Girl Problems

[StarsintheBlood]

I'm a girl, and I still support the "bros before hos" notion. This girl doesn't seem like she can make up her mind about what she wants, and if she's not certain, she doesn't want either of you enough. No offense, but I'd never risk a close friend over something like this.

I'm sorry, but she doesn't sound worth it. You're young, relationships come and go. Don't lose your brother over this ridiculous drama. If you're genuinely lovesick (which I highly doubt: I'm a teenager and I've felt that that heart-racing infatuation, it rarely lasts and afterwards you feel stupid for getting so worked up over it) talk to your friend about it and work that out.

 

[Odbarc]

Bros before hoes. Bad advice; Aim for a threesome.
I'll enjoy my ban in advance, see you in a week.

 

[rabidmidget]

Don't steal the girl your friend's after, after trying to get them together so long, that's like helping your friend up just so that you can kick him in the balls.

 

[Scabious]

Talk with your friend about it, but realize that he might be a tad... nervy, or awkward about ti, and may say something that he doesn't want to say to keep integrity (or maby to keep your friendship, I don't know the guy).

 

[Dingoman013]

yeah like what hes saying, I've caught myself doing stuff like this before. Trying to get really close to as many girls as I can but not really "going-out" with any of them to I guess get some. This sounds like a lot what she is dong to you two. I stopped a long time ago, but you have no idea if she will even if you confront her and your friend. Just think through all the possible outcomes

 

[Zing]

The girl, basically, wants to be the ***** in the relationship. She wants my friend to take control of her. It's weird, but it makes enough sense.

It's not weird. Mostly all girls want this.

 

[iLazy]

As a member of the female species I have this to say,

GET THE FUCK OUT!

First of all this girl is obviously a horny little child and is using both of you to get what she wants. She is not dating material.

Secondly, bros before hoes!

You're in tenth grade right? You've got years to find a waaay better girl. Trust me on this, you do not want to date freshmen or sophomores. They're either dealing with their hormones or trying to figure out who they are. Your friends however are not something you should EVER take lightly. I suggest forgetting about her, and finding a new girl to crush on.

But if you really want to get with her, talk it out with your friend. It's going to sting like a ***** but it's way better then him finding out you're making moves on the girl he like via someone else.

 

[The Electro Gypsy]

Run away!

 

[unholyownage]

Everyone in this thread that said "Bros before hoes" is wrong. They have never been in this situation and if they had an followed that they are beta as fuck. These kids are just nerds no offense to anyone though I'm sure this will make rage posts ensue.

Be alpha get the girl, friends in high school are worthless. This is your time to bang chicks and go to parties. I'm not saying be her boyfriend, you will learn when you get older you don't need to be an official couple just to get laid.

She is submissive and she wants a man to take her. If he doesn't want to do that then you do it and let him get over it. It is his own fault for not getting it done, Hope this helps because honestly I just got annoyed at the bad responses you got.

 

[drizzt102]

I went to a school dance with a close friend of mine. We're like brothers and we've helped each other a lot. We met in ninth grade and we've carpooled since then. We are now both in tenth grade. There was this girl- she's like a nine out of ten in... "hotness" I guess... and she really likes him. They've flirted and almost gone out around five times, and each time I've had to "set them up" just to see them wimp out. Last night at the dance it was different. They kissed. Yay. Fucking finally all this drama bullshit can be over, right? Nope.

I like her. I have since the second quarter of ninth grade. At the dance we got extremely close. I mean like close enough to french kiss her. The excuse was the music was loud, but really, in all honesty she was close enough to suck my neck and she acted like she wanted to. My friend and the girl "pecked" on the lips for like two seconds. She kept telling me how she wanted to be "frenched" while constantly bumping into me when we weren't dancing. My head hurts from all of this. They aren't even going out after the kiss, and they've given me these bullshit answers about how they don't know what they're going to do.

The girl, basically, wants to be the ***** in the relationship. She wants my friend to take control of her. It's weird, but it makes enough sense. My friend thinks that if she wants it so bad she should kiss him. I've tried to help as much as I can, but it hurts so much now that I like her.


Should I be a wild card and go for her? Should I help my bro? Should I just get the fuck out?
I don't know. Any help you could possibly give me?

Thank you for reading.

NOTE: I didn't actually french her or touch her sexually. She was just really, really close. Our lips hit each others ears when we were talking, because of the music, but besides that nothing big went down. We just stared at each other. Alot.

Dude I sympathize. It a shitty problem to have. The way i see it, you have three options, and only two morally right ones.
1: If it hurts that much, even though you might be a little young, you might be in love. Madness, but i know it can happen, it happened to me. If thats true, you have to go for it. You have no choice. Go for it, but tell your bro right away if you two start dating,and apologize.
2: Just be blunt, to the point, and ask her straight up, which of you she likes. Or smack him in the face and inform him that she wants HIM to take control, and tell him to man the FUCK up and kiss the girl before you do.
3) Just do it, and hope for the best when he finds out (Morally wrong option)
That's my advice. Because what your describing won't go away, those kind of feelings, and its best to deal with them head on.

 

[Inkidu]

I went to a school dance with a close friend of mine. We're like brothers and we've helped each other a lot. We met in ninth grade and we've carpooled since then. We are now both in tenth grade. There was this girl- she's like a nine out of ten in... "hotness" I guess... and she really likes him. They've flirted and almost gone out around five times, and each time I've had to "set them up" just to see them wimp out. Last night at the dance it was different. They kissed. Yay. Fucking finally all this drama bullshit can be over, right? Nope.

I like her. I have since the second quarter of ninth grade. At the dance we got extremely close. I mean like close enough to french kiss her. The excuse was the music was loud, but really, in all honesty she was close enough to suck my neck and she acted like she wanted to. My friend and the girl "pecked" on the lips for like two seconds. She kept telling me how she wanted to be "frenched" while constantly bumping into me when we weren't dancing. My head hurts from all of this. They aren't even going out after the kiss, and they've given me these bullshit answers about how they don't know what they're going to do.

The girl, basically, wants to be the ***** in the relationship. She wants my friend to take control of her. It's weird, but it makes enough sense. My friend thinks that if she wants it so bad she should kiss him. I've tried to help as much as I can, but it hurts so much now that I like her.

Should I be a wild card and go for her? Should I help my bro? Should I just get the fuck out?
I don't know. Any help you could possibly give me?

Thank you for reading.

NOTE: I didn't actually french her or touch her sexually. She was just really, really close. Our lips hit each others ears when we were talking, because of the music, but besides that nothing big went down. We just stared at each other. Alot.

Well, if you really like her you would want her to be happy. Talk to her about who she would like to date more. Yes, if you were wondering, that's what selfless maturity feels like.

 

[LongAndShort]

Give him the ultimatum. Tell him if he doesn't grow some damn balls and take charge, you're going to. But you have to work it with him first. If you wanna start a relationship with her, go for it, but you want to make sure it doesn't ruin your relationship with him in the process.

 

[Woodsey]

She's interested in you (or so you say), you're interested in her, your mate's had 5 chances. Go nuts.

People have done worse things to get puss.

 

[kcjerith]

Let Uncle Jay Z give you a little advice,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk

 

[krazykidd]

I say go for it! Why you may ask? Because , if you guys are such good friends he'll be happy for you , plus she's a 9 . No guy for any reason should ever pass up a 9! Some will say it's bad advice , but , if you and your friend can't laugh at or survive something like this then it's not friends till the end , it's just friends till some woman breaks you up ( happens quite often actually ). Me and my friend used to get into competitions for shit like this , at the end we gave each other props when it was due ( like if i was working on getting a girl and he'd swoop in and go for the kill , figuratively speaking of course ) . All is fair in love and war . If his answer is anything other than " awsome so how was it " theres something wrong.

 

[NinjazInside]

I went to a school dance with a close friend of mine. We're like brothers and we've helped each other a lot. We met in ninth grade and we've carpooled since then. We are now both in tenth grade. There was this girl- she's like a nine out of ten in... "hotness" I guess... and she really likes him. They've flirted and almost gone out around five times, and each time I've had to "set them up" just to see them wimp out. Last night at the dance it was different. They kissed. Yay. Fucking finally all this drama bullshit can be over, right? Nope.

I like her. I have since the second quarter of ninth grade. At the dance we got extremely close. I mean like close enough to french kiss her. The excuse was the music was loud, but really, in all honesty she was close enough to suck my neck and she acted like she wanted to. My friend and the girl "pecked" on the lips for like two seconds. She kept telling me how she wanted to be "frenched" while constantly bumping into me when we weren't dancing. My head hurts from all of this. They aren't even going out after the kiss, and they've given me these bullshit answers about how they don't know what they're going to do.

The girl, basically, wants to be the ***** in the relationship. She wants my friend to take control of her. It's weird, but it makes enough sense. My friend thinks that if she wants it so bad she should kiss him. I've tried to help as much as I can, but it hurts so much now that I like her.

Should I be a wild card and go for her? Should I help my bro? Should I just get the fuck out?
I don't know. Any help you could possibly give me?

Thank you for reading.

NOTE: I didn't actually french her or touch her sexually. She was just really, really close. Our lips hit each others ears when we were talking, because of the music, but besides that nothing big went down. We just stared at each other. Alot.

Well, if you really like her you would want her to be happy. Talk to her about who she would like to date more. Yes, if you were wondering, that's what selfless maturity feels like.

Maturity for the win, just remember if the shit hits the fan, someones gotta pick that shit up.

 

[Flying Dagger]

I thought this was a thread about an inability to breathe underwater. But it wasn't about gills.

 

[2xDouble]

She's clearly interested in you, there's the possibility she's only going with him because you set them up. If your friend continues to hesitate, you are fully justified in making a move on her.

BUT: You should talk to your friend about it first. And for the love of God, be subtle. Tell him that you like her too. Tell him that you're going to make a move if he doesn't, and see how he reacts to that. Let him decide what to do. Do not mention what she wants to him at all. She told you that in confidence, and if she wanted him to do something she should tell him herself.

Just be careful. Two friendships are on the line here, and they will both change no matter what happens.

 

[game-lover]

Get the hell out! Flee! Run! Distance yourself!

I don't know why you spent so much time foolishly trying to set them up if you like her so much but things have gone too far now. Any action can only result in pain. Either for you with your unrequited feelings or for your friend if you were to put the moves on her. Sure, it's lame because he keeps denying feelings but the fact that you know there's denial means that you know he likes her. Plus... emotions are never logical.

Think of this analogy for girly situations:

Girl A spies an outfit in a store that looks good. Thinks she might like it but is indecisive. Is with her friend, Girl B who also sees the shirt. Jump to the next day when the girl finally makes her mind to get the shirt only to find that friend has just bought the fucking thing.

It's a rather shallow example but it's basically the same. There's always gonna be this tiny sense of betrayal.

That being said... if distancing yourself becomes difficult, you'd better let your friend know ASAP. It's gonna sting either way but at least this can be a balm.

 

[smithy_2045]

Tell your friend to go for it, otherwise you will.