Friend Recently Died; need advice regarding something.

[thevillageidiot13]

A good friend of mine passed away recently and I'm going to his funeral in 2 days. I never met his family but this friend of mine was close to me for about four years.

I'm thinking about approaching the family towards the end of the funeral and saying something along the lines of "I know we've never met but Martin was a good friend of mine and if there's anything you ever need at any point in time please feel free to call me or send me some sort of message and I'll see what i can do."

My question is, would doing something like this be unusual or inappropriate?
Would it be best to call several days before/after the funeral to say this, instead of saying it DURING the funeral?
Or would this be so unusual/inappropriate that I shouldn't say it at all and just keep it to myself?

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EDIT:
All right. I appreciate all of your input. I'm not sure how to close a topic, but I'm satisfied that my questions have been fully-answered.

Just to clarify, this friend of mine was a high school teacher, but we kept in touch even after I finished my classes with him, and after my graduation, we agreed to continue hanging out and spending time with each other.

Thank you for all of your help.

As a final request, I ask that you offer your thoughts and prayers and best wishes for Marty and his family.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

Well in my opinion it would be ok and might be nice for them to meet a friend of his.

Also, sorry for your loss. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[Kortney]

No it wouldn't be unusual, and yes it would be appropriate.

After the service there is usually a period of time where people give their condolences to the family. Do it then.

Of course though, use common sense.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss too.

 

[Thunderhorse31]

I would think the family would be glad to hear that their son/brother/nephew/etc. touched someone else's life in a meaningful way. I don't see how it's weird at all.

 

[Mukil]

My friend passed away some time ago, same boat as you, didn't know the family. Most Funerals have a "get-together (for lack of a better word)" in some hall or something similar. If you approaching them there would be the best (that's where I spoke to the family). During the funeral they were too emotional.
I also visited thier house with some friends, and even though they didn't know me, they were really pleased to have his close friends there.

 

[PureChaos]

do it, they would probably appreciate it. i know i would if i lost my son. though it is a bit unusual that you say you were close for about 4 years but never met his parents. either way, a few kind words can make a big difference

 

[Roxas1359]

No it wouldn't be odd to do so and would be appropriate. Even if you never met his family you were still very close to him and you are all there to remember him. I'm sorry to hear about your loss and hope that you get better soon.

 

[Furious Styles]

That would be more than appropriate. They'd probably appreciate the gesture.

 

[thevillageidiot13]

All right. I appreciate all of your input. I'm not sure how to close a topic, but I'm satisfied that my questions have been fully-answered.

Just to clarify, this friend of mine was a high school teacher, but we kept in touch even after I finished my classes with him, and after my graduation, we agreed to continue hanging out and spending time with each other.

Thank you for all of your help.

As a final request, I ask that you offer your thoughts and prayers and best wishes for Marty and his family.

 

[Roxas1359]

All right. I appreciate all of your input. I'm not sure how to close a topic, but I'm satisfied that my questions have been fully-answered.

Just to clarify, this friend of mine was a high school teacher, but we kept in touch even after I finished my classes with him, and after my graduation, we agreed to continue hanging out and spending time with each other.

Thank you for all of your help.

As a final request, I ask that you offer your thoughts and prayers and best wishes for my good friend and his family.

You can PM a Mod and ask to close it. Just tell them that your question has been answered and you want the thread to be locked.