Feeling strange all day ...

[Inuprince]

Hello Escapists!

I've been feeling quite strange all day and almost all this week because of one of my decisions ...
This is my last year in High School and our class is going on it's last field trip on the weekend - but I chose not to go for a few reasons :
I've been to the destination of the trip at the end of August, plus I can only see my girlfriend on weekends - it takes me more than 4 hours to get from my home to her's (involving a 3 hour trainride plus the subway and the bus) and we are both the type who can't wait to see each other again
I already informed my teacher on Monday that I'm not going but I didn't inform my buddys yet, who I hang with in school - I just feel bad about it - although I haven't been on the last two trips either(once I was sick, the other time I knew it was going to be bad) - my problem is I told them when summer started I'm sure to go since it's the last trip - I said of course I'll be there you can count on it! ... and now here I am. I know they will pick on me just because I won't go ... but after the trip they're just going to forget it ...
I just want to get through the week without hearing the phrases: why the f... aren't you coming? Hey this prick's not coming on the trip ... You're just gonna be with your girlfriend again... etc.
Ok, perhaps I didn't choose the option I should have ... but inside I already feel bad about it - I don't need to hear everyone's stupid compliments on the case for the rest of the week ...

Any advice? Should I just let every phrase past my ears and try to be in a good mood with everyone (despite the fact that I know I'll hate them for the time they pick on me for it)?
Before anyone writes that these are not good friends - they are - but I think we guys are all like WTF when someone in our group dumps an occassion to have a good time with everyone else ...

I would like to hear everyone's thoughts on the subject - if you have something to share ...
Plus if you had a similar decision in your past feel free to write it down ...it's what we are here for

 

[Radeonx]

Tell them to fuck off or you will cut them with a broken bottle. Works for me.

 

[Cargando]

Strange how? I've been feeling decidely surreal all day, like I was sleeping while conscious, like the world could change at any moment, like I could slip through the floor if I wasn't concentrating. Anyway that's my strange, what's your strange like?

 

[Nargleblarg]

Tell them to fuck off or you will cut them with a broken bottle. Works for me.

Really? I just use a broken chair leg or a bat.....never thought of a bottle though.

 

[QuirkyTambourine]

Don't let it bother you, I ditched a bunch of stuff for my girlfriend. Bottom line; I'm still seeing her (well that's another story entirely but we're still pretty much together) and I lost touch with most of my high school friends when I went to school.

Not saying that you'll lose every friend you have once you leave school, but if you're driving 4 hours to see someone, you're obviously pretty committed to them. Forget the trip it's only September, you've got an entire school year ahead don't you?

 

[CIA]

Put on some noise cancelling headphones and listen to OK Computer by Radiohead. Makes you nice and relaxed.

 

[maddawg IAJI]

You kinda promised your friends that you'd be there with them.

Trading them out with your girlfriend is kinda a dick move. If you told her that you promised them then I'm sure she would understand.

 

[Bofus Teefus]

If you don't want to go on a trip, don't go. I've been in similar situations, and I pretty much stonewall people on the fact that I'm not going. They can say what they want, and usually do. I think I usually hear "self centered #@$*&" or something to that effect.

...I'm going through that right now, actually, regarding some stupid doctoral hooding ceremony that I have no plans to attend. Here's the last conversation I had about it-

Instructor- "So Bofus, are you asking anyone in particular to hood you during the ceremony?"
Bofus- "I'm not going."
Instructor- "Why not? It's a big deal!" or "It only happens once!" or "Blah blah blabbity blahh."
Bofus- "Will I not graduate if I fail to attend?"
Instructor- "No."
Bofus- "Then it's not that big of a deal, is it?"

If not going on the trip saves you any cash, you know which Escapist to send it to, deal?

 

[Insanum]

Two points:

One: You can see your GF the weekend after, Its only ONE weekend.

Two: Im sure you'll enjoy the trip more.

 

[Deleted]

For the strange feeling, you're in love.
For the trip thing, you're in love.
Dammit my advice sucks I should just get in love.

 

[Radeonx]

You kinda promised your friends that you'd be there with them.

Trading them out with your girlfriend is kinda a dick move. If you told her that you promised them then I'm sure she would understand.

You do realize that he can go hang out with his friends anytime he wants anyways, right? His girlfriend is 4 hours away, he's obviously committed, and he rarely gets to see her. The choice is obvious.

Two points:

One: You can see your GF the weekend after, Its only ONE weekend.

Two: Im sure you'll enjoy the trip more.

But then this does come into play, so I guess it's your call, OP.

 

[Code Monkey]

Hm... I don't realy have any "friends" per say, so I'm not very experienced on the matter.

Well, alot of people say "This is just another girl, friends are forever." But in my humble opinion, Fuck that. Nothing is forever. So do what you wan't, and don't regret it

 

[Godavari]

Tough decisions like these happen a lot in life. Sometimes you're stuck between two equally good decisions, and feel like shit after you've made one. Just go with your first instinct.

 

[JemJar]

Hm... I don't realy have any "friends" per say, so I'm not very experienced on the matter.

Awwww, *hug* we all love you.

I'd go on my last field trip. Looking back on my own life, I regret missing a few of those things.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

Tell those people to fuck right off a cliff.

"Oh he's gonna visit his GF again". Well you bloody idiot, you'd think a girlfriend is more important than a stupid road trip.

People are idiots, deal with it. Just ignore them, let them go on their shitty trip whilst you actually spend time with someone you deem special.

 

[Inuprince]

Thanks for the advice everyone I didn't imagine anwers to be coming in so fast but another positive spark of the escapist and it's users.

I already told the teacher I'm not going so she counted me out so there's no going back now - my toughts were the same on the facts of : "it's only September, you've got an entire school year ahead"
and yes I am very committed to my girlfriend and I know it's only one weekend - but the downside is - whenever there's a bigger break in schooltime in autumn or the one at the end of the year - they always go visit some country as relaxation, - even at christmas and new years eve - and I can't really afford to go with them so weekends are all I really have ...

 

[maddawg IAJI]

You kinda promised your friends that you'd be there with them.

Trading them out with your girlfriend is kinda a dick move. If you told her that you promised them then I'm sure she would understand.

You do realize that he can go hang out with his friends anytime he wants anyways, right? His girlfriend is 4 hours away, he's obviously committed, and he rarely gets to see her. The choice is obvious.

Two points:

One: You can see your GF the weekend after, Its only ONE weekend.

Two: Im sure you'll enjoy the trip more.

But then this does come into play, so I guess it's your call, OP.

If the world ends the week he comes back I'll PM you saying that you were right. He's sees his girlfriend every weekend that's not even counting Summer Vacation. My point being that he's had 3 months to see her and he promised his friends that he would go.

 

[elbryan108]

OK, so I know this is going to date me and prove I'm an old man, but whatever.
I'm 13 years removed from high school, and I had a few girlfriends in my time there. I also had some of the greatest friends I've ever had. Looking back on those days, I don't regret the times I didn't spend with these girls because I decided to hang out with my friends, it's the time I missed with my friends because I "Just had to" spend time with these girls that I regret. High school relationships are like so much fluff and gf's come and go, but you will remember your friends forever.
So.... FFS go on the trip, you won't regret it in a few years time, and if you don't go you could regret that for a lifetime.

 

[Craig FTW]

If you do go see your girlfriend instead, make sure you do something reaaaaaaaaallllyyyyy awesome with her, something that will hopefully cancel out the bad trip feeling.