my family (basically my grandma, cousin, aunts and uncles) and in just three weeks it's time to go to Virginia.
My problem here lies with my grandma. I'm guessing because we've lived apart so long, she's come to this extreme favoritism with my cousin, who is only a year older than me. We can't go to dinner with her without her bringing up Jane (the cousin, real name omitted) and talking about her forever. She never asks about my college situation or anything like that.
The way we did is that my mom would take me to the States, leave, and then dad would come, take me to college, and then leave. So while I'm standing there watching my mom go through airport security, in tears, my grandma starts telling me this retarded story about airport security's getting ridiculous. And she's my grandma. I can't look at her and go, "I don't care!"
Going to college is hard enough, but I'm moving to a whole new country. But it's like my grandma REFUSES to understand. It hurts. A lot.
Now, I love her. How can I not? She's my grandma. But this shit hurts. I've tried everything from spending time with her to taking her out to dinner. I just can't get her to truly care.
I just wanted to post this because I needed to put where someone would read it. I wanted to put this on Facebook, but even there I can't express myself like this because mom, dad, and grandma have Facebook. So, here it is.
To keep up with the forum guidelines, let's put some discussion into this:
- Can anyone here relate to me? If yes, how so?
- Post family troubles you have, getting it out helps. Trust me, I just did it.
- What are solutions from your own experiences?
For the last fourteen years of my life, I've lived in Brazil but we visit family in the US every year. Today, I'm nineteen years old and I'm about to go to college in Virginia. Currently, I'm Memphis, Tennessee with my family (basically my grandma, cousin, aunts and uncles) and in just three weeks it's time to go to Virginia.
My problem here lies with my grandma. I'm guessing because we've lived apart so long, she's come to this extreme favoritism with my cousin, who is only a year older than me. We can't go to dinner with her without her bringing up Jane (the cousin, real name omitted) and talking about her forever. She never asks about my college situation or anything like that.
The way we did is that my mom would take me to the States, leave, and then dad would come, take me to college, and then leave. So while I'm standing there watching my mom go through airport security, in tears, my grandma starts telling me this retarded story about airport security's getting ridiculous. And she's my grandma. I can't look at her and go, "I don't care!"
Going to college is hard enough, but I'm moving to a whole new country. But it's like my grandma REFUSES to understand. It hurts. A lot.
Now, I love her. How can I not? She's my grandma. But this shit hurts. I've tried everything from spending time with her to taking her out to dinner. I just can't get her to truly care.
I just wanted to post this because I needed to put where someone would read it. I wanted to put this on Facebook, but even there I can't express myself like this because mom, dad, and grandma have Facebook. So, here it is.
To keep up with the forum guidelines, let's put some discussion into this:
- Can anyone here relate to me? If yes, how so?
- Post family troubles you have, getting it out helps. Trust me, I just did it.
- What are solutions from your own experiences?