The thing to remember is, that no matter what you think will happen, whatever happens when you die will not change. The best thing to do is accept it, and try to be happy, 'cause how you feel won't change it.EcoEclipse said:The grimmest realization I will ever have--and continue to have inconsistently--is the realization that someday I will die, and I don't know what will happen. It's absolutely harrowing and disquieting. Particularly the possibility of nonexistence.
When I tell you that I would rather burn in hell for eternity than stop existing, I mean it. To me, anything is better than nonexistence.
Yeah I'm 21, same situation in terms of a significant other, and in terms of shyness. I seem to only be able to make friends on the internet and noone in terms of physical friends/relationships.ToTaL LoLiGe said:My grim realisation ws that my lack of confidence in social situations could lead to me becoming an unemployed 40 year old virgin. Now to bore you with the details, I'm 16 I've never had a girlfriend and I'm shy as shit. I can't talk to strangers, I know what I want to say but I just choke and can't get my words out.
EDIT: I've decided to add a less depressing realisation. I'm a tea drinker so I almost die inside when I find out I've run out of tea bags or sugar(I can go without sugar I just prefer it) I have thrown many fits of rage because of this.
I feel you on that situation buddy. We do the same thing every week and while it's fun I would like to do something else.Matthew94 said:There are so many downward spirals and it's draining me to avoid them all.
One example is
Not great socially > annoyed about this > shy away from new social situations > makes me even worse as them and makes me feel bad > further shy away etc
I'm trying to break this and my job helps as it forces me to talk to people but I have years of socializing to catch up with compared to everyone else. Having friends that never go out unless you suggest it too doesn't help.
Kind of off topic, but I was in your situation a while back. Spent a year firing off applications at the rate of once a day (no joke... I applied for over 300 jobs that year). And what worked for me, was to pretty much give up on working in the UK. I took a CELTA course (teaching English as a foreign language). After the month long course, I sent my application to a number of schools. I had a job two weeks later.Daystar Clarion said:I'm 24 years old and I've never had a job.
This isn't from lack of trying, I'm a law & criminology graduate, finished just under 2 years ago and have been looking for a job ever since.
I even volunteered at my local museum to try and get some relevant experience with things such as admin, retail etc, and I still can't get a job. I thought I had a sure thing a few weeks back, the interview went great. A week later, I get a rejection email telling me that, while I did great in the interview, I didn't have enough relevant experience. Everything I have done is in my CV, if I didn't have enough experience then why fucking invite me for an interview?
I'm 24 years old and I've never had a job.
Damn that sucks.
mabye your suffereing from depression....SwimmingRock said:My good man, on my better days I've had much the same notion. I've even preached to friends of the beauty merely of living to see another day, enjoying the things with no price, but much value (like the morning-song of birds) and the value of good health, so frequently taken for granted. Lately, however, I am not of a positive disposition. Partially for reasons unclear even to myself. I can't really put it into words effectively, but my response to your post is essentially "yep" and "good luck". I would hug you over the internet if such a thing were possible/allowed.tobi the good boy said:-Snippage-
I sort of find the absurdity of the universe to be a beautiful thing. Intrinsically life and what we do doesn't have meaning, but; our completely unnatural ability to find conviction, passion and ultimately, a personal will to continue, just makes me realise how special we are in the universe. We may not leave a mark, nothing may ever leave a mark in this magnificent expanse of cosmic wonders, but in our brief time on this plane; we could very well be experiencing the grandest gift to ever crawl forth from the hydrogen explosion at the beginning of time, Life.
Live because life is fun. It's got thrills! Action! Drama! Experience it all, bro, live it up!SwimmingRock said:Don't do this shit to me, man. I've been really bothered lately. After getting over my fear of death, I'm finding it hard to have a single reason to keep living. It just seems, in every possible way, the least efficient option. Look, the booze isn't helping, but I'm not in a good way and the crushing realization of my own futility makes every morning a struggle to muster the will to rise.Alipeewee said:That moment when you realise that whatever you do in your life, in a few billion years it's all just going to be dust and ash, and thus nothing you ever do will ever be worth doing.
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OT: Fucking hell, I'm 25 and already hate my life. I've got so many more years of misery to go. What the fuck did I sign on for? Is there a refund policy on life? Why did I have so much to drink? Why is my spelling still immaculate under the influence of alcohol?
Aside from that fruitless avenue of inquiry, a grim realization came when I realized I was as afraid of success as of failure. Complacency, ennui, motionless terror seems to be the only thing I can deal with and that's both disgusting and horrifying. Christ, what am I doing? No more booze. No talking. Sorry if this is depressing.
Alipeewee said:That moment when you realise that whatever you do in your life, in a few billion years it's all just going to be dust and ash, and thus nothing you ever do will ever be worth doing.
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There's a flip side to that though, all the screw ups and embarrassing things you've done won't matter either. No one will care that you crashed your dads car or forgot your wedding anniversary when the sun implodes.Alipeewee said:That moment when you realise that whatever you do in your life, in a few billion years it's all just going to be dust and ash, and thus nothing you ever do will ever be worth doing.
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What a coincidence. That is actually occurring for me right... now...Drenaje1 said:There are none greater than "If I don't do my work NOW, I'm actually going to be fucked."
It's quite unfair, really. My schedule is so packed full of leisure time, it's getting harder and harder to squeeze in time for doing school work.
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