Go up to a girl you like, tell her you think she's beautiful, say you'd love to take her out for coffee/dinner sometime and ask for her number.Annoying Turd said:
You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.
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You think I'm trolling, but I've realised that honesty is the best way.
That honestly works. I just get creepy smiles from girls when I start inviting them to dinner/asking for a number.Griffolion said:
Well you need to sound genuine, so often precede the request with 'forgive me for being so forward'. Also, giving your name is a must, i didn't state that because i thought it was a given, but i feel the need to iterate it now. If she say's no then fine, break it off and tell her to have a great night/day. If she lets you in in any way, offer to buy her a drink (if in a bar) and begin a conversation with her about general stuff (basic info about each other).Annoying Turd said:
It's just a simple case of being transparent in your intentions and showing the genuine side of you from the off. I often consider that to be better than 'playing the game'. Though be warned that many girls won't understand/want that sort of thing. But the ones that react to it positively are the ones to keep anyway
.Other small tips:
Eye contact
Don't be afraid to smile
When in conversation with her, be interested and focus on her
For the love of your personal deity, don't stare at her breasts when she's talking to you
Lastly, and most importantly, SHOWER.
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One last thing, if you've watched Hitch (Will Smith), he say's a really cool line at the end of the film. I'm paraphrasing but you'll get the idea: "The rules to dating are... there are no rules."
He said it in that way because before he changed as part of the film plot, he had very set rules that guaranteed getting into a woman's pants but often were very emotionally damaging afterwards. I suppose the phrase is simply saying to let love reign.
If I tried being genuine, girls find out how much of a loser I am. Losers turn off girls.
Look at how people here take my honesty. I get named and shamed for 'trolling'. I'm correct about myself being a loser, but I hope I don't end up being right about everyone else judging me.
Look at how people here take my honesty. I get named and shamed for 'trolling'. I'm correct about myself being a loser, but I hope I don't end up being right about everyone else judging me.
David Deangelo. Look him up, he knows his shit on this kinda stuff. and it will chance your life forever, as it has done to mine =)Annoying Turd said:
that honestly works for you? either your soo much better looking that the rest of us guys, or you have insane manlyness on your side.Griffolion said:
Telling a girl you think she's beutiful, is nice, for her, but it's too samey and no fun, you wont stand out from the other guys who ask her out that day. add in a playful insult to the beautiful thing and it'll work wonders.
e.g. "your beautiful (pause) for a short girl" or "your beautiful, but your fashion sense could do with a little work."
remember if your going to use something like this, do it seriously but also make it playful and jokey so she doesn't think your jsut being a dick.
dinner is a bad idea, you get stuck somewhere and if it doesn't go so well, you cant leave.
coffee/tea, on the other hand is perfect, you can chat for however long you want, and if it doesn't go so well you can tell her, it was nice meeting her, but you planned to meet some friends, and then end the date, trust me, if your bored so is she and she'll be happy you ended it there.
It's also not as much of a big deal as dinner, so your more likely to get results.
the get to know her better think works because it tells her your not just another desperate guy, and instead, you actually, selectively choose your women, putting you in the driving seat, so she knows your in control of yourself, and no m-atter what women say they want, they want a man who's in control.
this is a must, however, asking if she has email as well, will work to your advantage in many ways.
first off, you can spend as long as you need wrighting the perfect email to get her interested in you, whereas on the phone it's on the spot.
It also means you can keep a written log of your conversations, which you can reffer back to as topics to bring up on a date, as you know she's already interested in them without having to ask.
that's just a few tips i learnt and it's transformed my dating life 10x at least
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Your almost right there, almost.Annoying Turd said:
It's not losers that turn girls off, it's guys who think they are losers. You need to change your mindset, i'm sure yoiur a guy with tonnes to offer but you just don't believe in yourself.
Watch the film "She's out of my league", it shows a great example this, and if it all works out for you, you WILL be dating girls as hot as the girl in this film, DEFINATELY.
One theory of building rapport is based on the deployment of four principles of communication designed to increase the amount of understanding you have of each other. These are;
* Asking questions (about the other person) and listening to the answers
* Seeking feedback from the other person about their perceptions (of you)
* Telling the other person something you have noticed (about them)
* Revealing something (about yourself) that the other person may not know
The bits in brackets are for a more personal approach and might be more assertive than you care to be. Perhaps start with telling them your name, revealing why you are where you are, and ask them a question and then riff from there.
Using these four principles in balance, with appropriate courtesy and friendliness tends to increase rapport. People we judge as good at conversation tend to do it naturally.
If you use any of these principles too much, or exclusively, then you may not do as well.
First impressions count from two perspectives: If you know you have made a real effort, you will come across more confidently. Secondly it can speak volumes to others about how much you care about yourself, and, by proxy, how much you care about them.
I find that flirting tends to come later when some common ground has been established between you and there is some degree of mutual attraction and rapport to build on. Launching straight into 'chat up lines' is an aggressive, rather than assertive technique and would not be universally welcomed. Genuine curiosity, humour, open mind and positive attitude works much better.
* Asking questions (about the other person) and listening to the answers
* Seeking feedback from the other person about their perceptions (of you)
* Telling the other person something you have noticed (about them)
* Revealing something (about yourself) that the other person may not know
The bits in brackets are for a more personal approach and might be more assertive than you care to be. Perhaps start with telling them your name, revealing why you are where you are, and ask them a question and then riff from there.
Using these four principles in balance, with appropriate courtesy and friendliness tends to increase rapport. People we judge as good at conversation tend to do it naturally.
If you use any of these principles too much, or exclusively, then you may not do as well.
First impressions count from two perspectives: If you know you have made a real effort, you will come across more confidently. Secondly it can speak volumes to others about how much you care about yourself, and, by proxy, how much you care about them.
I find that flirting tends to come later when some common ground has been established between you and there is some degree of mutual attraction and rapport to build on. Launching straight into 'chat up lines' is an aggressive, rather than assertive technique and would not be universally welcomed. Genuine curiosity, humour, open mind and positive attitude works much better.
So far I'm still single. I'll be a lonely, girlfriendless loser forever at this rate :-(
Help me bros.
Help me bros.