Gamer Girlfriend?

[Mr.Pandah]

Heh, I've got 90 hours on Fallout New Vegas as well!
Anyway, yes, I would like to be able to play video games with my significant other. (I'm a girl, so in my case it would be a boyfriend). Unfortunately, I'm not a big fan of FPSs. I like RPGs and the like so if there isn't an interesting story, I tend to get bored. The down side to those games is you usually can't play with someone else, so we'd probably have to fight over the controller.
For now, though, I don't have a boyfriend so I've been teaching a non-gamer friend of mine the wonderful worlds of Baldur's Gate and Red Dead Redemption. Yes I know Red Dead Redemption is technically a shooter, but Marston is awesome! And so is autolock. I know, I'm lame

*Jumps in on single gamer girl on the forums* YESSS THANK GOD.

Just fuckin' with you.

I got up to Mexico in Red Dead and couldn't be bothered to play it anymore, bored me to tears after that (prior to that, I thought it was amazing by the way.) What part are you up to?

Lol yeah, Mexico was horrible. It didn't help that I wanted to murder everyone I came across, but couldn't because it would cause me to fail the mission... After Mexico it gets wonderful again, though!! I actually beat it, but reloaded so I could go back and get 100% completion. I would highly recommend finishing it. Just turn off the autosave and go on a few killing sprees in order to get through Mexico cause it really is worth it. And Blackwater, the main town in the next section of the map, is cool. Oh, and the DLC Undead Nightmare is fantastic. It lets you kill some of the people in Mexico that were on my hit list, so it was very satisfying!

...Really? You're really going to tell me this? Ugh. 100% too? Jesus -_- I just got sick and tired of the whole "I'm John Marston, I've done bad things in my past, herp derp." rides between all the missions that you have to listen to. I actually got a hands on at Comic Con before it was released (the Undead DLC) and it was a blast to play, but I just can't convince myself to start playing again. You may have convinced me though. Maybe. Maybe. haha

 

[_Cake_]

I would try giving your girlfriend Fallout 3 first. The compass is a little more precise but even if she doesn't get it you don't really need to stick to a path or you die. It doesn't have crafting/breaking down ammo, cooking, different bullet types, weapons don't have DPS and DAM, there aren't items from hardcore mode to confuses her. I just think it's a better first step. If I could play them all over again for the first time I would want to play Fallout 3 before new vegas.

My dad does that sorta thing too. No matter how many times he tries he can't figure out how to use the camera, especially not while moving. He always ends up just directly up at the sky or at the ground. Oh well at least he tries n_n

 

[Mr.Pandah]

I would try giving your girlfriend Fallout 3 first. The compass is a little more precise but even if she doesn't get it you don't really need to stick to a path or you die. It doesn't have crafting/breaking down ammo, cooking, different bullet types, weapons don't have DPS and DAM, there aren't items from hardcore mode to confuses her. I just think it's a better first step. If I could play them all over again for the first time I would want to play Fallout 3 before new vegas.

My dad does that sorta thing too. No matter how many times he tries he can't figure out how to use the camera, especially not while moving. He always ends up just directly up at the sky or at the ground. Oh well at least he tries n_n

To quote you on your last part, my father is the exact same way. He attempted to play Resident Evil 4. He actually did fairly well managing the camera and what not...until a zombie got to close then he freaked out and started shooting all over the place. Pretty hysterical stuff. That was the last game he played. I wish he still tried.

 

[Veldaroth]

...Really? You're really going to tell me this? Ugh. 100% too? Jesus -_- I just got sick and tired of the whole "I'm John Marston, I've done bad things in my past, herp derp." rides between all the missions that you have to listen to. I actually got a hands on at Comic Con before it was released (the Undead DLC) and it was a blast to play, but I just can't convince myself to start playing again. You may have convinced me though. Maybe. Maybe. haha

Maybe just play Undead Nightmare then? That breaks up all the riding around with zombie attacks, so... Then again, Tall Trees in the next section has random horrible bear attacks! Remember, they travel in packs!
I actually kinda liked the riding around, partly because of the scenery... I did grow up playing Ocarina of Time and always looked forward to getting Epona, though, so maybe that's just me.

 

[DarkxReaper56]

Before we started dating she played RPGs and Adventure games (ex Jak & Daxter, Dark Alliance, and DA:O). Now, slowly but surely I'm teaching her the way of the Shooter. I may even corrupt her with WoW.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

...Really? You're really going to tell me this? Ugh. 100% too? Jesus -_- I just got sick and tired of the whole "I'm John Marston, I've done bad things in my past, herp derp." rides between all the missions that you have to listen to. I actually got a hands on at Comic Con before it was released (the Undead DLC) and it was a blast to play, but I just can't convince myself to start playing again. You may have convinced me though. Maybe. Maybe. haha

Maybe just play Undead Nightmare then? That breaks up all the riding around with zombie attacks, so... Then again, Tall Trees in the next section has random horrible bear attacks! Remember, they travel in packs!
I actually kinda liked the riding around, partly because of the scenery... I did grow up playing Ocarina of Time and always looked forward to getting Epona, though, so maybe that's just me.

Kickass, a OoT girl too.

Bear attacks eh? Blargh, you're making it hard for me to not pick this up again. I suppose if I just power through the story missions I could make it an enjoyable experience again. It suffers from the same problem most Sandbox games give me. Too much freedom. Mafia II was so focused for a "sandbox" game that I was able to actually finish it. I just wish it was more like that. Like, give me a sense of urgency for the missions.

Trust me, riding around on Epona was one of the many highlights of my OoT experience too. I was actually going to start playing it again. I'm stuck between that, Super Mario RPG: Legend of the Seven Stars or Okami. Not sure what to pick.

 

[Royta]

I was in a decently serious relationship with a womangamer that was just as hardcore as me. It started nice and we had some romantic days and it went well. We talked, helped eachother out etc.
But slowly everything became multiplayer (no not that way). We'd plug in a co-op game and go at it and rarely talk seriously to the point I didn't even hear that her mother died because she didn't tell me. Yeah she looked distressed but when I asked she wouldn't tell me and just said she wanted to 'play some games' to distract her. Few weeks later we broke up and she suddenly told me 'oh yeah btw...'.

So for me, it doesn't work. Not just because of that experience but also because gaming is my escape. I don't want to (per example) be down/angry and log into WoW/ PSN to escape from everything only to find my girlfriend messaging me ingame to call her.
Sure she can game, just not that hardcore because i really need it as a private escape. And it's something she should respect as would I for her hobbies or escapees (is that a word?).

You need something to get of eachothers back every now and then. You don't see your dad constantly asking your mom "what's ya reading.." or my mom watching every tv-show your dad watched (just examples). Each partner needs his own escape hobbie to give some space to the other.

I suck at explaining I think, because rereading the above gave me headaches. Oh well. It will do.

Bottom line: Give me a girlfriend who respects my hobbie and doesn't mind that I do it. Sure she can join in if she wants, just not as hardcore. Interested is the word I think.

 

[Bigsmith]

My girlfriend steals my PC to play Team Fortress 2 and Left 4 Dead 2... the jerk.

I would have just said "this" but in fear of submitting a low content post...

My girl friend is also better at me then the above mentioned games.

 

[tombman888]

My girlfriend likes games, she plays games like Kingdom Hearts And Spyro, and she likes to watch games of L4D/2 and TF2, and she likes Garry's mod vids too.

 

[Humiliated Grape]

I suppose if gaming is important to you then your significant other should have some interest in it. Then again relationships are mostly about comprise.

I kind of grew up with my girlfriend and she introduced me to games I wouldn't play. Now she's studying video games design.

 

[kahlzun]

I'm working on mine, but its a slow process.

Getting them to give co-op help (Earth Defence Force, L4D) and making a big deal about how you couldn't do it without their help certainly has an impact...

 

[AgDr_ODST]

Im not concerned with weather or not a prospective girlfriend is a gamer....If she is and she wants to watch me play, talk about them, or play with me thats great...fantastic even! But if she's not and she's willing to accept it/put up with it/tolerate it and like me for me including my playing and not try talk me out of it, or take/break my games or console she's still a keeper.

 

[AnnaIME]

Except if they're better than me at what I do....

That's it, right there. Having a gamer girlfriend is really neat until she beats you. I have yet to meet a male who is totally OK with me being better than him. My husband and I haven't even played together once since that "Company of Heroes" LAN incident...

My stepbrother, three years older, had a very special strategy when we were kids. He would brag and tell me how much better he was, and that I would never, ever beat his highscores. Then I beat his highscores, and he somehow refused to acknowledge it. He still told me how much better he was, and that I would never beat him. Then he started telling stories to other people that he had taught me to play, and said I was OK for a little girl. To this day my father talks about how my stepbrother helped me. Little girls can't learn to play games on their own, can they?

 

[userwhoquitthesite]

I have a friend who beat Crackdown without ever knowing he could lock-on.

Mine is actually really intuitive, she picks it up as fast as most people who regularly play videogames, I'm happy I have her even if she does plays RTSs.

You can lock on in crackdown? dammit that would've made the game a helluva lot easier... Then again my insistence on spin-kicking the bosses to death probably made things worse too. Taste bootheel, criminal scum! What a bad game that was.

I am fantastically unlucky with relationships, but my last real girlfriend thought videogames were stupid wastes of time. Then proceeded to get sucked into Red Dead Redemption for SIX HOURS. Interestingly, she broke up with me two days later, and added me on xbox live. I may have created a monster

 

[Direwolf750]

I've tried to get my girlfriend interested in gaming, and she seems to have somewhat taken to portal...she's very enthusiastic, but somewhat painful to watch, but she can be trained...

yes, I think it does matter. Your significant other should at least have a somewhat basic understanding of your hobbies, or they won't understand what you are talking about, which takes out a big part of communication.

 

[Sharky200]

I'm more of a PC gamer now. My brother usually has the 360.
I'm one of the Gamer Girlfriends you are talking about. I woudl play more if I had the time.
Team Fortress 2, Every Zelda game, of course Super Smash Brothers Brawl, and Elder Scrolls.
We have some differences in the games we like but most are the same games so we can talk about them. Or play against each other in multilayer games.

 

[superbatranger]

Although it would be nice, I don't find it to be that necessary. We don't have to share every single hobby and interest, you know?

 

[AndrewOfHell]

Mmm me and my girlfriend mainly play TF2 together, even if she is a pyro noob ^_^

 

[Justank]

I was in a decently serious relationship with a womangamer that was just as hardcore as me. It started nice and we had some romantic days and it went well. We talked, helped eachother out etc.
But slowly everything became multiplayer (no not that way). We'd plug in a co-op game and go at it and rarely talk seriously to the point I didn't even hear that her mother died because she didn't tell me. Yeah she looked distressed but when I asked she wouldn't tell me and just said she wanted to 'play some games' to distract her. Few weeks later we broke up and she suddenly told me 'oh yeah btw...'.

So for me, it doesn't work. Not just because of that experience but also because gaming is my escape. I don't want to (per example) be down/angry and log into WoW/ PSN to escape from everything only to find my girlfriend messaging me ingame to call her.
Sure she can game, just not that hardcore because i really need it as a private escape. And it's something she should respect as would I for her hobbies or escapees (is that a word?).

You need something to get of eachothers back every now and then. You don't see your dad constantly asking your mom "what's ya reading.." or my mom watching every tv-show your dad watched (just examples). Each partner needs his own escape hobbie to give some space to the other.

I suck at explaining I think, because rereading the above gave me headaches. Oh well. It will do.

Bottom line: Give me a girlfriend who respects my hobbie and doesn't mind that I do it. Sure she can join in if she wants, just not as hardcore. Interested is the word I think.

That's not so much a matter of how interested she is in your hobbies, each of you just needed to understand that you don't always have to play together. Everyone needs a little cave time, just have to let them know that's what it is.

 

[Sable Rhapsody]

*shrug* I happen to be a girl who games on multiple platforms (but primarily PC), and also loves board games and tabletop games. I have yet to have my boyfriend tell me he's threatened or anything just because I happen to be just as passionate about the same hobbies

I think it's awesome that we share the same interests.