Bara_no_Hime said:
sarkeizen said:
I notice you removed the comment about me backpedaling (which I still have in my inbox). Went back and read my original post, did you?
Not exactly, I reread your most current post and decided that you still haven't really admitted you approached the problem poorly. Sure glad you're here to keep me honest.
I believe in what I have observed. I have observed something.
That's not really the issue. What is, is your interpretation of what you have observed. To wit:
The Friend Zone rules are fictional.
I don't know exactly why you've suddenly jumped back to a far more vague term but if the "Friend Zone rules" include our discussion about announcing yourself as a romantic candidate sooner rather than later - and sooner having an advantage in success. Then my points stand,
i) You have presented no compelling reason that what you observed is actually the thing in question. Observing that someone you refuse to date early on is still someone you won't date later on is not sufficient to make your point that the timing doesn't matter. People unwittingly make incorrect value judgments every day. For example if you ask people to arrange a group of objects in order of quality the majority of people will do so even if there is no difference. Not only that but people will post hoc rationalize their decisions ("Oh this one is shinier","I like the texture of this one"). So just because you think it doesn't matter to you doesn't mean it doesn't matter to you.
ii) You have presented no compelling reason that your observations are the general case.
I'm all for following the data but if you don't assign a rational level of confidence to your data - which you don't appear to have - then what's the difference between what you do and some bigot from the sticks? At least some of them formed their beliefs about women, minorities, etc... from what they observed too. The only thing that makes one position rational and the other irrational is the level of confidence we are willing to put above what the data can reasonably explain. The more you think a small dataset explains the less rational you are being.
You have other evidence? Fine. Sharing it is what this thread is about. I had no intention of criticizing anyone else's evidence.
I don't understand how you can, in one sentence relegate something someone says to "baseless musing" and then make the above claim in another.
You didn't provide evidence and when I commented that your ideas did not conform to my experimental data
I did actually, what I provided you was a taste of how data is evaluated by a variety of fields. For example if you were to check Sackett's Handbook of Evidence Based Medicine you would see that what you have done is at best "C" class evidence (and I'd call that being rather generous).
You want to say "It's just my opinion"? Fine. If you want to claim that your rather poor research can be generalized. Math says no.
you yelled at me about "research".
All of a sudden I was yelling? Ever think you're being just a little manipulative here?
When I offered you not one but two olive branches, suggesting that perhaps we simply agree to disagree
Of course you were being ever so gracious by calling what I said:
"baseless musing". Even in this post you seem to imply that you still consider yourself right. That's not much of an olive branch when faced with a pretty clear picture that whatever data you have is pretty poor in quality.
Try to see this from my side. Suppose you had said that you *observed* that women were intellectually inferior to men. Should I "agree to disagree" with you there? Why not? Well, for one there's a wealth of information that says otherwise. Now ask yourself what if I didn't have a that information demonstrating intellectual equality between women and men, for example lets say it was the year 1820 instead of 2013. Should we just "agree to disagree" then too? I'd say no.
, you called me arrogant.
And so you appeared, by definition in fact. When you let your opinions ride significantly beyond the evidence what else is there driving your confidence but ego? How is that not arrogance?
Well, if you want arrogant, then here we go. Talking to you about this is no longer worth my time or attention. Welcome to my ignore list.
I'm sorry being corrected like this makes you think that's a reasonable response but I don't really consider anything I've said improper or disproportionate. You are always welcome to return to the discussion should you choose to.