Girl Troubles

[mortalsatsuma]

Basically I met this girl a few days ago and we really got on. Things have moved pretty fast and we're already officially "going out." I was really happy as I have never managed to get myself a serious girlfriend up until this point. Basically the problem begins with something she said; "I love you." Sure, a guy probably wants to hear these three little words from his girlfriend at some point but not 3 days after meeting the girl. I'm basically a bit worried that she may be a bit too into the relationship really early on and also that I may just be a rebound as she broke up with her previous boyfriend only 3 months ago.
So if any of you who are more properly versed in the way of women in relationships could give me any advice it would be very much appreciated.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Basically I met this girl a few days ago and we really got on. Things have moved pretty fast and we're already officially "going out." I was really happy as I have never managed to get myself a serious girlfriend up until this point. Basically the problem begins with something she said; "I love you." Sure, a guy probably wants to hear these three little words from his girlfriend at some point but not 3 days after meeting the girl. I'm basically a bit worried that she may be a bit too into the relationship really early on and also that I may just be a rebound as she broke up with her previous boyfriend only 3 months ago.
So if any of you who are more properly versed in the way of women in relationships could give me any advice it would be very much appreciated.

I'd love for a girl to love me that fast.


I am also having problems myself. Before my girlfriend and I started going out, she had laryngitis and strep throat, but did I care? Nooooooo, I'd hang out with her anyways, yesterday something was wrong with me and if I was contagious, she didn't want to hang out with me at all! Friday she said if she didn't come over that night (friday night) she would DEFINITELY stay over Saturday Night, she never did so I had to spend the night alone, it was very depressing.

 

[Fenring]

I'd back off for a bit. Even if you've known her for a while, hearing that would still be a bit weird.

 

[BlindTom]

Just say it back and don't mean it. Everybody does it all the time.

 

[cp.06]

Give it a few days. If she throws around "I love you"s like candy on Halloween, then it's not TOO MUCH of a problem.

However if she starts to cling, get out of there. Being depended on is one of the most painful and depressing experiences in life when things start to go downhill. However incredible she is, if she isn't independent you may have to consider going your seperate ways.

 

[Distorted Stu]

Holy shit, you're me 5 years ago! I was in that exacte same spot lol

Just tell her to take it easy. Who knows you may have a long laster there!

 

[mortalsatsuma]

Ok, I've been talking to her and told her I want to take it slow and she's said that's fine, she's ready when I'm ready. I'm probably just overreacting to the whole thing but thank you so much for the advice so far, been very useful.

 

[Mr Companion]

Ok, I've been talking to her and told her I want to take it slow and she's said that's fine, she's ready when I'm ready. I'm probably just overreacting to the whole thing but thank you so much for the advice so far, been very useful.

I think the fact that within three days she expressed love for you probably means she really like you that much. Why not repay in kind and show her compassion? Pushing her away is self destructive. Embrace happiness while it lasts.

 

[Crazy_Dude]

I honestly dont see the big deal about the "I love you" line. If either of the partners says it just say it back even if you arent sure yet.

That would avoid problems like this.

 

[amoamaremetallum]

and also that I may just be a rebound as she broke up with her previous boyfriend only 3 months ago.

Most of what's said is pretty good advice, I'd just say that this sentence is something you should never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever EVER have to worry about. Most people i know are over their exes in a a couple weeks if it's short term, maybe one month if it was a long relationship. If they were married or engaged then maybe it would be different, but still. Three months will almost never be a problem if it was simply a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

 

[Rough Sausage]

Basically I met this girl a few days ago and we really got on. Things have moved pretty fast and we're already officially "going out." I was really happy as I have never managed to get myself a serious girlfriend up until this point. Basically the problem begins with something she said; "I love you." Sure, a guy probably wants to hear these three little words from his girlfriend at some point but not 3 days after meeting the girl. I'm basically a bit worried that she may be a bit too into the relationship really early on and also that I may just be a rebound as she broke up with her previous boyfriend only 3 months ago.
So if any of you who are more properly versed in the way of women in relationships could give me any advice it would be very much appreciated.

I had the exact same problem dude, except she'd broken up with her boyfriend a bit less than 3 months prior to meeting me. I was all excited as you were, being new to the whole having-a-girlfriend scene. I didn't even get a real reason why she wanted to break it off, I was fairly distraught. My advice is, do not rush anything. I regret doing almost everything I did with that girl, so make sure the relationship continues at a pace you're comfortable with; don't pander to her needs because you don't want it to end so abruptly, because otherwise you'll just end up wishing you hadn't.

 

[icame]

Basically I met this girl a few days ago and we really got on. Things have moved pretty fast and we're already officially "going out." I was really happy as I have never managed to get myself a serious girlfriend up until this point. Basically the problem begins with something she said; "I love you." Sure, a guy probably wants to hear these three little words from his girlfriend at some point but not 3 days after meeting the girl. I'm basically a bit worried that she may be a bit too into the relationship really early on and also that I may just be a rebound as she broke up with her previous boyfriend only 3 months ago.
So if any of you who are more properly versed in the way of women in relationships could give me any advice it would be very much appreciated.

Never been in this situation, so all I can say is just try to take it slower and if warning lights start to go off if she keeps wanting to escalate things to fast, break it off.

 

[lemiel14n3]

Just say it back and don't mean it. Everybody does it all the time.

Don't do that, seriously worst gorram thing you could do in this situation. If you're worried that she's moving too fast, you shouldn't try and match her pace.

I know this might be awkward, but talk to her. Let her know what your concerns are and what you're ready for. It may be hard to do now, but it will save you a lot of trouble in the future.

 

[Julianking93]

snippy

If this is something seriously concerning you, then you need to talk this out with her rather than just worrying about it or simply assuming why she said it.
That is a serious issue which means one of a few things; one being that she is way into the relationship too quickly, two is that she doesn't know what love really is and is just excited about the relationship and thirdly, she sees it as a rebound and thus the feelings are amplified in that way.
However, it could very well have been something that just sorta slipped. Your best bet would be to simply talk to her about it and get it over with. If she turns out to be a nutter, then leave and be on with your life.