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silasbufu

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I would be offended if she would tell me she has to choose between me or someone else that just came into the picture. Either she likes you and wants to go out with you, or not. You're not a piece of meat.
 

HandsomeJack

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My advice? If she shows interest in someone else, do the same. There are a lot of reasons why.
1) She may be testing your interest in here, if they do it this soon, pass on her.
2) Show confidence, chicks dig confidence. If you look like a simpering pup who's emotions are at her whim, she likely wont stay interested.
3) You might meet someone awesome...always a plus.
4) You look like a hot commodity when you garner interest from other women, hence making you a more coveted romantic interest for her, may pull her to you better.
5) Dont let you happiness depend on just one person. You are more likely to meet the best match for yourself when you are not in "persue" mode. You tend to act different while in that mindset and may not attract someone good for you (they will be interested in the act you put on...and may not like the "settled" you...this is a big reason why so many marriages fail these days).

Whatever you do, keep open with them. Keeping your line in the water isnt something you are doing to hurt or manipulate them, it is something you are doing to ensure whoever you pair yourself with in life is the best of your options...and you should hope the best for them as well.

Ive had a handful of female friends I was interested in, but I can proudly say the first and only woman I have ever dated and been in love with is the same one I am with over 11 years later. Interestingly enough, it wasnt an existing female friend, but someone who I met when a female friend who was interested in me said to me one day "Ive never seen you hit on a girl...why dont you try it."

Best of luck to you. Hope it helps.
 

high_castle

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My answer depends on how old you are. If you're still in high school, don't make such a big deal out of it. Give her time to let her decide. That period of time is tricky, filled with lots of hormones. She might not know how she feels about you.

If you're out of high school...she's probably not interested in you in that way. I'm one of those girls that has quite a few straight male friends. I've learned by now not to even entertain the thought of dating one of them if I want to keep the friendship. But there was a time I gave it a shot...and it was a disaster. It's very possible that your friend likes you, but as nothing more than a friend. And by saying she's interested in someone else is her way of telling you she's not interested in you.

Either way, don't obsess over this girl. Play it cool. If she's dating someone else, you're free to do the same. And if she doesn't return your feelings, at least you've found out now.
 

Oneirius

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This can only be solved with a duel to the death with the other guy. Swords or pistols?
 

G-Dragon

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Chicago Ted said:
No pity for you right now. I'm in the same situation except it's a lot more complicated and shitty for me. I have pretty much accepted it, said fuck it, and remembered why I'd avoided high school relationships for so long, because of the fucking drama.
oh, I'm not in high school, I'm in college