I think you'd get less arguments on the question "How do you bring up kids?"
Base facts: Men are mutations of women that have greater muscle/bone structure, less hormones and rely on adrenaline far more. They also have a greater affinity for visual stimuli.
Social constructs will push women towards caring roles due to their inherent child-bearing organs, with men going towards strength roles because of their inherent bone/muscle structure.
Generalisations: Men pit their competitive nature against each other in tests of withstanding or dishing out damage, women pit themeselves against each other in terms of acquiring.
Men seek out a sense of self-worth, with their sexual peak coming early; while women seek out their society-worth first, and their self-worth tends to come later.
Both Men and Women are able to do any job; but certain inherents (whether genetic, social or expected) will tilt the balance towards them. Most of these are based on survival, so they're buried a LOT deeper than simple intellect.
Women are attracted to Men that don't resemble them pre-pregnancy, but to similar men during pregnancy (due to the alteration in bodily chemicals). Men are hardwired to seek multiple mates, and so are women. Their bodies alter during pregnancy though to protect the child.
Alpha males have been in control of the world for a long time because they've acquired enough resources to solidify that position. Alpha females get there by emulating Alpha males long enough to be accepted, and then solidify their own powerbase.
Beta males/females can only achieve equality by taking on ownership of the resources stockpiled - whether it be genetic, financial, power or the like.
"Sexism" is one of those battles where the Beta's try to take from the Alpha's in order to become an alpha. Equally most "isms" are Beta trying to attack Alphas, but often it's simply Betas attacking Alpha's holders (also Betas).
Alphas will pick who they feel comfortable with; regardless of gender, creed, colour, or any other circumstances. The "isms" are just fights against what bias has been shown in the past.
Society enforces the biases usually, in order to protect the Alpha resources. And Society consists of all the Alphas and Betas. (Gammas and Deltas are ignored - usually the infirm or criminal tendency)
But most Betas know this, and have formulated plans to hold resources in their own areas. With the use of their skills, they will employ their own powerbase, and seek to become Alphas. And once they are Alphas, they will discriminate against the Betas as much as the old ones.
The sheer scale of the problem is that most "-isms" don't have a neutral side. No-one can fully understand both "being male" and "being female", especially with both sides throwing misinformation in with the snippets of real information there.
We're a mixed up animal that's trying very hard not to be an animal. And I don't believe we'll ever come to a conclusion until we're able to share Truths without the biased communications we have at the moment.
That said, once we've achieved that, we'll no longer be human.