Forever Alone!
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Nothing weird about doing stuff alone. If anything is 'sad' it is doing things you don't want to do because other people want you to, and even that isn't totally 'sad'.
I've been to a few movies on my own mostly because the only time I was able to see it didn't coincide with the times my friends could. The only time it felt weird was when I was the only person in the theatre. But it meant I could have fun changing seats when certain things happened, like musical chairs crossed with a drinking game.
I've been to a few movies on my own mostly because the only time I was able to see it didn't coincide with the times my friends could. The only time it felt weird was when I was the only person in the theatre. But it meant I could have fun changing seats when certain things happened, like musical chairs crossed with a drinking game.
I too was annoyed by some people when my friends and I went to see the Hobbit. This group of guys who looked like their mums had dressed them sat in front of us and spent the entire movie chatting about the lore really obnoxiously and loudly, which annoyed the hell out of me. Then when we walked out of the theatre, I heard them impersonating Gollum's bit from the movie. Really badly.sky14kemea said:
It took everything I had not to go over and in my far superior Gollum impersonation [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pG2yA4TQrys] scream "NO! NO! YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!"
Meh. I don't care.
To me, not doing things alone pretty much amounts to not doing them at all in practice.
It's not that I have no friends at all though, it's just that I'm so awkward and disorganised socially, that ever arranging to do anything with another person is a huge, awkward mess.
But... When you potentially have panic attacks just being in a group with only slightly over half a dozen people... You learn to live with the fact that being social just isn't one of your strengths...
To me, not doing things alone pretty much amounts to not doing them at all in practice.
It's not that I have no friends at all though, it's just that I'm so awkward and disorganised socially, that ever arranging to do anything with another person is a huge, awkward mess.
But... When you potentially have panic attacks just being in a group with only slightly over half a dozen people... You learn to live with the fact that being social just isn't one of your strengths...
I do most things alone. Photography, shopping, air shows, pretty much everything.
I usually end up talking to random strangers anyway. Met three really nice people at the Duxford spring air show last weekend.
I wont go out drinking alone though, which means I don't go out much!
I usually end up talking to random strangers anyway. Met three really nice people at the Duxford spring air show last weekend.
I wont go out drinking alone though, which means I don't go out much!
I met my girlfriend in a movie theater when I went there all by my lonesome. Technically, I was supposed to go with another friend but he couldn't make it. That didn't stop me. Why should it? If I'd gone with my friend I'd be too busy talking to him to notice that she needed help getting her ticket out of the purse while holding a soda and popcorn. And I wouldn't have asked her if she'd like to sit next to me in the best seats that I'd reserved 3 days prior. But the only reason I had the guts to talk to her was because she was wearing a t-shirt with the mushroom from Super Mario. That was fortunate.
Bottom line is, if you want to do something, you shouldn't care what the society thinks about it as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. Go alone. It's not a big deal. And you never know what could happen. You might just meet the girl of your dreams, for example.
Bottom line is, if you want to do something, you shouldn't care what the society thinks about it as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. Go alone. It's not a big deal. And you never know what could happen. You might just meet the girl of your dreams, for example.
I'd never go to a movie alone, and I tend to never eat alone in a restaurant, unless it's like, fast food or a cafe or something...
It is. I was pretty sure that "The Hangover" was going to be blah, but being forced to watch it resulted in me just ragging on how bad it was while they laughed uproariously at its terrible jokes, asking why I was being such a downer.kailus13 said:
OT: Sometimes, you just wanna be on your own. I've been to a restaurant by myself very often, because (GASP) I like the food. I've gone to a concert alone, because (GASP) the only friend who liked the music was in the band. Etc, etc.
It's only sad to be on your own if you're upset that you have no one to share the moment with.
I never really end up in that situation: I always seem to have a least 2 friends who are free to do something. If i didnt though, i dont think i would mind much: I sometimes prefer being on my own, not having to organize things. Its nice not having to worry about making conversation, too.
I've been to a few concerts on my own. And I've been to festivals with friends who I hardly saw except for in the early mornings or late at night, spending the entire day solo. But never films, if I can't find any friends to go with I'll just skip them wand wait for them to become available on DVD.
I would never go out for dinner or drinks by myself though, might as well just stay at home and order food then.
If I am anywhere in my own I will stay on my own though, there is no chance what-so-ever of me striking up a conversation with anybody. Going up to someone and just start talking to them is probably one of the most horrible things I can imagine having to do...
I would never go out for dinner or drinks by myself though, might as well just stay at home and order food then.
If I am anywhere in my own I will stay on my own though, there is no chance what-so-ever of me striking up a conversation with anybody. Going up to someone and just start talking to them is probably one of the most horrible things I can imagine having to do...
I was shopping for my mum's birthday and attended a McDonald's on my own for a quick lunch.
I got concerned(?) looks from a few young laydeez. Probably thought I was depressed or lonely or something, everybody seems to think that just because I'm quiet and keep to myself a lot of the time. As for my feelings on attending stuff alone, I like to do stuff with friends, it gives me confidence, but being alone really doesn't bother me too much.
I got concerned(?) looks from a few young laydeez. Probably thought I was depressed or lonely or something, everybody seems to think that just because I'm quiet and keep to myself a lot of the time. As for my feelings on attending stuff alone, I like to do stuff with friends, it gives me confidence, but being alone really doesn't bother me too much.
I've gone to two concerts I really enjoyed by myself, once where I live and once overseas. It's great fun, hell, I made friends there.
Movies, on the other hand, I wouldn't see alone. It really is the sort of activity you're meant to share with people, if only to know someone else paid the same ridiculous fucking amount for some rehashed Hollywood shit
Movies, on the other hand, I wouldn't see alone. It really is the sort of activity you're meant to share with people, if only to know someone else paid the same ridiculous fucking amount for some rehashed Hollywood shit
Well, a few weeks ago, Iron Man 3 had just premierd the day before and I asked my mates who would like to go with me to see the 15:30 showing of the movie. None wanted to come, but I decided to go anyway. There was no one in the theater, I was the only one who was out to see that show of a highly anticipated movie. I thought it was a little weird, but the movie was awesome enough, so I really didn't care anymore by the time the Mark XLII assembled for the first time.
I don't get to go to many gigs anymore, Though I still get to see the occasional band when I have cash to spend , but when I do I always stop by a friends for a couple of drinks as I know for a fact he'll be up for it after a couple 
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I did exactly this on Tuesday. Swung by for a few swift vodkas and half an hour later they were up for the gig. Fortunately a free entry local band, but a crazy crazy night indeed. The best in awhile. Even if they hadn't come along. If they weren't there I would've just had a few more drinks waiting for the band to start, then just thrown myself into whatever pit was starting
.I did exactly this on Tuesday. Swung by for a few swift vodkas and half an hour later they were up for the gig. Fortunately a free entry local band, but a crazy crazy night indeed. The best in awhile. Even if they hadn't come along. If they weren't there I would've just had a few more drinks waiting for the band to start, then just thrown myself into whatever pit was starting
I'll never go to a restaurant(fast food joints don't count) or a movie alone it just feels awkward.
Not sure I'd go to a gig on my own. Gone to the cinema a few times on my own though. But I'm a film student so I don't entirely view films as a 'social' thing. Although I wouldn't like going to see a big blockbuster-y thing on my own, I just prefer nerding out with friends after something like a Marvel film.
I don't see going to things on your own as weird though. Sure there's a social aspect to enjoying these things but at the same time you're going in the first place because YOU want to enjoy the thing, having other people there is just sort of a bonus.
I don't see going to things on your own as weird though. Sure there's a social aspect to enjoying these things but at the same time you're going in the first place because YOU want to enjoy the thing, having other people there is just sort of a bonus.
If I need to go to eat or i want to see something or whatever i almost always go alone. I actually prefer to go alone everywhere. I do not care what some random strangers will think about me. Also why would i want anyone to go with me, I cannot see how i would get more enjoyment from my meal/movie by having someone else with me. Actually i would get less enjoyment as i could not listen to my music as people, when there is prolonged silence and i put on my headphones cause i am bored, they tend to view that as rude.
If it's something where I can blend in easily enough, I'll probably go. Usually I'd prefer to go with others.
I wouldn't eat out in many restaurants alone. It's very obvious when you're at a table on your own during the dinner rush. I'd much rather grab a takeaway and go sit somewhere nice; or stop in a diner and have a quick bite. For god knows what reason those options are generally seen as much more socially acceptable in this country. Maybe people assume you're grabbing food on the way to somewhere? I usually wear a backpack with some food, water, music, coat, map when I go out alone as I often walk for miles; so I guess most people assume I'm going to or from work when they see me eat alone.
I agree It's nice not to care what others think, but I don't see myself enjoying a meal when I could expect a number of other people to be giving me odd looks all the way through it.
I don't much like cinemas, clubs or pubs unless I'm with people I really like anyway. Shopping's the only thing (other than walking) I prefer doing alone. I hate having to rush my purchases because the rest want to move on. I usually just agree to meet back somewhere in 2 or so hours whenever I shop with others.
My best guess at why it's considered 'sad' to do typically social things alone is because there are a lot of people out there who enjoy assuming the worst about others to make themselves feel better. It's easy to assume that someone at a gig alone has absolutely no friends; and is by extension, totally unlikable; even if that's probably not true. A less cynical explanation could be that these events draw extroverted types; and those types may not understand the appeal of doing these things alone.
I wouldn't eat out in many restaurants alone. It's very obvious when you're at a table on your own during the dinner rush. I'd much rather grab a takeaway and go sit somewhere nice; or stop in a diner and have a quick bite. For god knows what reason those options are generally seen as much more socially acceptable in this country. Maybe people assume you're grabbing food on the way to somewhere? I usually wear a backpack with some food, water, music, coat, map when I go out alone as I often walk for miles; so I guess most people assume I'm going to or from work when they see me eat alone.
I agree It's nice not to care what others think, but I don't see myself enjoying a meal when I could expect a number of other people to be giving me odd looks all the way through it.
I don't much like cinemas, clubs or pubs unless I'm with people I really like anyway. Shopping's the only thing (other than walking) I prefer doing alone. I hate having to rush my purchases because the rest want to move on. I usually just agree to meet back somewhere in 2 or so hours whenever I shop with others.
My best guess at why it's considered 'sad' to do typically social things alone is because there are a lot of people out there who enjoy assuming the worst about others to make themselves feel better. It's easy to assume that someone at a gig alone has absolutely no friends; and is by extension, totally unlikable; even if that's probably not true. A less cynical explanation could be that these events draw extroverted types; and those types may not understand the appeal of doing these things alone.
A week ago, I went on a high school senior field trip to six flags magic mountain all on my own, none of my friends were not going along due to the trip being expensive, and turns out I ended up making a few new friends, one of them was a transfer student from Persia ( I think) and learned up to 4 languages before he had transfer out into the states, and boy was the trip fun because he made the night so fun for anyone around him. I dont know why anyone who tend to think that going out by yourself isn't normal, I find going out on your own really gives you the chance to meet some new exciting people.
I dont know why anyone who tend to think that going out by yourself isn't normal, I find going out on your own really gives you the chance to meet some new exciting people.