26 here.
You sound like me 2 years ago.
Seriously, OP... Listen to me.
My job isn't going to get much better.
Who are we to blame for this? I'm not saying it's your fault for being in this situation, but it totally is. You are the driving force of your actions. Reach out to a job help place, they're everywhere in Canada+US. Fix up your resume. Realized your current position isn't doing it for you? You still have the drive to change it. There are schools, collages... I'm a year older than you, and I've returned to collage. You can do it. Reach out to family and friends and they can help you. Maybe your boss too. It's a big change, but I'm sure you can handle things better than me.
You wanna keep working in your industry? Then keep sending them out, and don't be discouraged. It's a second job. 2hrs a day. Get on that shit.
You're supposed to worry about things like owning a house!
Where do you want to be in life? That's what you should be worrying about. Me? I want to be comfortable. I want a nice condo, I wanna live alone, and I want a proper wage and no loans in a different province. That's my life goal, what's yours?
Notice how I didn't say anything about any ankle-biters... Or getting my own house. I didn't say anything about getting rich... These are my goals. Yours can be anything. Yours can be "to just be comfortable" too.
On the topic of "Get a girlfriend." If you look for them, you're doing it wrong. Live, and be happy. Spend time with people you trust, and when someone sees your true colors, they will find it exotic. Out of the blue, this woman is asking about what games you play, saying that she doesn't like kids, and that your collection of hardcore BDSM Porn is pretty fuckin' sweet. Some of that may be made up, but you get the point. Every girl I've hooked up has been a surprise, and they didn't run away when I fired up X-com while wearing a collar clearly not designed to be wore in public.
You should socialize more! You should go out and do things!
Do you know how to get a job in Nova Scotia? How 70% of people get jobs? Do you know what a totally mindless skill is? A skill that's impossible to fuck up?
Being social.
If you look at your calender, and see nothing but work hours on it, you really do need to go out. Movies? Fuck them. Concerts? Who gives a fuck. There are places for nerdy people too. A friend of mine hates going out. Would just want to sit at home and play MP games and look at his collection of board games. I FORCED that ************ to go out and play Eclipse Phase with a group of people. It's not my cuppa tea, but I occasionally encourage him to go to places like the boardroom. He's enjoying our nights out, and looks to be quite happy about it.
This perpetual cycle of work/home/work/home is depressing as fuck, and it does nothing but drag you down to the dark depths of depression-land. And if you're a Nintendo-nerd... Depression-Land is like Metroid's Phaaze. That shit sucks.
You shouldn't play video games so much. You should do more adult things, like X!
This person telling you this isn't trying to tell you how to live your life, or dump your interests. They want to see you out more. They want to socialize with you. They want to see your smile, and want you to be a part of their lives, while they're a part of your life.
I won't tell anyone to stop playing a game. Because this is a really cool medium.
But you can kick that 12yo's ass in counter-strike another time. Go with this person. Spend time with them. And for fuck sakes you crayon-eating ************, smile more. Bet you never heard that term before, and reading it made you giggle a bit. Humans are hard-wired to respond positively to a smile. Do you know why I'm telling you this?
Paragon Fury said:
[...]Yeah. Its not like I didn't TRY.[...]
Joy.
BAM!!! ************!!
I'm no psychology major, but that's a lack of fuckin' confidence.
It's not that you don't like music, or that TV is just fucking shit... (It really is.) Your primary "unattractive flaw" is derived from a lack of confidence. Why? Because it's work. You meet a cute girl, and she's cute, and nice, but you need to literally hold her hand and coax her out of her shell to move her player character, and just doesn't try because she'll just fuck it up when the first bad guy appears on screen. That's not sexy. That's just awful. Yeah, there's someone out there that will deem that to be worth their time. But there are very few of those people. Aside, why wait, when you can resolve this issue yourself.
So, even though I don't want to tell you how to live your life, I'm going to do this. Consider it a doctor's prescription. I'm totally licenced. See? Not fake at all. [http://www.alanaragonblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/fake-diploma-e1290115516150.png] You wanna change your life for the better, or do you want to remain in a depressed slump? I can't make you change, only you can get a better job. Only you can decide to socialize and modify your body's chemistry.
Siddown, shaddap, and do this. Did you just ask, "Why?" to your monitor? Read these, and THEN write a response asking why. Quote me though, so I know.
Drink pop? Not anymore. Cut down to a maximum of 500ml a week. That's one of those teeny bottles, because you need to treat yourself. If you drink a lot of pop and juice, water is your only replacement. Juice, you can treat yourself a lot more to, but soda-pop is pure fucking poison.
Same goes with alcohol/smoking. If you drink a lot of that, then I can no longer help you. You need a professional. One that's not me.
Especially if you drink cigarettes. Ew.
Look online for something interesting to eat. Get the ingredients, and cook it yourself. This goes back to our prehistoric human roots. Cooking interesting meals, and actually thinking about healthy foods and interesting snacks.
Feel like you can do a few of those interesting dishes...? Now invite a friend or two over. Note I said "Friend" and not "Cute girl." Because we're not looking for girlfriends. We're looking to instill a sense of community. You can totally cheat on this too, tell the bastards to bring a slab of meat, and just bring out the BBQ.
And then you can totally turn that into a LAN party/game-night.
Get a gym membership, and go a minimum of 3 times a week, for 2 hours. No idea what the fuck your doing? Talk to people, or look online for something to improve about your body. For me? My cardio and overall strength blows. I'm working on it with the treadmill, bike, and free-weights.
Bookmark a local, trusted news site. And actually visit it. Every time you check the Escapist, go to CBC News or whatever you think is alright. Something local, worldwide is good too. You'll feel smarter when someone asks "You know what the Trailer Park Boys are doing about the cuts?" and you don't respond with "Someone got cut on the set?" (That was a local thing. You get what I mean, right?)
This is where it gets harder. But you can do this.
You have a few questions to ask yourself.
"Do I want to stay in this job?"
"Do I want to work in my industry?"
"What industry is more appealing than this one? Can I get support to achieve it?"
"What is my end goal in life?"
For me, I answered those questions. It was "Fuck no." - "I could never be where I want, so no." - "[redacted]" - "To be comfortable."
Spend a minimum of an hour every day looking for a work. Look up advice, but be wary. There's a fuckload of bad advice online. Consider a local program to help you get work. Talk to people in these places like job junction. It's stupid and corny sometimes, but these people are here to help. You're getting paid $12/hr? That's not a lot. That sounds like a legally mandated min.wage. That's fucked because you can do better, and I know damn well you can. Deep down, I know you can.
If you got this far, and feel like "Yeah, I can do it." Go in your bathroom with a dry-erase marker, and write on your mirror that "InflatableBeerTent knows you're awesome." and point an arrow to the middle so when you look up after spitting out the shit from your toothpaste, your head lands right where that arrow's pointing. Beware, it's easy to regress. But that little 2-3 times a day reminder might help.
Nobody said bein' human was easy.