Fantasizing in bed

[Schreck157]

The last time me and my girlfriend had sex, it was awful. All the spark was gone. We were still going through all the motions, but the passion and zeal was out of the experience. Until I decided to not be with "her" anymore. I closed my eyes and pretended she was someone else and the thrill of something new sprang renewed life into my penis. Is that so wrong? Is pretending to be with another woman tantamount to cheating? Or is it just a device to quell real impulses of adultery to help maintain a monogamous relationship?

(If i used too many big words; Is fantasizing in bed okay?)

 

[nelsonr100]

In the words of Borat, "Hey, Why not?!"

 

[Marv21]

O_O........O_>....<_O....well, if rping is fine between you too I guess it would be okay, but mind you men are to be more infidelity prone in relationships so you are living through it but not acting on it(does that makes sense?).

 

[Eri]

Relationships won't last without decent sex. I'd advise just ending it, even if you really like her, with no sexual chemistry, it's going to end badly if you don't break it off.

 

[Lexodus]

The last time me and my girlfriend had sex, it was awful. All the spark was gone. We were still going through all the motions, but the passion and zeal was out of the experience. Until I decided to not be with "her" anymore. I closed my eyes and pretended she was someone else and the thrill of something new sprang renewed life into my penis. Is that so wrong? Is pretending to be with another woman tantamount to cheating? Or is it just a device to quell real impulses of adultery to help maintain a monogamous relationship?

(If i used too many big words; Is fantasizing in bed okay?)

If it's gone, tell her, or dump that shit in no uncertain terms. Don't stick with her and then hurt her more by going off with somebody else whilst you're supposed to be exclusive.

 

[The Rockerfly]

Try different positions, costumes, toys or watching porn at the same time and that helps me when my relationship gets a little dull. Usually once you get the decent sex going after those, the chemestry is back

Also no it's not, how many middle aged people are picturing their other half.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

When I clicked this I thought it was going to be something not sexual and I would have to make a joke. Ah well.

I think you should talk to your girlfriend about this not really wanting to have sex with her thing. She might be having some problems too.

 

[Cowabungaa]

This might be fun once, but at one point I bet you'll also want the body of that other woman. I'd advise against it in the long run. Doesn't seem fair for her too now does it?

But it doesn't have to be the end of everything. Is it just a small dip or are you guys doing crappy outside the sex as well? If you still love each other you can always look for ways to spice up your love life. Foreplay, roleplaying, anything. Talk to her about it if you think it's serious enough.