Alrighty, so this may require a bit of reading but I'm gonna try to explain my situation as best as possible. Basically I'm starting college in August. Simple enough. Now my college is private and out of state, which leads it to be pretty expensive (around $30k a year). Additionally I was accepted with a conditional acceptance which basically means that I need to keep above a certain GPA for the first two semesters and I have to speak with an academic advisor I think 4 times a semester. This is because my performance in high school was...less than stellar...I'll just leave it at that, but my regional representative really helped me get in and the rest of that is pretty inconsequential. Basically my point is that it'll be a lot of work to keep up with and by now you probably know where this is going.
I am also planning on joining the soccer team of my school so that'll take up a bunch of weekends and time during the week for practices and games. Now my girlfriend is going to college about half an hour away from me, with Amtrak running through both town. Despite this though, I would likely have to make a full weekend out of visiting her, and during the soccer season I'd rarely get to see her due to practices and games which occur on the weekends.
Now I know that I'll probably get a few comments telling me that the escapist isn't where I should be going for advice since I virtually always get those comments whenever I post advice for this kind of thing lol. So please try to refrain from those comments. Back to my story, basically I am thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend before we head off to college just because I don't want myself to feel stressed about not seeing her and trying to keep up with the work, and I don't want her to feel limited by a boyfriend she can never see because I honestly care for her and I don't think she deserves that.
Adding onto these thoughts, I recently went to orientation and found out that tuition prices are expected to go up in the next four years so we estimated that would bring my total cost up by about $12k for all four years. So I talked with my parents and they basically said that I really need to try my ass off because not only do I need to worry about be conditionally accepted, but now I should also try for department grants to help lower the tuition because some of the debt I'll end up with will be put on me.
In short, do you think it would be healthy to stay in a relationship given all of what I just said above?
I am also planning on joining the soccer team of my school so that'll take up a bunch of weekends and time during the week for practices and games. Now my girlfriend is going to college about half an hour away from me, with Amtrak running through both town. Despite this though, I would likely have to make a full weekend out of visiting her, and during the soccer season I'd rarely get to see her due to practices and games which occur on the weekends.
Now I know that I'll probably get a few comments telling me that the escapist isn't where I should be going for advice since I virtually always get those comments whenever I post advice for this kind of thing lol. So please try to refrain from those comments. Back to my story, basically I am thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend before we head off to college just because I don't want myself to feel stressed about not seeing her and trying to keep up with the work, and I don't want her to feel limited by a boyfriend she can never see because I honestly care for her and I don't think she deserves that.
Adding onto these thoughts, I recently went to orientation and found out that tuition prices are expected to go up in the next four years so we estimated that would bring my total cost up by about $12k for all four years. So I talked with my parents and they basically said that I really need to try my ass off because not only do I need to worry about be conditionally accepted, but now I should also try for department grants to help lower the tuition because some of the debt I'll end up with will be put on me.
In short, do you think it would be healthy to stay in a relationship given all of what I just said above?
Many of us have longer comutes to and from work! (I used to WALK an hour each way to see a girlfreind!). Yes you will have less time together but as long as it's quality time I'm reasonably sure it'll work out if you both want it to. Odds are one of you will have a car sooner or later and that half hour away turns to next to nothing rather quickly.